Neither of us are very religious I was raised catholic and he jehovah witness. We both left the churches we grew up with years ago and though we believe in god we both agree neihter one of us want belong to an organized religion.
So I'm trying to figure out what kind of ceremony to have...we both believe taking vows before god is important we are just unsure how to go about it.....I was thinking doing an outside ceremony with a minister keep it short and sweet focusing mainly on our vows and promise to eachother.......(some cremonies can be soooooo long & boring I don't want that AT ALL)
Any suggestions??
2007-05-14 16:54:39 · 17 answers · asked by cal_gal_81 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That would work nicely.
2007-05-14 17:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of good suggestions already - nondenominational minister, outside ceremony, etc. - but you should also realize that your vows aren't the only thing you have full control of - it's your wedding! I planned our whole ceremony word for word - it was only about 10 minutes long, if that. I started with a traditional Christian ceremony - you can find many laid out on the internet. I just started "chopping out" what I didn't want included, and editing the rest to my liking. Neither my husband and I are religious, and we were married by a justice of the peace who happily agreed to say whatever we wanted! (At the end of the ceremony, we had him jokingly say "Alright, now, on to the good stuff!" although you clearly don't have to go THAT far ;-)
Anyway, the person you choose to conduct the ceremony is an important choice. Make sure it's someone who fully respects your wishes and doesn't mind letting you have complete "artistic license." They should be looking to you for what to say. So, good luck! Seems like you're already headed on the right track =)
2007-05-15 00:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by SecondStar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if there is someone in your life special enough that you would want them to perform the wedding ceremony for you, there is a websited online that allows anyone to become an ordained minister and they can then preform wedding ceremonies. You could also just check into the yellow pages in your phone book for local ministers or even a judge may do the wedding on location. Most will let you write your own vows, so that you can make them as special as you want! Oh, the place that lets you become a minister, it is based in california, so if you do a web search, i'm sure you can find it.
2007-05-15 03:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by trehuginhipee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a mayor or non-denominational clergy member marry the two of you. Have the ceremony outside in a romantic setting. Have an alternate plan for inclement weather.
The rain location could be where the reception is held or under some covering. If the wedding is small, have the wedding party hold umbrellas over the two of you and the minister. And distribute umbrellas tot he guests, but do not be hurt or offended if some of the guests skip the ceremony.
If you near an amusement park, try to see if you can get married on the merry-go-round or under th bumper cars. If it is raining, the amusement park will not be very busy and you would just have some unknown guests.
2007-05-15 00:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by JFH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest getting legally married in a registry office, and then having a member of the humanist society conduct a "religious" ceremony afterwards, with your own vows and religious readings and hymns. They are non-denominational, and so will not take the religious aspect either one way or the other, this is the only way I can see for the two of you to have a religious ceremony unless you both want to join a completely new church.
2007-05-15 04:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are all sorts of ministers-for-hire. Look online in your area for wedding ministers, and you should find some. If that doesn't work, ask around. Have you attended weddings where you liked the minister? If so, ask that minister to perform your ceremony. You don't necessarily have to belong to the church, as long as they have the weekend free and you're willing to make a contribution to the church (or pay them a fee).
Your idea sounds good. Good luck.
2007-05-15 08:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by kimpenn09 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a Justice of the Peace do the ceremony would not be any less before God than using a Priest. I imagine a judge would love to do it outside for once.
For the reception, consider doing it the way the JWs do, a come all and bring food invitation.
2007-05-15 01:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about checking out a Christian wedding. The priests are not long winded and keep it very simple.
Since you say that you both want to do it before God, this would make everything you said simple. Also, many Christian priests will perform the ceremony where you want, and not just in a church.
2007-05-15 03:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation as I am christian and my fiance is islamic. We also believe in taking vows before God, but dont want a "christian or islamic" wedding. Look for wedding chapels, the officiant can do the wedding there or wherever you choose. Look online for wedding vows. I found a site and put together vows from 3 different examples. I dont remember the site I found, but you can just do a search engine for "wedding vows". If you want to e-mail me, I would be happy to send you a copy of what I put together. Congrats.
2007-05-15 00:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a minister... you can still say your vows 'before God' without having a minister of a denomination you don't belong to officiate. "For where there are two or three assembled in my name, there am I in the midst of them"... so you can write your own vows and use a justice of the peace or marriage commissioner or whatever is available in your area, and still be true to your beliefs.
Much happiness to you.. I'm sure you'll find an officiant that will meet your needs!
2007-05-15 04:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by endorable 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write your own vows, that would be great.. After you have said them and are married have them frame art-ed and put on your wall.. When me and my husband got married we had the love is patient love is kind said at our wedding and now on our wall in a beautiful picture, it means the world to me... And outside wedding are wonderful, just be careful for the weather, always have a second option like your parents house, or a garage you know what I mean find a park that has a beautiful building so if it rains you are covered... good luck and congrats
2007-05-15 00:06:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋