i met my boyfriend when he was working, travelling interstate for a month at a time to do what he has to do to pay the mortgage..
we now live together and his company is sending him away more than they ever have in the 4 years he's had this career.
i moved from Canberra to South Queensland to ensure this one wouldnt be another fish to get away, and things are harder than ever before.
Does anyone have advice for me, anyone in the same situation?
Moving here was the best yet hardest thing ive ever done, having him return for 4 days before he leaves for a month again.
Do i work myself harder to make the time go faster?
What exactly can be done to make this situation easier when the bank is screaming for more money due to interest but its putting a relationship on the line?
I cant be here when i know no one, no license, and dont know how to get around?
Dont get me wrong, i wouldnt change a thing ive done during my whole relationship, but, how do i make this easier before i break...
2007-09-19 17:56:32 · 10 answers · asked by Malibu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like u r the only person in this relationship. You need to value yourself more. Move out & if he really is the one then he will ask u to marry him. See there is no real commitment why are you stopping your life again? Please snap out of it this guy does not care enough...
Sorry u lost me what about the bank? You mean he is making u pay the bills while he is gone as well?
2007-09-19 18:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by June Gem 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is very hard to live away from your home. I would try to locate some people that were from my country. That will occupy much of your time. I knew a girl that came from Brazil to the US. She spoke about a dozen English words. She was here for only about 9 months or so. She not only located a group of women that were from Brazil to hang with, but spoke almost perfect English when she left. She even enlisted someone to help her learn the driving rules, so that she was able to take the driving test with an interpreter.Her husband was a Pilot on Ships, so he too would be gone for months at a time. It is amazing what you can do, if you put your mind to making it work.
2007-09-19 18:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
LDR are do-able but most of the time are really hard. it'll work if u both want it to work. No one can judge and tell u it wont work because u and him are the ones who make the choice if it works. You can pick up a new hobby or find something to help the time go by. It'll be fine you guys can try and talk everyday, if you have cell phones text each other saying like i love u, miss u, wish u were here, email if he has a way to check emails. Good luck try and stay positive and dont listen to people who r telling u it wont work cause it will if u both try
2007-09-19 18:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rayray 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello, I had a pen-pal relationship before marrying my husband...we wrote to each other for 7 years, because he was a Merchant Seaman...I waited for him to return and "want me" and it so worked out that I was available for him at the same time...We got married...and have been together ....thru good and the bad...
My concern for you is that he is not committing to marry you!
If you could arrange to "go your own way" I would recommend you do that...IF he wants you to stay then he will "SHOUT it from the roof-tops" so to speak...HE won't let you go..If he does not stop you from leaving the nest you've made together, then what is the use sticking around for someone who won't commit and make it right...someone who will help you out financially and make you secure and feel loved for the rest of your life....IF his job comes before you, then I think you should leave the key on the counter and lock the door on your way out~!!~God Bless you....
2007-09-19 18:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by Call me-C-4-Curious- 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it does fly interior the face of fantastic judgment -- yet -- the heavier persons have so lots greater weight to pass and their inner respiratory device, i.e. their lungs and coronary heart are the same length as Mr. Lean! subsequently, the same length lungs and coronary heart are having to artwork lots greater sturdy interior the case of the heavier man or woman -- sort of like a miles less useful motor vehicle in a fashion. So it may be like having a 4 cylinder engine attempting to pass a tractor trailer -- no longer lots achievement there!!!
2016-11-05 22:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a LD relationship is never easy, I am having a similiar case here. Lots of things you just cannot figure out if you do not have a clear main thought. What do you really want? To be with him? Or to have your own life? When you have a clear answer for that, all things are done!
2007-09-19 18:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny Y 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
WELL FIRST OF ALL LONG DISTANCE WILL WORK IF YOU LET IT. MY FRIEND IS IN THE NAVY, HE AND HIS WIFE ARE SEPARATED FOR MONTHS AT A TIME. THEY HAVE BEEN MARRIED 10 YEARS. IT TAKES FAITH, COMMITMENT AND LOVE TO KEEP YOU TOGETHER. EMAIL, SEND PICTURES THROUGH SNAIL MAIL, USE THOSE FREE LONG DISTANCE MINUTES ON YOUR CELL PHONE.
REFINANCE THE MORTGAGE ON THE HOUSE! OR BETTER YET, SELL IT AND PURCHASE ONE YOU CAN AFFORD WITHOUT HIM LEAVING.
KEEP YOURSELF BUSY. WORK, CHURCH FUNCTIONS, WORKOUT AT THE GYM ANYTHING TO KEEP YOU BUSY AND LET THE TIME GO BY FASTER. TAKE UP READING (SONG OF THE AXE AND SONG OF THE EARTH ARE TWO GOOD BOOKS TO START WITH)
MY BOYFRIEND HAS TO GO OUT OF TOWN OFTEN AS WELL, (DAYS NOT MONTHS) I USE THAT TIME TO TAKE BUBBLE BATHS, CLEAN THINGS HE GETS IN THE WAY OF, GO SEE MY MOM OR SISTERS, HAVE GIRL TIME WITH MY FRIENDS (LAST TIME WENT TO FANCY RESTAURANT AND HAD A 4 HOUR DINNER) DO SOMETHING FOR YOU
2007-09-19 18:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
nope nope nope, long distance ships dont work...someone came up with "Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind" for a reason.
gl & peace!
2007-09-19 18:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't believe in long distance relationship.
2007-09-19 18:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you're both committed, it'll work out fine.
It just sucks major ass.
2007-09-19 18:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by Wolf Girl 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋