This person does not become violent, but just bitches about everyone and everything! don't suggest alon-non etc. this person has 10 different personalities while drinking> I would like some ideas of how to deal with it?
2007-07-10 02:50:06 · 12 answers · asked by kissybertha 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess I need to give more details, I have been married to him for 25 years when I was younger I drank with him to deal with him but now I am a parent and don't want my child living with a drunk mother, I did all my partying before I had children now is time for responsibility. during the week all is great no drinking, but on his days off it starts at 7:30 in the morning til passout time. I do walk away I do agree and I do tell him about it when he is sobor but then it is brought up next time. yeah I could leave but it won't happen. I just wish he would puke on his beer. one warning to everyone never ever give a drinker a cell phone because when you walk away they call!
2007-07-10 03:20:41 · update #1
Realize that everyone copes with life in the way that works for them, and you're not going to change it. when this person gets drunk and negative, walk away. Don't make a big show of it...just say you're going to take a walk, take a nap, go shopping, read a book, brush the dog. Find some way to just remove yourself from the situation. Don't be a receptacle for the negativity, but don't be judgemental, either. Pulling the morality card will only make things worse.
2007-07-10 02:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by browneyedgirl623 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the person like when they're not drinking? Because I'm generally a very quiet person, not really meek but just uninterested in talking and when I drink, and I do binge drink more often than not, it's the only time I get over my aversion to talking. I've actually had people intentionally get me drunk so I'd talk to them. It's equal parts funny and sad. Maybe your binge-drinker is like that. If so, have you tried talking to them about some of their complaints when they've sobered up?
Or just, and this has worked with me on more than one occasion, go drinking -with- them but take away their alcohol after they've started drinking but before it can qualify as binge-drinking. Generally speaking, I'm mildly insulted and a little amused when someone does that but I don't really notice if they've drawn me into a conversation beforehand.
2007-07-10 03:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly im no longer an alcoholic or binge drinker, i do no longer likely drink in any respect. My chum in spite of the incontrovertible fact that, he drinks till he vomits everytime. One time i became with him he did vomit slightly blood and not something occurred to him. i think in the event that they vomit green it incredibly is abdomen acid or some thing and that's what desires to be appeared at. in basic terms shop an eye fixed on him nonetheless.. You by no ability comprehend what would take place.
2016-09-29 10:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. I was not able to deal with the multipal personalitites of my partner when she drank. She would go from personality to personality as she saw fit.
If you want to put up with the bitching and not become part of the bitching. Sinserely agree with everything.
If you want to learn how to have a better life for yourself, you may want to consider the don't suggest this idea. It worked for me. It was also the last thing I wanted.
2007-07-10 03:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by gr8fulldan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wondered for years how to deal with my now ex wifes alcoholism,, and the best thing I ever did was get a divorce,
get away from this person until they realize drinking is making them depressed
2007-07-10 02:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rich2481 is so right I am going through the same thing right now. If you are married, then it is really kinda hard because i still love the man but he has a problem and it is just bringing me down so get out why you still can.
2007-07-10 03:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by mona75243 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your realationship to this person? They need to stop drinking altogether, but unfortunately they have to hit rock bottom all by themselves. And there is not much you can do about it. Just keep suggesting to them how much better there life will be if they give up the bottle.
2007-07-10 02:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me if this person wont go for help you can either stop seeing each other or you can put up with their ridiculous behavior.Believe me it is not going to be pleasant.
2007-07-10 03:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Julius C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't deal with it, stay away. No one needs this if the person doesn't want help!
2007-07-10 02:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to an alanon meeting.
2007-07-10 02:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by Busybake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋