Family & Relationships - 19 September 2007

i met my boyfriend when he was working, travelling interstate for a month at a time to do what he has to do to pay the mortgage..
we now live together and his company is sending him away more than they ever have in the 4 years he's had this career.
i moved from Canberra to South Queensland to ensure this one wouldnt be another fish to get away, and things are harder than ever before.
Does anyone have advice for me, anyone in the same situation?
Moving here was the best yet hardest thing ive ever done, having him return for 4 days before he leaves for a month again.
Do i work myself harder to make the time go faster?
What exactly can be done to make this situation easier when the bank is screaming for more money due to interest but its putting a relationship on the line?
I cant be here when i know no one, no license, and dont know how to get around?
Dont get me wrong, i wouldnt change a thing ive done during my whole relationship, but, how do i make this easier before i break...

2007-09-19 17:56:32 · 10 answers · asked by Malibu 2 in Singles & Dating

Let's talk about sex and happiness in regards to single people versus married people. Who is happier? Who gets it the most? Who gets quality sex the most? Who unintentionally goes without it longest? Who ends up pleasuring themselves most? Please give specific reasons why you feel the way you do.

2007-09-19 17:55:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I want to know if you had plan adate with your BF/GF and they did not show up until 2-3 hrs. after would you still go out ? ,tell that person off? or end it right there? even if they had a good explanation like an emergency. wouldn't it still count that they still showed up and did not stood you up?

2007-09-19 17:52:19 · 19 answers · asked by Kerry Kay 1 in Singles & Dating

I think it's kinda of wierd. it is usually the husband should be older than his wife. that's normal

2007-09-19 17:51:37 · 31 answers · asked by elaine.patton 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I am going though a divorce after 20 years with the same women. I have nothing bad to say about her things just arnt working anymore. Lots of my friends want to set me up with there friends how ever Im not ready. I kinda what to get my own place set up and just chill for awhile. Is that wrong? I love company but not ready for a new relationship yet.PD

2007-09-19 17:46:56 · 13 answers · asked by pd 1 in Marriage & Divorce

How can he learn to take &carry his of my own needs.
First he likes me I'm someone, then the hate starts with lies? Don't understand??

2007-09-19 17:46:50 · 7 answers · asked by cross25 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok, this is going to be hard to explain. My husband and his ex went to court in November and his ex was given sole legal and physical custody of their 5-year-old daughter. He was just given visitation (because his ex made up some b.s. about him abusing his daughter and even thought she had no proof they took her side) which meant he got her on the weekends. Well, since it was ordered, he has only seen her 5 times because most of the weekends his ex would make up excuses saying that she had prior plans for her or else she wouldn't answer her phone at all. Well, last month she stopped answering his calls completely. I kept bugging him to go to her house to pick his daughter up, and he finally went this last Saturday. Well it turns out she moved. We hired a private investigator and it turns out she moved all the way to Seattle (we live in San Francisco)! We went to the court house and they said that she didn't give a change of address or anything. Now we know where she lives and everything because of the private investigator, but I just need to know if what she did was illegal or not. I mean, it has to be right? What can we do about this? We don't want to make her move back down here because we found out that she enrolled her in school and everything and we don't want to interrupt his daughter's education, but we really need some advice on what to do about this (we can't move up there because our son is going to school down here and we don't want to interrupt his schooling either).

Sorry this ended up so long.:( Please help!

2007-09-19 17:43:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, so I use to date this girl for over 3 years, and now we don't talk anymore. She lives (no BS) directly across the street from me. We used to be great friends, but since we broke up we haven't really talked and kind of had a falling out. Most of it was of my doing because I had started drinking again when I promised her I wouldn't. But now I am leaving for Marine Corps. Bootcamp, and I am going to be in the infantry which means I could get sent to Iraq. I want to see her before I go, and try to make ammends. But the last time I tried, she gave me the "i don't ever want to talk to you" look. Should I at least try to fix our friendship, or should I just let her slip completely out of my life in general?

2007-09-19 17:37:21 · 4 answers · asked by Indian Boy 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband treatme bad,mentally,verbal abuse,low self steam. Never told me "I love u" I beg him to have sex, he never apreciate me as a woman, he thouth everething was fine, until I spoke & told him, how I felt. He couldn't belive it. I have the courage to said. I felt release for the emotional feeling in my heart, now things changes, I dont love him anymore, I have a lot a pain, i'm angry, exausted for the whole situation. I dont know w/to do. I have 3 kids, but I cant handle it anymore, now it's my turn.I was always lonelly, I'been living depress,& low self s. cause of him, he's a brain wash. I consider my self, pretty, good person, loving mother, but I belived that I was fat,ugly,nobody could love me, I belived for years,til somebody came to me as a friend,he's my sweet love from midle school, he's lovely, good person. But he's married. Anyway I need your opinions. Thanks.

2007-09-19 17:35:01 · 21 answers · asked by Butterfly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

contd.
recently i found that she already got married and having a son aged 7yrs.she and her parents hide this matter and married me not even getting divorce from her x husband. as our marriage was in vadapalani temple. there is a form to be filled by the bride and the groom, in that form she had clearly mentioned that she did not got married and this is her first marriage.Now she is still having contact with her xhusband .And due to money she married me and now she is not giving me divorce r sex and now she is with her parents and her x husband and now iam alone for the past 6 months.am sure that she wont give divorce she is expecting money from me. She had cheated me and married and without geting divorce from her x husband she married me. will our marriage is valid , shall i marry another girl without getting divorce from her, r shall keep a seperated girl without marriying , and if i keep sex with that girl is it a crime, i want to get solution for all my questions, pls help me

2007-09-19 17:30:19 · 11 answers · asked by venkata s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i do not know abt it and tries to show that our relationship is wrong with each other.although he is cheating on me i do not wish to lose him like this.we are still married and under one roof. i hv two kids too.i do not wish to break my marriage legally and also wish to charm him back from that girlfriend.please tell me how to attract n charm him back.

2007-09-19 17:26:18 · 16 answers · asked by sonu 1 in Marriage & Divorce

why would a married woman loose everything over a younger man when she.s has a family. loving husband. to boot. when she is in her.40.s and he is in his teen.s around.19. i know a friend who was doing this with this married woman .he only used her to make her look like a fool in every aspect. i am ashamed of him for doing what he did. yes he had sex with her very sicking now she is divorced and has nothing not even her pride. very sad but true on this matter wny ruin everything over a younger man in his teen.s .19. and she was in her.40.s 48. to be exact. . she was married for around 23. years and lost everything ..

2007-09-19 17:24:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have this friend that is ALWAYS causing drama.. If it is not with her family its with one of her friends, or her husband.
It seems like she looks for things to complain and whine about.
For example ;
On her wedding day, her husbands aunt came up to her and told that " She looked pretty today" ... She responded by saying,,, " So I dont look pretty any other time? "
That is just a very little sample of how she deals with normal everyday life.

Well, last night I was kidding her about her and her husband (which fight all the time ) needing to gather bail money for this Saturday night, (they are planning on going out). B/c they are always calling the cops on eachother at home. Now they are going out in public..
She came back on me with how I am such a Bi$%^, and just trying to start something.
I was just joking with her.
But after all the ugly things she said , of course I said ugly things back.
This happens about every 6 months with her.
I am tired of it.

2007-09-19 17:24:09 · 4 answers · asked by stacie m 4 in Friends

my friend is always saying stuff about how we are best friends. then later i figure out she goes behind my back and says all this stuff about me that is bull S***. i thought we were supposed to be friends, so why doesnt she talk to me about all this? it is mostly about guys, and she has been saying stuff about me being a s*** just cuz i am going out with a guy she likes. and she has even gone farther than me with a guy. why is she doing all this?

2007-09-19 17:20:02 · 7 answers · asked by blondie123 2 in Friends

Ok so heres the full story...Im having an affair w/ a married man....im friends w/ there family meaning his wife knows me.....we all e mail back in forth like forwards & stuff like that but since me & her husband have been talking I sent him an email one night telling him to write me b/c my husband never gets on the computer well she read the e mail I had sent him.....do u think she suspects us having the affair together by the sound of what I wrote to him???

2007-09-19 17:16:44 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

today at my school i got pick on well everone knows im a gothic so they all call me devil worth ship or something like that but why do they pick on gothic poeple anyone know why?

2007-09-19 17:07:33 · 6 answers · asked by devilboy1993 d 1 in Friends

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2007-09-19 17:04:03 · 1 answers · asked by Missy 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

im 15 years old and my parents want to kick me out what do you think

2007-09-19 17:03:41 · 15 answers · asked by j 1 in Family

at the moment i still live with my parents and becuase of the kind of guy i am they think i will end up living with them till the die. also im very shy i didnt even admit to my family that i was interested in girl until i was 14 cuz im realy shy and nervous. so how do i tell my parents im want to join the navy?

2007-09-19 17:01:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-09-19 17:01:09 · 31 answers · asked by shanell s 1 in Singles & Dating

well i hope you guys can tell me if we are or not going to happen what i do know is that he loves me and i love him but i hope he is telling the truth that he is going to mary me when im 18 he has asked me and he is very serious about it but what do you think tell me please ???

2007-09-19 16:49:23 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My father was a very abusive man when I was young. He was abusive mainly to my mother and some of my brothers and sisters. I however was spared this. My parents divorced when I was 8 and I haven't seen my father in over 12 years but I will speak to him once every year or two. However, before all of this I was very very very close to him and well he is blood. Not to mention that all of my 4 brothers are very close to him. But the trouble is that my grandfather used to be the chief of police (who I am closer to than my own mother) and my uncle is a very passionate advocate against domestic violence. Not to my step dad and I'm afraid what will happen if they ever see him again. My father is still blood but its my wedding day and I really dont want the police show up to my reception or deal with someone getting hurt and the drama of it all. Should I invite him? If not how should I break it to him that he's just not invited? PLEASE HELP! I dont know what to do!

2007-09-19 16:47:43 · 25 answers · asked by Summerae Girl 3 in Weddings

All I'm going to say but there is so much more to it (I dont like to air dirty laundry especially to people I dont know) is would anyone elses husband go to Las Vegas with a group of friends(your not invited and intentions seem shady) when the two of you havent even been married a year yet? Shouldnt he be planning trips for the two of you? I will do and have done anything for this man but I'm having a real tough time with this one. Its putting a lot of tension between us whether he knows it or not and to me this stupid trip isnt worth an unhappy marriage.

2007-09-19 16:46:38 · 17 answers · asked by ChrZay 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Do you floss? everyday? if not, why don't you?

2007-09-19 16:44:08 · 7 answers · asked by ryan m 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Is your spouse and kids an "obligation" or your responsibility? How do you think your spouse and kids would feel if you treat them as 'obligations'?

2007-09-19 16:41:48 · 3 answers · asked by Equinox 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-19 16:38:27 · 4 answers · asked by bertha w 1 in Singles & Dating

okay so i was in a 3 year relationship with a girl i thought i was going to marry. it didnt work out...about 7 months later i met a girl through a mutual friend and decided to call her and we met up..well fortunate but unfortunate for me she was my perfect match.. we definately clicked and i love talking to her and spending time with her. we have been dating for 2 months then my fears kicked in and i felt myself starting to back off.. i couldnt take it anymore and after about a week of continplating things i decided to be blunt and tell her i wasnt ready for a relationship.. i felt horrible to say it but it was true. i tried convincing her that it wasnt her and what a wonderful person she is but that it was me and i didnt know why i feeling this way.. she went silent...i knew i hurt her.. i could tell by the things she was saying and then i went on the defensive.. we hung up and have talked since/ 1 wk.. i dont know what i should do now? did i blow it?? help!!!

2007-09-19 16:38:26 · 2 answers · asked by zxcv 2 in Singles & Dating

I am not a man basher, I think men are great, but it's just overwhelming, so many women are being abused and manipulated and controlled by their spouses and boyfriends. I am no exception. Why are so many men like this?

2007-09-19 16:35:11 · 13 answers · asked by RAVEN 4 in Marriage & Divorce

So, we've been together barely over two years, married about a year and a half. He's NEVER happy.....I keep the house clean, and take care of our two children mostly by my self. I work part time, and am a student from home. He goes to work, makes money and that's about it. He's constantly aggitated with the babies, barely helps me with them but is always telling what I'M doing wrong, and says they're total brats, and I do not agree with his methods of disciplan for our 11 & 23 month old babies.....today for example, when he got home from work, the house was spotless except the sink was full of dirty dishes and he barely spoke to me all night just because of that. When I got offended he went on with his rage about "well maybe I just won't go to work for a couple days, and we'll see what happens"...It just seems no matter what I do, I'm always wrong, nothing's good enough, and I'm constanly being accused of being lazy and not carrying my own weight. He makes the money & I do evrythng els

2007-09-19 16:34:04 · 18 answers · asked by TMama 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i have no time to be with him what do you guys do???

2007-09-19 16:33:32 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships