We are both very much in love and happy with each other. However my fiance' mentioned the other night that she is bored. Not with our relationship. At least I don't think so. Just with everyday life. I come home from work and we talk about our days then watch tv until bedtime. We don't have any extra $$ right now trying to pay for a wedding. Does anyone have any ideas on what I can do to spice things up.
2007-07-10 03:02:46 · 14 answers · asked by John 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How about doing new things together? Cooking, walking, exploring new books together whatever. All those things are free and will have you interacting. You could also investigate the concerts in the park that most cities have as those are almost always free. Learn how to give each other really great massages. Anything that breaks up the monotony would be good.
2007-07-10 03:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship goes through times like this. It's very easy, and free to keep life interesting.
*Go for a walk several evenings a week. It gives you time to talk to each other, enjoy your environment, and it's good for you!
*Think about what's near you that you could enjoy together that's free or low cost. Some areas have dollar movie theaters and you could have a "date". Go to a movie and then just get an ice cream cone or a soda. That's a cheap date!
*Is there a park nearby? Take up bird watching or look for wild flowers to identify. Get an inexpensive field guide and a little notebook so you can keep track of what you've seen.
*Volunteer together for a cause you both appreciate. Animal shelters are always in need of volunteers. If you like pets, go lend a hand. Or check out the local nursing homes or hospitals. Maybe they could use a couple of volunteers on a Saturday afternoon, and then you could spend an evening during the week at the library together looking for books to share with the patients. And there's nothing like volunteering your time to make you feel positive about yourself and your life.
Suggest some of these ideas to your fiance and you could spend an evening just narrowing down the possibilities and selecting some activities to try!
Remember that even once you are married, you will always have to put in some effort to keep life interesting and fun!
And by the way, getting married doesn't have to be expensive. I don't see a lot of point in investing lots of money in a big fancy wedding. Take your best friends with you to a church and just do it. Or go to a Justice of the Peace or local judge. Then have a little picnic at your mother's house to celebrate!
2007-07-10 10:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by leslie b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah man there are tons of things you could be doing, go camping, go on a road trip somewhere, stay in a hotel, get a bottle of champaign. Have a game night, one thing ive learned is relationships die when they become routine and boring. So take the opportunity to be impulsive and do something adventurous. Trust me she will appreciate it. So while at work just research some ideas to give yourself a break, I do it all the time, theme parks, white water rafting, there are tons of things out there, goodluck buddy.
2007-07-10 10:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by tokarcjm 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Turn off the TV!!! On your deathbed would you rather look back at all the good times you had with your wife or look back and be happy that you never missed American Idol??? This is a no brainer. Spend quality time together. The spice will happen on it's own.
2007-07-10 11:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop watching TV until you go to bed it is all re-runs or junk. Do things that are free. Get excercise: Go for a walk, get out and get the blood flowing. It is amazing how better you will feel and the conversations you will have will help communication. Plan picnics or small events that is out of your normal routine.
Leave her little love notes. Sometimes happiness is having something to look forward to. What are both of you looking forward to?
2007-07-10 10:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by Bill 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go have a picnic. Go star gazing, find out if there are any free plays in your area. Have a carpet picnic in your home. Play a board game, etc. Just start doing fun things together. There are plenty that are free and it is just something to change things up.
2007-07-10 10:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by aitkenpatty 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Me and my man have been there! This sounds stupid but play a game like monopoly or sit outside and just chill together just cause she said shes bored dosent mean she wants to do stuff, just that she needs change I know im like that i need something diff once in a while. theres lots of stuff to do that doesnt cost money to, do you like to fish or do you live by a lake? good luck
2007-07-10 10:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by Heather G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find things to do when it gets boring. let her know that life is basically monotonous at times and be lucky we aren't back in the ages where there really was nothing to do.
Play games, take walks, drink wine and i can think of a few things that you can do to get to her when she is bored.
2007-07-10 10:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by Frank L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go for a early morning ride to a park somewhere you can walk and enjoy nature. it's very relaxing stop and get some breakfast too! try it you might like it
2007-07-10 10:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is she working? Maybe that's the problem, she could be helping to save for the wedding is she works.
2007-07-10 10:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Lulu 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋