I would have picked sister #2 as my Maid of Honor because we were close but since i have two sisters, I chose a close friend. I wasnt planning to have sister #1 in the wedding because we were not getting along. But eventually I decided to have her in the wedding as a BM. I could not choose her as a MOH because she is not supportive of me at all. Tonight she tells me that she was shocked that i didnt choose sister #2 as the MOH since she was expecting that. I told her that I didnt want to make either of them feel bad by choosing one over the other, so I chose a friend. Also, my friend lives 5 min away while my sisters both live hours away and she has been supportive of my relationship with my fiance from the get go while sister #1 has not. sister #1 is selfish, harbors anger that my wedding day will be while she's 9 mos pregnant, and complains about everything. I am just so sad/mad. This is MY DAY! I am trying my best to include sister #1 but she's a debbie downer!
2007-09-20 16:02:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What does sister #2 think about not being the MOH? Your sister #1 seems to complain about everything, so making her the MOH would have been way too much of a headache, and if she doesn't want to be a pregnant BM, she could have turned you down but seems to prefer complaining about everything instead. What are you going to do, change your wedding for ONE person?
It is your wedding and you get to choose whomever you want to be in your party. I would suggest making sure your younger sister understands why you didn't pick her and try (as hard as it will be) to ignore the grumblings of sister #1.
2007-09-21 07:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by iheartbayley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bachelorette parties are not gift giving events. It's just a night out, with everyone except the bride paying. The party is the gift, from you girls to her. For the wedding you give a gift, just like every other guest. But it does not need to be any more special than anyone else's gift. It all depends on how well off you are, but as a guide, I'd give a gift in the 50-75 dollar range. Obviously you'll both be busy on the day, so it might be more convenient to give the gift a few days before the wedding.
2016-05-19 22:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is really tricky. I am in a similar situation. I am having three bridesmaids and two are my sisters and the other is my best friend. Between the two sisters I get along best with the youngest one but if I had picked her my other sister would have been angry and hurt. If I had picked my best friend, both sisters would have been hurt. So I picked none and told them they are all my maids of honor. Problem solved and no drama.
2007-09-21 06:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jennies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't please everyone. I don't know what the etiquette is when you have more than one sister like that, but when my oldest cousin got married (there were 3 of them), the middle sister was made MOH (who would be the oldest of the 2). When the middle sister got married, she had both sisters, one Matron of Honor, the other Maid of Honor. I can't remember when the youngest got married. You can decide who you want to be your MOH, though.
2007-09-20 16:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
having a friend for your MOH is probably best.. will be more help in the end cause she is close by.. as for your sister.. there isnt much you can do to change her outlook.. the best you can do for now is hope it passes quickly and she gets over the whole thing.. remember .. her hormones are all out of wack if she's pregnant.. i dont know how she is normally but pregnancy exaggerates it
2007-09-20 16:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by jeselynn_81 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have the one you want as your MOH - you made your choice. Your sisters will live with it. One is a BM - perhaps th other can help with the guest book or at the reception, or something, They are your family - and that will NEVER change.
2007-09-21 03:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've told my family when I get married I'm not having them in the wedding party at all.... I don't want to feel obligated to have family when I have many friends who I would want as bridesmaids.
2007-09-20 19:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's exactly what I'm planning on doing once everything goes that way. Idon't want either of my sisters fighting!
2007-09-21 05:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Smith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its your wedding so you can choose whom ever you want as MOH .
2007-09-20 16:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, pick your friend and you will not live a lifetime of your sisters bickering over who you love best!
2007-09-20 16:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by ToolManJobber 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋