Family & Relationships - 20 September 2007

2007-09-20 16:06:47 · 23 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Been together since they were 12, been married 26 years, happiest couple anyone has ever seen, and I really mean that. I accidentally stumbled upon a website my dad was loggged into when I borrowed his computer one day. Apparently he is into things sexually (being dominated) that my mom won't hear of. Yes, they have sex often, unfortunatly I know this... but he is into this other stuff that he has to have fulfilled. I saw the emails between him and some local women and am about to loose it. I thought he was the perfect man, I vowed to marry someone just like my dad, I have more respect for him than anyone(or atleast I did). He's the perfect dad, husband, friend, and boss, all american dad. I can't believe this. I can't tell my mom cause literally she will die, and I know she will leave him (devout Christians.. yeah I know funny huh??) What do I do. I know for a fact my dad loves her more than anything and her him and I know its just sex. But its wrong!!! What should I do? Please HELP!!

2007-09-20 16:06:03 · 57 answers · asked by smith.isabella 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I always notice a man's eyes first. They are, after all, the windows to a person's soul. =)

2007-09-20 16:04:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I would have picked sister #2 as my Maid of Honor because we were close but since i have two sisters, I chose a close friend. I wasnt planning to have sister #1 in the wedding because we were not getting along. But eventually I decided to have her in the wedding as a BM. I could not choose her as a MOH because she is not supportive of me at all. Tonight she tells me that she was shocked that i didnt choose sister #2 as the MOH since she was expecting that. I told her that I didnt want to make either of them feel bad by choosing one over the other, so I chose a friend. Also, my friend lives 5 min away while my sisters both live hours away and she has been supportive of my relationship with my fiance from the get go while sister #1 has not. sister #1 is selfish, harbors anger that my wedding day will be while she's 9 mos pregnant, and complains about everything. I am just so sad/mad. This is MY DAY! I am trying my best to include sister #1 but she's a debbie downer!

2007-09-20 16:02:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My b/f and I have only officially been dating for a couple of months. Before we started dating we were just hanging out b/c he had an ex girlfriend issue where she was still living with him. She’s moved out now, and he hasn’t seen or spoken to her since, and I know that as a fact. (the ex is not the problem). All together we’ve only really been dating for a couple months, but we’ve been actually hanging out for about 7.

Since we first started hanging out, before we started dating, I really liked my b/f. I’ve had very strong feelings for him, and I feel like he’s the one I’m meant to be with. Of course though, at the time we met, we were at different mindsets, and we still are. He’s in the mindset where we’ve just started dating and wants to see where things so. I, on the others hand, have fallen in love with him and I really see a future with him. We were talking tonight on the phone, and he sensed that something was bothering me. I feel like and idiot for saying this to him now. I’ve been trying to figure out for a while now if he loves me or not, and I told him that since he hasn’t been open about it. He almost instantly said “if that’s what you’re looking for in a relationship right now, maybe we should stop seeing each other”. I smoothed it over, b/c it didn’t come out the way I meant it, but now he thinks I’m just in a relationship b/c I’m a needy person who needs reassurance about being loved and stuff (which I am not).

After I mentioned that, he went on to say that after the past relationships that he’s been through, he said it takes years to really realize if you really love someone. He went on to say that he wants to go with the flow and see where our relationship goes.

I’m just really confused about him for several reasons. 1.) Before we were actually dating he told me that he really liked me. 2.) He’s told me that he really cares about me. 3.) We spend time together all the time, and we talk on the phone everyday. He calls me sweetie and hunny. 4.) I’ve met some of his family already. And 5.) He’s already talking about what we’re going to do for my birthday which is in December, and also about Christmas which means he’s thinking ahead.

He’s had a bad history of girlfriends cheating on him or using him. He’s said that he’s never really had a good relationship with a girl. I told him that I really cared about him, and that I would never hurt and that if we ever had any problems I would want to work them out and that I would never want to ruin anything with him. I then said that I would never hurt him, and he responded by saying that it was inevitable.

I’m so confused!!! Why does he seem so cautious with being with me, but then treats me as if he really cares about me and makes and effort to spend time and talk with me, and introduce me to his family. I don’t want to lose him, but I feel like he’s afraid that I’m going to hurt him and he’s afraid of how much he likes me. Help me out please!!!

2007-09-20 16:02:02 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So, we decided to get married next year. The problem is, our budget only allows 50 ppl, so we wanted to keep it to just family and few close friends. Problem is, now more ppl are finding out about our wedding and want to go. I was wondering if you were someone who was not orginally invited would you find it offending if you were asked to pay for your meal ($25)? How do you go about asking that? Keep in mind, it's not everyone, just those that want to go that weren't orginally invited. We want them there, we just can't afford it.... Thanks to all the responses!!

2007-09-20 16:01:23 · 10 answers · asked by Cassy B 2 in Weddings

I am 40, housewife, 2 kinds,
Six months ago, He started to coming home late... from 8pm, then 10pm then 12pm... sometime saturday he not coming home. I found he send sms message to more then one girl. all about " I love you, I miss you so much..." , everytime I asking him about those message, at first he just keep quiet... Now his answer :" can you just closed one eye..."
This is so painfiul....
Please someone help me...what can I do now...

2007-09-20 16:00:37 · 26 answers · asked by marylin 2 in Marriage & Divorce

What makes a guy open up to a girl? Lets say you've been friends with a girl for a while and she has let you know she cares about you and that she's there for you when you need her and if you need to talk. One day when you are going through a hard time you open up completely, you let everything go, you tell her about your fears and how you are feeling, about your worries.

So my question is what I already said, what makes a guy open up to a girl? And why is it that one day you are very warm and the next you are very distand and a little cold?

Thanks!

2007-09-20 15:59:34 · 14 answers · asked by Bella 3 in Singles & Dating

I'm not talkin abt a fob guy, but I neither the preppy type either. Is it that white girls click better with white guys.

I always sense that white girls feel akward around brown guys.

2007-09-20 15:57:50 · 20 answers · asked by Nick 1 in Singles & Dating

I don't want to have sex before marriage and I don't want to get near her vagina... one thing will lead to another and...you know.. So I need help to find ways to pleasure her without the two things I listed above. She doesn't mind me touching her in any way so anything you guys can come up with is nice..

2007-09-20 15:57:30 · 7 answers · asked by cypress_0511 2 in Singles & Dating

And who makes the move?

2007-09-20 15:54:24 · 18 answers · asked by My Dear 2 in Singles & Dating

on monday i have a one way ticket to utah.i have family out there and my former fiance who wants to put things back together and i still have feelings for him i have lived in cali all my life and i have many friends out here. i am lostabout what to do, i have the ticket to go to a wedding, but do i want to come back-if i stay in utah i will proably go back to school and live a "normal" life, but if i come back-i wil do what i do here( drink/smoke/party ect.)im lost and i need some help-please be nice thanks

2007-09-20 15:54:12 · 3 answers · asked by kcmonster89 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

hi everyone
i need some good adivice.....
ok
so i have a job i work like 4 days a week (part time)
n i have school, i have like the hardest couses
actually i'm good in studies but the problem is that
i can't really handle things like that
i come from work @ 10:00pm and then i have finish my homework
i went to sleep around 2:00 am
its just so hard
but i don't wanna quit my job
cauze i need money...........
plz help
i would really thankful for that
thx

2007-09-20 15:53:08 · 17 answers · asked by I♥eDwArd 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I perfer watching older people in porn movies ( like 60 years old and older). Most are with younger people ( about there son or daughters age 20 to 30 years old ) and never with underaged childern. For some reason when i see older people getting pleasure it's a major turn on for me. Does this make me a weirdo?

2007-09-20 15:52:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-20 15:52:22 · 6 answers · asked by SomeOne Else 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-20 15:51:59 · 5 answers · asked by LOie 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend asked me to marry him,he's 19 years old and im 18 years old. i really do love him more then anything in the world. we have been together since i was 13 years old.
do you think we are too young?

2007-09-20 15:50:04 · 18 answers · asked by Erikka 2 in Singles & Dating

when your not going out with them. if you think your positive hes your soulmate is that a hundred percent chance your gonna be with him .I cant think of anyone else that i liked like this we have soooooooooo much in common.

2007-09-20 15:49:32 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im not really experienced in flirting and having a boyfriend, and i like this much younger guy (im a senior and he's a freshman) and he rides my bus. I have only really talked to him twice. cause both times he sat in front of me. We both sit in the front. I really didn't know what to talk about with him, but he's new and doesn't have that many friends and is kinda shy. The problem is that he has an identical twin who is very different. His twin is more outgoing and popular. and i think that kills him cause he wants what his brother has. but at the same rate his bro seems more angry all the time. I just want to know how to flirt with him and what to do to get him to notice me more, im not one of those popular girls that i would think he likes, im more of that drama kid. but i still dress nicely and i want to know how to flirt more wth him and what to talk about. Please help!

2007-09-20 15:49:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I just started my new job yesterday. When I was down in a different department, a guy (who I think is really cute) and I caught eye contact when he walked past me, but he was talking to his boss and so that was it.

Later on that day, I was being trained in a different area and was stadning a foot next to him. He normally is kind of quiet but the started to crack jokes and be funny (to his coworkers) and then when I walked past him, he looked up at me and we caught eye contact again... but I didn't know what to do and I looked away. :(

Is he just looking at me because I'm a new face, could he be interested and shy, or just coincidental eye contact?

2007-09-20 15:48:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok I was dating this guy 71/2 year ago we broke up cause of something stupid. We got mad about what we heard and did not talk for a while. I dont know how it happened but he married a good friend of mine and I married his cuz. Me and my husband broke up for about 2 years. In that time I started talking to my next again, we had sex. Now me and my husband are back together and he is raising my baby. The problem I have is my next's wife read his emails and found out. Now she want to know everything and he will not tell her the truth, so she want me to be the one to tell her. I dont want to brake her heart. (even if she did it to me ) She lost two kids with him now to tell her he might have a kid somewhere else is alot. Or to tell her I know he cheated on her the whole time cause he told me and I have seen him. Or that he has been messing with me for a year, Or the holidays she sent alone with her baby girl he was with me. Do I tell her the truth now, or lie to save the friendship?

2007-09-20 15:46:58 · 11 answers · asked by apple m 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i have nobody, i feel alone. life is really hard and its getting harder. people are talking rumors and its coming from the people who i tought i could trust the most. it hurts. ive stood my ground and now its my turn to get something back but no.. i have yet to recive nothing but lies and hurtful words. im my own bestfriend and my own worst enemy at the same exact time. i really need help. so please.. someone try to help me. =(

2007-09-20 15:45:53 · 7 answers · asked by brokenintopiceses 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

how many people have married their high school sweetheart? if you didnt get married, did you think you would while you were together? what happened between you?

2007-09-20 15:45:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-20 15:42:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

She is probably age above 30. My parent and other sibling doesn.t know abt this search. As FAMILY is very important,now I want to find her BUT how? and where to start with?It is good if we could reunited but what if.............?

2007-09-20 15:41:17 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

ok i really like my best freind a lot i want to gout with her. i think she likes me to because there other day we were all up on eachother and stuff but idk if i should ask her out. what should i do

2007-09-20 15:38:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my husband never treated me the way i shouldve been treated and i found another man that is more than wonderful to me and now my husband wants to step up to be that man! my husband is a good man but really didnt know what he had until this other man. we were seperated awhile then came back cause i felt guilty for divorcing him while he was being deployed to iraq. my husband is aware of this other man and knows im in love with this man as well. i know i came home for the wrong reasons but i just could see him going through this by hisself but this other man is just out of this world and i feel the love he has for me.. my husband never gave me that. but know after he lost me for awhile he realized what he had i knows how the other man makes me happy.. the other man wants to marry me and my husband has divorce papers in iraq with him! i feel like such a bad person but i try telling myself that sometimes its to late to make up what you should have already been doing!! im just so confused!!

2007-09-20 15:36:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Whether you're a guy or a girl ...this is an 'age old' question (excuse the pun). Guys are welcomed to answer too.

I'd also be curious to know whether you would prefer an older or younger partner?

2007-09-20 15:33:41 · 28 answers · asked by WARREN 3 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend goes rough alot in bed and it kinda is sore after sex. Sometimes, I hate it when he does that, I tell him to slow down but he won't listen at all and he's always teasing me.
Do many guys do this or am I complaining too much? Should I be happy that he actually loves to be intimate with me? How should I draw his attention next time, he goes overboard?

2007-09-20 15:33:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous 4 in Singles & Dating

K here's the thing...he and I have been together for ten years but the issues never change...I do all the cooking, all the cleaning and all of the child raising...and I've actually come to accept that...and acknowledge that hey I'm better than him at that stuff anyway but here's the thing...at night when I head to bed I'm heading there alone. He's watching the tube, or playing video games, or watching football...and I'm alone more than half of the time... thoughts on that anyone?

2007-09-20 15:33:03 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating