Family & Relationships - 10 July 2007

Okay, I have been having an affair for the last 9 months with someone I got to love dearly. My husband is the sweetest man and he has done everything for me. He has been there for me and my family. The thing is before I started the affair I asked my husband that, " I do not want to be married to him anymore but he insisted we work it out. He has put his whole life aside 10 years to protect me and do everything for me. I really want like this other man like I love my husband but I am attched. I want to leave this other man because I want to be with my husband and make things work. The thing is my husband wants me to call this other man and end it in his presence, after that end it with him. He will turn around and cry in disbelief and than turn around and hold me tight and tells me he loves me. He was crying all night. He wants a divorce from me one minute and the next, he claims he loves me and he doesn't want to share me with another man. I was wrong.

2007-07-10 03:24:48 · 20 answers · asked by K.S 1 in Weddings

My fiance's family is a mess. I dont have the greatest family ethier but not like his. I use to love his mother, I guess in the past she has had drug problems. Well within the last 6 months she totally went down hill. She got fired, she is a total mess. She lives with my boyfriend brother because they all are crackheads, and they enable her. There is also 5 kids in that house. Im wondering if I should call child services, which they have had them called on before but it doesnt help. My boyfriend has talked to them, but nothing. I dont want anything to do with them...And I get frustrated at my boyfriend for deling with them - Is that wrong? Yesterday they had some money, smoked it all up, But gave my boyfriend 100 to hold so they wouldnt touch it.They called and called all night till 1030 til my boyfriend finally brought them the money. It was their money but he wants to help them from not doing so many bad drugs as much as they do.The brother girlfriend, she twitches and looks a mess.

2007-07-10 03:24:22 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I live with my girlfriend and every time we get into a big argument, she packs her clothes and is ready to leave. The last argument we had, she packed her clother again and called some companies to rent an apartment. She's always threatening to move out but never does. She had the brochures about the other apartments and all, someone called her and left a message saying the apartment she inquired about is ready for moving in tomorrow. Of course she did not move. Now, the other day, she was talking about getting married. I told her that there is not enough stability in our relationship to be talking about getting married. The last thing I want to hear when we're married is "I want a divorce" if we get into an argument. I told her maybe after we have a couple more arguments and you DONT threaten to move out, that might build up my confidence and we can discuss marriage. She get upset and didn't speak to me for the rest of the day.

2007-07-10 03:23:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Girls if your man left the country after 2 years of dating and said he was coming back. Then stopped calling all of a sudden. would you still wait for him to come back? would u ever be able to fall out of love?

2007-07-10 03:22:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-10 03:22:05 · 13 answers · asked by cristal b 1 in Friends

My husband does not give me any emotional support,He does not raise to the occassion.because of that we sleep in different bedrooms,we have not had sex for the last 1 year,He does not respect me nor show any love.His relative always tell him to divorce me and get married to somebody else.
I discovered he is seeing another woman.
We have been married for the last 10 years and have 2 children who are very close to thier father.He is a very rich man and can support the children fully financially while My finances are few and without him I cannot do much.
My mother cannot buy my idea of leaving him,because sometimes he gives her finacial support.
The african culture does not encourage divorce or separation,
Right now i am deppressed for lack of emotional support.Lack of love.
I have secret admirer but how do I go aboout it.

Please advice me urgently before I break down.

2007-07-10 03:19:55 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've been married 10 years and last weekend I came home in the middle of the day and the wife was in the shower and both kids were down for a nap. My wife came out of the bathroom naked. I just grabbed her and threw her down on the couch and took her. She acted like she was resisting for a second and then we had toe curling sex. My question is how often can I do this and it still be really hot for her? An does this help her to feel sexy?

2007-07-10 03:17:59 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

this girl, suddenly appeared back in my boyfriends life about a month ago and they said that her boyfreind wouldnt let them talk.

so last night she decided to pour her heart out about him and that the girl who broke his hearts will always have his heart and that he will never love me like her.

then decided to tell me three girls were planning on messing with us over the next few months

THEN and this is what made me angry, she said that when he gets angry he takes it out on the person he cares about most and made a point to say, oh He will take it all out on me so that will save you some steam!!!!

we have been on and off for about a year. and eveyrhting she said to me was rude... My boyfriend was like I would always go to you first before her baby...

So i dont wnat to start drama because she wants it but good God she obviously wants to start something... wat do i do?!?!?

2007-07-10 03:17:54 · 15 answers · asked by canthearu12 1 in Singles & Dating

welpp.i was engaged for 3 years and broke if off because there are just too many things i've gotta do with myself/life before i'm ready to share it with someone else.. such as college ~> but once i told him i wasn't ready to get married he broke of the relationship completely ... he told me that he was going to fight for us to be together and would wait for me to go to school. well then i hadn't talked to him in a couple weeks and i was searchin myspace .. found the girl he was dating and whoopsie found out that they had gotten married ,, only 3 months after he and i broke up . . .i was hurt . . .u can only imagine .. but after a year of not speaking at all he calls ... he's married and miserable ~> works 3rd shift so that he doesn't have to see his "wife" ... pushes him off onto his friends hoping that something will happen and he can leave her ...

but home he's moved back to our home town .. he was outa stae with his wife,, and he wants to spend time together ??

2007-07-10 03:13:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

have curves or do they like girls who are skinny...or both?

2007-07-10 03:09:15 · 15 answers · asked by helloooo 3 in Singles & Dating

weve dated for a year i was his first love as well as he was mine..he was completly inlove with me then things got rough and we hurt eachother alot and i ended up on cheating while we were on and off..we tried to put things back together but it wouldnt work we were both hurt and i told him we need a big break to let things cool off..he cried thuaght of suicide for lke two months and all but things just ddnt work between us well enough to get back together even if we still loved eachother...then we got into a fight and just stoped talking. after three months we talked again and i told him i love him and he ddnt want to hear it..i know oviousli i have hurt him ALOT and ****** things up alot. anyways so now we try not to see eachother or talk alot he is being very mean comes to my house wants sex ( i was his first and only one apparenlty and he was my first) i told him many times i love him but he just wont listen and tells me he dsnt want to be hurt like this again and then has a new gf?

2007-07-10 03:08:57 · 2 answers · asked by PureInnocence 2 in Singles & Dating

But what kind of flowers (color and kind) so it would match the motif..

my bridesmaids are gonna wear red dress with gold accents like beads etc....and i would like their corsage to be of color somewhat golden (but no such thing except somewhat yellowish right?), i would like my boquet to be red flowers with gold accents..

i'm having a problem regarding the gold "flower" thing...red is so easy, i could have roses..

i want the isle to be white flowers (roses preferably) with gold and red accents too..maybe the laces could be gold and white right?
any ideas?

please post links so i could see the theme..thanks!

2007-07-10 03:06:55 · 11 answers · asked by nozmiat 3 in Weddings

go to this link and my bf relates to ALL of those. i really love him and i have chatted with his ex's and they say he is really loyal and would never cheat. what are your thoughts??

2007-07-10 03:05:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We are both very much in love and happy with each other. However my fiance' mentioned the other night that she is bored. Not with our relationship. At least I don't think so. Just with everyday life. I come home from work and we talk about our days then watch tv until bedtime. We don't have any extra $$ right now trying to pay for a wedding. Does anyone have any ideas on what I can do to spice things up.

2007-07-10 03:02:46 · 14 answers · asked by John 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Most of the people say that the girl should always be younger to the boy

2007-07-10 02:59:08 · 63 answers · asked by BOND_BOND2001 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I am not talking about the ones you get from your mom or dad. I mean a romantic type.

2007-07-10 02:55:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i really like a boy who is going out with my best m8t an im happy her but it dntstop me wanin 2 go bk out wit him wat do i do

2007-07-10 02:52:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-07-10 02:51:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'd love to hear from men especially on this one. Is it a real wish for you to have your own child with a woman you're in love with? Particularly for the guys who are 30 and over, is this now a really important thing for most of you? Say you met your dream woman and she wasn't interested in /couldn't have a child and you wanted one, would you still stay with her/marry her?

2007-07-10 02:51:23 · 8 answers · asked by sonia 1 in Marriage & Divorce

you know what i meant "fake c@m"

2007-07-10 02:51:01 · 14 answers · asked by sophia 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-07-10 02:50:15 · 13 answers · asked by HereIam 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This person does not become violent, but just bitches about everyone and everything! don't suggest alon-non etc. this person has 10 different personalities while drinking> I would like some ideas of how to deal with it?

2007-07-10 02:50:06 · 12 answers · asked by kissybertha 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-10 02:49:05 · 27 answers · asked by HereIam 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am trying to pick a date to get married. Ever since I was little I have always wanted to get married the first Saturday in October. I think it is the most beautiful time of the year. So my problem is that the first Saturday of October this year is the 6th. My mom passed away on that same date in 2005. and I don't think my mom would care, she would want me to remember that date as a happy one and not a sad one. Here's the problem, my fiance' doesn't have a problem with that date, he said it was totally up to me, whatever I thought was right. One of my three brothers, who would be given me away was very mad about me choosing this date, even though he didn't even care for our mother while she was sick. Should I sick to my guns and keep the date or give in and not cause any problems with my family. I really want all of my family there, and I don't know if he would get over this. Please help!!!

2007-07-10 02:48:48 · 23 answers · asked by charlie 2 in Weddings

I would like to know what girls opinions are. Whether or not they think that it is infact the guy hitting on them, or is there context around the situation that determines whether or not it is a pass or just generosity.

Guys, do you ever just buy a drink where it is not suggesting you want to sleep with the person you are buying the drink for?

2007-07-10 02:47:59 · 9 answers · asked by Brian V 1 in Singles & Dating

Here's the deal,

I recently started going out with this guyand I really like him. He's gets really shy around me and it makes me think..."does he like me as much as i like him"....so what should i do???? What if you're afraid to do soemthing that you've never tried before but not sure how to do it (cough cough... k!$$...cough cough)

SERIOUS answers only!

2007-07-10 02:47:58 · 14 answers · asked by Steph 2 in Singles & Dating

My friend is getting married at the end of this year and I am in the wedding party. The wedding has been called of 2-3 times already and then on again. I am against this wedding and really thought the last time it was cancelled it was for good. Unfortunately its back on again.
My question is how do I tell my friend that I'm still against the wedding, should I even tell her at all anymore? How can I be happy at a ceremony that I'm so against?

2007-07-10 02:47:44 · 20 answers · asked by foodie 5 in Weddings

Are there any computer wizzes out there that can help me get these or how can someone get them from their email if the email was deleted & deleted from the deleted items box. Can they be retrieved? Please help I have a teenager that I'm worried about that her male friends might see & I need to try & protect her from this embarrassment!!!

2007-07-10 02:47:29 · 13 answers · asked by Big E 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-07-10 02:46:34 · 15 answers · asked by Katney 2 in Singles & Dating

how do you express your love on someone... to let him or her know you live them

2007-07-10 02:46:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating