Family & Relationships - 14 May 2007

Long story short: I studied in Mexico last year & met a man who I dated for awhile. The distance got hard after I moved back to the U.S. & we didn't talk for 3 months. While this was happening, an ex dropped through my town on his way to a job in Canada. After visiting me, he abruptly decided to stay in the U.S. & now is talking about moving to be with me. Now the guy from Mexico is back in the picture & he has expressed interest in us moving to the same location (I have been really wanting to return to Mexico City to live for awhile).

I'm scared & confused because I love both of them & I don't know what to do. I don't want to lead either of them on, but at the same time I don't know who to choose. I don't want the one in the U.S. to move here if I have feelings for the other guy. And I still want to move to Mexico eventually anyway... The one in the U.S. is like a best friend to me, but the one in Mexico adds passion to my life & makes me laugh a lot.

What do I do?? I am so torn.

2007-05-14 17:32:19 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

what should i do about my bestfriend who has a boyfriend and she always talks about issues to his boyfirned that don't need to be told, it always makes things worse when his boyfriend joined the issue. for example, we have a war with my boyfriend and i told my bestfriend about our war, she also told this to his boyfriend, which makes things worse again, and it affect my relationship with my boyfriend and bestfriend

2007-05-14 17:30:20 · 1 answers · asked by honey_106 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Oh crap!!!!!!!! im so dumb dumb dumb dumb dumb dumb. i thought it was next sunday.
what's a killer idea for a 'sorry i forgot' gift

2007-05-14 17:26:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We've been good friends for several months now. Last week, we were at my house. I had gone out to the car for a second, leaving her in my computer room with my purse. When I came back she recieved a phone call because her grandma had a stroke and went to the hospital. She hugged me, then left. I immediately noticed my wallet missing and called her out on it.

She left me a text message saying how sorry she was, ect. She is not poor, and I am not rich...so there really is no way to justify her actions. She will be bringing my wallet back first thing in the morning. (I had threatened going to the police, I have proof, and she is scared...so I don't know if she is really sorry or just sorry she got caught) She sent a text saying "Don't worry about you're money, I'm giving you an extra $100 since you had to go without" I replied that I didn't want an extra 100, just the $280 that was mine...but she still insists. Should I accept the extra money?

2007-05-14 17:24:27 · 14 answers · asked by Ali 3 in Friends

my girl friend and I(a girl) mess around with the whole bi-curiousity thing when bored. Why do guys getoff on that stuff?

2007-05-14 17:24:13 · 18 answers · asked by Nicoletta 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-05-14 17:22:59 · 13 answers · asked by fastaccord22 1 in Singles & Dating

My daughter is 15 and lives with her Dad in another state. She has a facebook page and posts family pictures on it.

She has added me as a friend and I look at her pics daily. Recently, some family members (ex-husband's cousins and sister/ kids) came to visit. She posted pics with them and they all looked happy.

I am at peace being alone most of the time. There is no one telling me what to do and how to live my life and criticizing me 24/7 for any and all decisions that I make or do not make.

However, I wonder if I am missing out on good times within an extended family because I am divorced.

I know that when we were married I was compared to everyone and called a "zero." I also was told that I had a "cranky face."

2007-05-14 17:22:03 · 4 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Just taking a break from the drama to have some fun. We all dream of that. I would run away to a tropical island, take my kids, ofcourse, hubby can stay here...god theres alot I would do, but I would start there. What would you do?

2007-05-14 17:21:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We’ve been dating about 1.5 years, I've just graduated college. Don’t get me wrong: things are really good. Our relationship is bizarrely healthy. I’ve been a cat person my entire life.

He asked me who I love more; I said “I love you equally.” Y’know, kitty gets my maternal affection, boyfriend gets romantic affection.

He thinks it’s weird that I wouldn’t immediately list him as “winning.” But man, my cat frickin' rocks. This isn’t a matter of hypothetically giving one up, saving one from a fire or whatever (human wins the fire scenario). He just thinks it’s a little weird that it took me so long to come to the conclusion that I love him more, and was a little insulted that I initially said I loved them equally.

He thinks most people would quickly decide that they love their human significant others more than their animal companions, and that my response was “weird.”

Who do you love more?

2007-05-14 17:20:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

guys, anybody please help!!! I have a crush on my ex prof. I'm going insane for two weeks already. I want to be around him all the time!!!! I have wierd intimate in nature dreams about him. and I can't freaking stop thinking about him. What should I do. We went out once. And now I just want to be with him. It's killing me. What should I do?!!!

Please help.

2007-05-14 17:18:44 · 7 answers · asked by Desert Rat 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-05-14 17:16:20 · 8 answers · asked by JuDyLicious 3 in Singles & Dating

Ok, here's the Deal: yesterday was my first mother's day. My man made me breakfast, then took a nap. We went to my grandmothers and he did some yard work, we came home he was supposed to make me dinner but went to bed at 6pm instead. Durring this he never even gave me a card. But he mad sure that we stoped a picked up head phones for his PS2 so he could play that. GRRRR------!

2007-05-14 17:10:53 · 14 answers · asked by Dazed and Confused 1 in Family

For example... yesterday while i was with some friends, i was combing my hair and all of a sudden it slipped out of my hand, i "jokingly" said "cheezus... comb almost took out my leg" because it landed on my knee (i was sitting down) it was one of those "spikey" combs, so anyway, i didn't intend it to be that funny, just a light-hearted comment sort of thing. So my friends didn't find it funny and then they turned it around on me and went all ape-**** saying stuff like "you exaggerate way to much, it's kind of stupid" or "it's not possible for a comb to tear your leg off" or something like that. So yeah, why does everyone take everything so seriously? (not everyone, i know that... just people i seem to know)

2007-05-14 17:08:33 · 4 answers · asked by Lamecore 2 in Friends

arrogant , stuck up and unapproachable? I am non of these traits i am a bit quiet and shy around some girls, I've been told I was attractive by different girls but I don't get approached much..

2007-05-14 17:07:52 · 6 answers · asked by DannyC 2 in Singles & Dating

my gf took sides with one of my friends against me. i had found out that she thinks hes hott. what that wrong of her to chose him b4 me? she was terlling me not to make fun of him. and teling me to bak off him.

2007-05-14 17:04:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Every guy I see with a girl, I can teel by the way they look and the way they talk that they are either a thug type or some kind of drunk partier. I think girls can tell what kind of person you are instantly and if you are shy, smart, reserved, not into drinking or don't have a attitude, they will just reject you! So what chance does a guy like me, who is kind of quiet and does not drink alcohol even have?

2007-05-14 16:55:38 · 26 answers · asked by AJ 1 in Singles & Dating

Neither of us are very religious I was raised catholic and he jehovah witness. We both left the churches we grew up with years ago and though we believe in god we both agree neihter one of us want belong to an organized religion.

So I'm trying to figure out what kind of ceremony to have...we both believe taking vows before god is important we are just unsure how to go about it.....I was thinking doing an outside ceremony with a minister keep it short and sweet focusing mainly on our vows and promise to eachother.......(some cremonies can be soooooo long & boring I don't want that AT ALL)

Any suggestions??

2007-05-14 16:54:39 · 17 answers · asked by cal_gal_81 3 in Weddings

she was the best person ever

2007-05-14 16:49:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Is it normal that I find female bodybuilders attarctive? I like normal women to, but there is something about a woman with bulging muscles that gets me going. Why is that?

2007-05-14 16:40:20 · 8 answers · asked by Mr. R 1 in Singles & Dating

i am gettin gmarried in 3 weeks and i just had a baby 3 months ago but i'm trying to lose the weight i gained by my weddin!! i gained over 60 pounds when i was pregnant and have 20 more to go i'm not expecting tolose it all by then but i would like to lose at least 10 more i have been dieting and excersing at least 4 times a week but the rate at which i'm losing has practically stopped i need something to get it going again PLEASE SOMEONE HELP!!!!!

2007-05-14 16:31:18 · 53 answers · asked by ashpchinds 1 in Weddings

2007-05-14 16:26:41 · 32 answers · asked by skye w 1 in Singles & Dating

My biological mother is a compulsive lier and so is her husband. She abandoned me when I was little and knowingly left my and my brother with an abusive father. She had choose to tell me she was in an accident and lost her memory so she wouldn't have to answer for the past. which I caught her countless times lying and try to back peddle. I tried several times until I had enough and told her I wanted nothing more to do with her and him. They are trying to ruin my life,reputation and family. I have 4 small children and they are harrassing me. Have called CPS and reported me. They came to my home and found the report unfounded and I have a copy of the report but they won't be happy until they have ruined my life. These are truly psychotic people who are evil and I believe won't stop at anything. I told them if they continued I would get a restraining order. There is just no reasoning with them they are both seriousley off their rockers. That is why I cut off communication.

2007-05-14 16:24:04 · 8 answers · asked by tigger46161 3 in Family

I am 45 yr this is my second marriage.I got married 7 yr back.I am highly qualified well placed professional.My wife is 43 yr, qualified , house wife also divorcee. We do not have kids.From the third day of our marriage my wife has been been very harsh to me,she has beaten me number of times with in the walls of our home, in the public places and in the running car. She has abused me in all possible filthy words. She has leveled all possible allegations against me.We live alone and no interference from any family members but she feels that I am influenced by my elder sister.I spoke to my wife's mother twice but no change in her behavior. I told my wife's brother and sister regarding this ill treatment but no help. But they are not aware that she has been beaten me number of times.My wife repeatedly tells me that if i share this problem with any body in that case she will commit suicide . I can say that her corrector is worse than the corrector of Rani Mukherjee in Black.Pl help .

2007-05-14 16:22:50 · 25 answers · asked by kumar s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have 4 children and my oldest daughter and one of my twin daughters didn't so much as call me for Mother's Day. I have helped both of them countless times. My oldest daughter married a man who is bisexual and very controlling - I don't like his ways. She had 2 children before they were married and he doesn't like them and it shows. The twin has an illness that will eventually kill her - I have also helped her countless times. I was a single mother with 4 children and I worked 3 jobs in order to continue our lifestyle when my ex-husband left. Should I write them each a letter and cut them off? I am hurting so badly because of this (not suicidal - just hurt).

2007-05-14 16:22:33 · 15 answers · asked by gdaniel_98 2 in Family

its really scary. I dress the complete opposite of skanky. I were long skirts, no cleavage, i dress like a lady i guess. but just about every guy teacher that i have had (well, the ones in their 20s-40s and i hope it ends there) have said something implying that they find me attractive. Something like i need too meet you mom (like i dont know what that means.) do i unconciously flirt, smile too much, what??? because it really creeps me out and i dont want to have to encounter a bold one when i go off to college.

2007-05-14 16:20:24 · 23 answers · asked by Candy 1 in Singles & Dating

Guys are still immature and 'aroused' at age 19 even. What age is it safe to start dating men? 25 or 30? and you are 22.

Thanks!

2007-05-14 16:16:39 · 20 answers · asked by Out of the Blue 1 in Singles & Dating

How often do you think a normal person checks their email if they tell you they check it REGULARLY?? i have been waiting for someone to respond to an email i wrote them like 2 days ago and still no reply... how long do you think i should wait?

2007-05-14 16:10:55 · 21 answers · asked by greenturtle 1 in Family

Example: If your brothers name is John smith and you name your son John Smith does that make your son Jr, the II, or is he just John Smith?

2007-05-14 16:04:49 · 32 answers · asked by Lewis C 1 in Family

What do i do? Act causual? Timid?

2007-05-14 16:03:18 · 14 answers · asked by Spida Man 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-05-14 16:02:08 · 22 answers · asked by Catherine <3 1 in Singles & Dating