welpp.i was engaged for 3 years and broke if off because there are just too many things i've gotta do with myself/life before i'm ready to share it with someone else.. such as college ~> but once i told him i wasn't ready to get married he broke of the relationship completely ... he told me that he was going to fight for us to be together and would wait for me to go to school. well then i hadn't talked to him in a couple weeks and i was searchin myspace .. found the girl he was dating and whoopsie found out that they had gotten married ,, only 3 months after he and i broke up . . .i was hurt . . .u can only imagine .. but after a year of not speaking at all he calls ... he's married and miserable ~> works 3rd shift so that he doesn't have to see his "wife" ... pushes him off onto his friends hoping that something will happen and he can leave her ...
but home he's moved back to our home town .. he was outa stae with his wife,, and he wants to spend time together ??
2007-07-10 03:13:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
please do yourself a favor and don't spend time with this guy.
he got married on the rebound, and had nothing to give to the girl he married, because he didn't take the time to adjust to life without you, his long-term relationship.
he isn't the type of person who puts much thought into his own life, nor does he take care of himself... if he did, he would never have jumped from the relationship with you straight into another one.
he isn't good for your emotional well-being.
take care of YOU... avoid him, do things with people who have it together, not him!!!!!
hugs
2007-07-10 03:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push yourself in complications. Haven't you had enough of pain? Find the right man, the first choice and forget the guy that is already 'married'. He seems to like naughty things. Would you imagine going back with you, then turn back to the new wife he is married now. What is this, hanky panky? Tell him you are not a football to be played. You are a human being, and you deserve the BEST. And to my openion? search for the best too!
2007-07-10 03:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Spark S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well personally you both screwed that up. First you saying you need to do things with your life before your ready to share it with someone??! Thats the whole point of marriage is to have someone with you to help and keep you company along they way! EX. I lived in the same town as my BF he got transfered to a city 2 1/2 hrs away for a huge job promotion. I moved at the end of my community college semester to be with him (we thought it was only going to be one year and I had a yr of basic classes before I had to transfer to a university in our old city.) 2 1/2 yrs later we are finally moving back home. I put my college on hold for a year. Not because of him but because of us. Life and marriage will never be easy. You made a mistake to think you could have it all your way and in the process probably hurt him more than you'll ever know. You ran him into the arms of another woman whom he married to prove he was worth marrying. Now his life is a mess and of course he wants to see you. Why would that surprise you? You need to stop thinking of what you felt when he married someone else and start thinking what he felt when you dumped his *** on the corner for him to wait like a little puppy dog while you wanted to go experiance life without him because it was easier that way. Three years of engagement and you broke it off???!! Your lucky he wants to still see you because that was one coldhearted move you made. Next time you might want to try and talk to your partner and express how you feel and what you want to do so you can plan your life together to do what you want to do and how your going to mutually acheive both of your goals instead of just deciding something by yourself and then doing it. because that is what you call communication in marriage honey. When you make decisions alone you end up alone, period. Good luck darlin because you have quite a road ahead of you.
2007-07-10 03:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good thing you stuck to your plan of going to school first and didn't have to suffer this fool like his current wife. He probably would have had the same conversation with her had you married him. Stay away from him because it will only bring you trouble that you don't need. There is a much better guy out there for you.
Take care.
2007-07-10 03:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by remowlms 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting involved with him would be the biggest mistake of your life. He has a lot of issues and divorcing his wife and marrying you won't fix them.
Stay in college and tell him not to call. See other people and live life.
This guy is an anchor and he will only drown you in his personal problems. Who needs that?
2007-07-10 03:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by Collette L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were right to make your choices, about going to college and doing something with your life.
He couldn't wait and got married on the rebound... so now he's miserable, and it's not your fault.
You're doing great. Letting him back into your life would be a step backwards.
2007-07-10 03:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Moo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. This guy isn't mature enough for a relationship. You did the right thing by trying to get your life together. Don't stop now!!!! Go about improving yourself and tell him to take a hike. You were wise before, be wise now. Good luck :)
2007-07-10 04:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him being low is unquestionably regular for good now. i'm obese to and known felt my son at 15 weeks. i'm now 36 and he's throughout along with his ft below my ribs. it gets a lot greater suitable and be throughout. My son is 6 pounds in there so it gets quite severe. i like it although. He has dropped so it gets even decrease in case you are able to think of. Congrats on your infant!!
2016-12-14 04:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he got married 3 months after your breakup? married? how long did he know this person? was he seeing her while he was still with you? either way that just sounds fishy! leave the guy alone to drown in his misery and keep on with your life and happiness. for someone to get married the way he did, it doesn't sound like he loved you the way he said he did anyway. and to shannon h....read the fricken question!!! she broke off the engagement, he is the one who broke off the relationship!!
2007-07-10 03:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by nytengayle13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right then you shoulda told him HELL NO! Why would you settle for used goods? For left overs??? Hell no you dont do that to yourself and if he loved you he would never screw you over like this!! Just delete all his numbers and stuff and go ob with your life, you are quite fine without him and you can get you a real man, the whole dish and not scraps!
2007-07-10 03:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋