on monday i have a one way ticket to utah.i have family out there and my former fiance who wants to put things back together and i still have feelings for him i have lived in cali all my life and i have many friends out here. i am lostabout what to do, i have the ticket to go to a wedding, but do i want to come back-if i stay in utah i will proably go back to school and live a "normal" life, but if i come back-i wil do what i do here( drink/smoke/party ect.)im lost and i need some help-please be nice thanks
2007-09-20 15:54:12 · 3 answers · asked by kcmonster89 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think you should get your return ticket... i say that because yes drinking and partying can be a bad thing but you can consiously decide to not do that as much... the whole ex fiancee issue is a nother problem in and of it self... if it didn't work out the first time for you i garuntee it won't work out the second time... you'll just be locked into a cycle of dissapointment and regret... and that's on a subconsious level because it's human nature to try and recreate problems that have occured in our life... i personally think it's to attempt to solve the issues of previous endevours but i seems to just end up causing the same issues that have occured in the previous attempts... so go to the wedding see the family... go back to cali and look to your friends for strength and support in cutting back the partying.
2007-09-20 16:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by etowna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're leaving you're life in California to try to make things work with an ex in Utah? I used to live in California, I now live in New Mexico. When I lived in California I had over a hundred friends. People here absolutely don't believe me. They think its an exaggeration or I really didn't know those people but it's true. After living in California for 15 years I had over a hundred friends and I would hang out with one or more every single day. Now I have 3 friends who I see every once in awhile. Once I left California for several years, my friends went on with their fast paced lives and lost touch with me. Now I have the opposite problem. The people in smaller towns are very connected with their families and their friends they had while growing up and often don't have any interest in making any new friends. Their lives have been the same for a long time and they like it that way. Ok. So this is a bad scenario. Maybe you'll love it in Utah. I've met people here who went to California and they hated it. Even said they thought people in California were unfriendly so they came back here. I hear this and I think to myself, your wrong. It's the other way around but who knows? Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
2007-09-20 23:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by wilder555 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your self what you will thing ten years from now. Use that prespective to decide what is really best for your "life". But the problem is that might conflict with what you want to do. That is the conflict between the child in you that wants the candy even though you know it's bad for you.
2007-09-20 23:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋