My boyfriend goes rough alot in bed and it kinda is sore after sex. Sometimes, I hate it when he does that, I tell him to slow down but he won't listen at all and he's always teasing me.
Do many guys do this or am I complaining too much? Should I be happy that he actually loves to be intimate with me? How should I draw his attention next time, he goes overboard?
2007-09-20 15:33:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks everyone! He's such a sweet guy on the inside, he isn't always rough but I guess he get's carried away too much.
2007-09-20 15:59:46 · update #1
If he is being too rough and is hurting you then you need to sit him down and tell him. Let him know your concerns without him feeling that you are attacking him. Talk to him before you both have sex again, but let him know that you do care about him and just want the best sexual experience possible. He should understand.
2007-09-20 15:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't confuse love and lust, they don't mean the same thing.Sexual intimacy is one way that couples share their feelings for one another.It is not supposed to hurt no matter what your boyfriend says( unless you have a vaginal problem);and not many guys do it. It is a selfish act designed to please only him with no consideration for you.Don't make him feel that you are grateful and happy he wants to be intimate with you as if he is doing you a favor.Sit down with him and explain that you are always sore after your intimate sessions, that you want him to be more gentle, and to also try to please you as well.If he refuses or tries to tease you or make you feel guilty(like saying you don't love him), then I suggest you seriously start to reconsider the relationship. You most certainly deserve better than you are currently getting and only you can change the situation.Good luck.
2007-09-20 22:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
informhim when u guys are talkn not durn sex that he shd be less agressive cos u dont like it that way so if he wants more sex the moment u tell him 2 slow down he beta slow down cos maybe u like it cool u know and as 4 the teasn just dont make a move when he das it or even complain hell notice it no longa disturs u and hell eventually top .PS not all guys go like that i dont
2007-09-20 22:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by xoxohotdude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i read in an article in Women's World i think it was, that women judge a guy in bed subconciously on whether they want to stay with them for the rest of their lives or whether they would be good with kids. and roughness is generally not a good sign. And a really really bad sign is that he won't respect your wishes. So i would refuse to sleep with him until he respects you. im sure how it is between you two, but i see that as him focusing on your vagina more then your brain.
2007-09-20 22:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he would do anything to make you more comfortable. If it doesn't bother you that much then don't worry about it. But if he doesn't slow down when he goes overboard tell him that you won't continue.
2007-09-20 22:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That Means He loves you, but being too agressive is bad. Is he gets too rough just tell him you are feeling uncomfortable. He should understand.
2007-09-20 22:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by CakeMix666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he won't listen to you saying that you are hurt, that's a problem. Tell him he needs to slow down if he respects you. If he can't do that, then don't give him any!!!!
2007-09-20 22:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by Fly girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel before you start having sex, or are in any sexual situation. (i.e.; breakfast, or one of those can i talk to you moments). don't wait until you're getting naughty. don't make it sound like it's something he's doing wrong, just that you can't always handle it.
2007-09-20 22:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by maxfan4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it hurts it aint good.if hes teasing you about he has no respect nor does he care that its hurting you.you have what he wants girl..deny him til he realizes you are serious or dump his inconsiderate A55.if you perform oral on him get rough..use your teeth and ask how he likes that.I have always tried to please my partner and make her feel good.if she didnt like what was happening she told me and we did something else.
2007-09-20 22:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats kida sexual harrasment :/ u told him to stop but he didnt sue him lol jk next time be4 sex tell him not as hard as last time ok?
2007-09-20 22:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by ladeladeladeladelade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋