What makes a guy open up to a girl? Lets say you've been friends with a girl for a while and she has let you know she cares about you and that she's there for you when you need her and if you need to talk. One day when you are going through a hard time you open up completely, you let everything go, you tell her about your fears and how you are feeling, about your worries.
So my question is what I already said, what makes a guy open up to a girl? And why is it that one day you are very warm and the next you are very distand and a little cold?
Thanks!
2007-09-20 15:59:34 · 14 answers · asked by Bella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh I'm the girl BTW, I guess the way I phrased my question was a little confusing, sorry.
2007-09-20 16:15:06 · update #1
Guys don't want to be perceived as weak and they don't like to share their feelings, so when they do show their emotions, they distance themselves afterwards.
2007-09-20 16:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This all goes back to what fathers have taught their fathers. We guys are taught to be strong, not to cry, keep our feelings hidden. So we really, i mean really have to like a person to open up to them. Sometimes we may not even do so because we're suppose to be the strong ones, and the ones that don't have the problem. Crying and all that stuff is for girls. I know that sounds stupid but that's what we've been taught growing up around everyone. The reason that we're very warm one day and then the next we're cold. I think that is We like you girls but sometimes we just need to be along, or we need to go out with our friends and need a break, and lets face it some girls are needy seriously, they call the guy everyday, and this is annoying. Though we may not say it, it is. YOU DON'T NEED TO CALL YOUR BOYFRIEND EVERY SINGLE DAY. I can't stress that enough, I know it gets on my nerves so bad, so we kinda lock everything up everything. Plus if we're on the verge of trusting to tell you things, and we find out you told your parents or girl friends it hurts us. You'll never see it, but it does. That's one reason that guys don't sometimes, scared of what you will think, and scared that you will run off and tell all your girlfriends. Hope this answered your question. :D
2007-09-20 16:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ask Phoebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We men are all about being strong, some of us don't open up because of fear of coming off as a weak little boy. Sometimes when a young lady comes along and softens us up a little we express things, personal things, if we get comfortable with her. The reason why a guy would be all soft and tender one day and all hard and tough the next is because of our instinct as men, we must be strong, not weak... its primitive and immature, I know... but what can we do? we were wired that way, only a select few have grown past that... its actually good to express ourselves, then again some girls don't like that, but that's another story!
Hope this helps! Have a great day!
2007-09-20 16:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by VortexHunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason you feel real close to that person at that moment. You shouldn't trust yourself at that point because it leaves you in a vulnerable position. The both of you are probably acting a little distant because its a defense mechanism, you both didn't know how to interpret that openness. Break the ice with her and you'll be all good. Just don't act weird around her or you'll mess things up.
2007-09-20 16:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
emotional maturity. Unfortunatly it happens at a much later age for guys, and even when it does nothing but bad comes from it so you learn to shut it off. Besides look to what the guy does for you, it takes a while before you can explain it in words. If you just ask him he will probably tell you, but the need to tell you is much different and more intamate.
2007-09-20 16:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with janicajane..its a scary feeling after you open up to someone because you're not sure how they are going to take it..especially if they completely put everything out there for you to hear..they're afraid to be judged and are wondering if it was a mistake...just be positive about it and show them that you care..o and the reason we open up is because we've built some sort of trust with that girl..hope that helps!
2007-09-20 16:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by ty_russell09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys arent very open about their feelings. if a girl is constantly trying to get them to open up and asking them how they feel it doesnt work. guys open up on their own if they have a lot on their mind or you just give them the opportunity to vent. when they reach a certain level of comfort it comes easier
2007-09-20 16:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by ecuaprincessachi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because when your in a tough spot, your vulnerable and tell that one person whats really up and more slips out. the next day you realize what you said and you don't want to "expose" your thoughts and the possibility that you could get hurt. or maybe i watch too much tv...
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2016-10-05 02:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one your friend wants to see how you stand up to your word and your feelings what you explain to her. she is not being cold to you. she listen and want to see how you are going to handle it in a manly way. Keep your head up and shake it off. better days will come.
2007-09-20 16:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by K_LOVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋