I am going though a divorce after 20 years with the same women. I have nothing bad to say about her things just arnt working anymore. Lots of my friends want to set me up with there friends how ever Im not ready. I kinda what to get my own place set up and just chill for awhile. Is that wrong? I love company but not ready for a new relationship yet.PD
2007-09-19 17:46:56 · 13 answers · asked by pd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your friends to give you a little time. No need to jump into anything. They may think they are trying to help, but tell them you will ask for their help when you are ready.
2007-09-19 17:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Linda K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 20 years with someone, you have a right not to jump into another realationship and your friends shouldnt be asking you this.
Everything will still be open wounds for awhile and you need time to reflect and look at where your life is going to take you next.
By all means dont become a hermit, but its to early to look for another partner yet.
I think you need to find some new friends in your new life ahead.
2007-09-20 00:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not it isn't wrong. You need time to get your head on straight or else you can make some really bad decisions. Getting back into another bad relationship usually happens if you begin to date before you think you are ready. You will be at one of the most vulnerable times of your life.
2007-09-20 00:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends are funny in this situation. It's like they are on some suicide watch and don't believe you really need your time and space. Take your own time. Go get som pu**y that is outside the types you realistically would date and form relationships with. Just relax and have fun for a while while you get your s**t together. Good luck, man!
2007-09-20 01:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the healthiest thing you can for yourself. Think of it this way, right now you are not your true self. You probably have all kinds of emotions going on, and that is what you display to potential dates right now, but that is not the true you. Once you grieve and heal from your divorce, you are going to be the true you again, and that should be the person you want to portray to future dates or relationships (if you choose to be involved seriously with someone again). Good luck!
2007-09-20 00:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that isn't wrong. I'm going through one after 20 years together too. I don't hate my husband and we are civil. I cannot imagine dating now. No desire. Don't let your friends talk you into it until you are ready. I know they think they are helping, but I agree with you. Chill for awhile.
Good luck to you.
2007-09-20 03:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not wrong at all. it does take time to get over a marraige regardless what happen you were with this women
for 20 years.. you need to get your self together, let your friends know that you appreciate them but you just wont to
be single for while, trust me when you ready to get back in
the game you will know is not a good time still a lot of
open wounds. etc. take it slow.
2007-09-20 00:55:46 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are looking forward in your life, just go with it. Tell your friends you are not actively looking at the moment and you want some 'you' time.
2007-09-20 00:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY PD, NO THIS IS YOUR BEST BET!!! AFTER 20 YEARS YOU NEED TIME. ON AVERAGE IT TAKES 3 YEARS TO GET OVER A DIVORCE. ADVICE GIVEN TO ME AFTER 20 YEAR MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE,ADVICE GIVEN BY THERAPIST, AND SHE WAS RIGHT, DOING GREAT!!! HANG IN THERE, YOUR ON THE RIGHT TRACK!!! BEST WISHES!!
2007-09-20 00:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by mother of 4! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, it's smart. Get your head together before someone else tries crowding it - you know what's best for you...well done!
2007-09-20 00:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋