Family & Relationships - 13 May 2007

Hi, last wk, it was my grandma's bday. My bf of 3 yrs (26 and I'm 25) was invited and he chose not to attend. He met my mom (once), not my close relatives. Yest, I was bridesmaid for my friend's wedding and was planned months in advance he would come. But at very last min., he told me couldn't come. His reasons are he is uncomfortable, and they are strangers to him, so what's the point of attending. The only function he attends is my bday (no-one else around). Strange part is that during our first yr, he attended almost all the functions I invited him to. He has social anxiety b/c for a potluck one time, he took social anxiety pills (no panic attacks though). Now, he backs out of everything. My friends/fam never said anything bad of him b/c it's impossible since he hardly met any of them. I attend all his fam/work events. He attends his friends' bdays. We have discussed about marriage. How can I get him to attend my friends/family functions?

2007-05-13 18:07:52 · 3 answers · asked by Mei Wah W 1 in Friends

Sometimes Dads don't get credit for raising their kids by themselves...Every Mothers Day, besides wishing my Mother Happy Mothers Day, I wish my Dad Happy Mothers Day too.
Its especially hard for a Dad, when he has a Daughter!

2007-05-13 18:07:11 · 1 answers · asked by iwish40 3 in Family

Back in high school I had a boyfriend for 3 years who took my virginity. I didn't always want to have sex as much as he did , but somehow he made me feel so guilty every time about not wanting to, I would give in. He told me there was something wrong with me, I should want to have sex all the time. He told me I was a freak and that no one else would ever want to be with me because of this "problem" I had. There would be times when I was in so much pain during sex because I really just didn't want to be doing it and I would be crying, but he wouldn't stop. This went on for probably close to 2 years out of the 3 years we were together. I was eventually able to brake up with him.

7 years later I got married to an amazing guy and we now have a beautiful baby. Although my husband and I both know I have some intimacy problems.

Do you think I was being raped by my old boyfriend? Do you think there is a correlation between what happened then and my problems with intimacy now?

2007-05-13 18:05:18 · 41 answers · asked by Shamrock 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Is it the looks?? cologne? outfit? pleaaeess help me!!

2007-05-13 18:02:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Are you visit friendlike or something else? Do you visit to just see what they look like or how they turned out? What's your story?

2007-05-13 18:02:30 · 2 answers · asked by Peggy Pirate 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

One of the childen (age 17) lives with his girlfriend.

The other boys age 3 and 12 live with them and are exposed to the drinking and drugs (cannot confirm this, but it is pretty common knowledge).

The father of these boys is jail.

I want to be a good example for these kids. I have started taking them to church and the 12 year old has spent the weekend at my house with my son. The three year old curses and hits you and I need advice on how to connect with him when he is getting NO GUIDANCE at home?

My husband says that it is not our problem. I want to "fix this" for those children.
Any advice on how I can be the BEST influence in the limitted amount of time that I spend with them?

2007-05-13 17:57:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Well i have just gotten over a girl who had broken my heart 3 times and i am trying to find out what kind of guy girls like. Im about 5'10", athletic build, Latino,and i am on the soccer team for my school. I jst want to kno wat girls look for in a guy looks, personality.

2007-05-13 17:56:13 · 1 answers · asked by Panda Dai 3 in Singles & Dating

i lost my virginity tonight, and it wasint what i expected. i thought that it would make me feel better about myself, sense all my friends are doing it and they told me i should. now i feel guilty as hell and i dont know why? i feel like i let my parents down, like i ignored everything they told me. they trusted me and i did this behind their back. just to fit in. help what should i do, what can i do to feel better? i just wish i could turn back time! if i just new then what i know now. that i would lose something so sacred forever, my innocence.


ps: i can't tell my parents they will be heartbroken. plus they won't trust me any more.

2007-05-13 17:53:57 · 22 answers · asked by lina c 1 in Family

If they ask, how much informtaion should you give them? Should you give them details about your past sexual life?

2007-05-13 17:51:36 · 20 answers · asked by Alison 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 3 years now and we've talked about getting married. He just graduated from college and has begun working full time. I don't graduate for another year and a half. I am ready to settle down and begin the next part of my life. I don't really have the nerve to talk to my boyfriend about it. All of my friends are getting married and it seems like everyone is pregnant. I feel that I am ready to get married and start a family. WHAT SHOULD I DO???

2007-05-13 17:50:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Ok, so I found out that my dad has cancer. The problem is, I have only known him for about two years and have only met him 3 or 4 times. As I grew up without a dad, I kindof grew really attached. It's so awkward that I have to call him by his first name, but I want to get to know him and tell him how much I care, but I don't know how to do that when I can't even manage to call him "dad." I know that his family treated my mom really badly when they found out that she was pregnant, so they don't really talk and he lives in the other side of the United States. I have the chance to come up to his house for about a week this summer with his girlfriend (emphasis on girlfriend, although I do like her). The question is, how do I break the ice without it being completly awkward?

2007-05-13 17:49:19 · 8 answers · asked by Emily 2 in Family

Why don't ladies from the Philippines marry Indian men.

2007-05-13 17:47:50 · 7 answers · asked by Alison 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I jst left my cellphone around back stage and lter i noticed his name and #on my list.Obviously he added himself to my cell.

So shoulda call bck? OR txt? (see him sundays)( I really lk him)
If Ireply, WHEN? tomorror or couple days lter?
(Like how long shoulda keep him waiting is enough?)If I did this, i'll be thinkin bout his call every min.lol

Used to guy askin for#, callin first .Not used to a guy jst leavin his number, will I seem desperate or somthin if I call?
Whatever that makes him want me more and not seem desperate or stupid and NOT seems lk i'm easy to get.

2007-05-13 17:44:19 · 8 answers · asked by Jenny 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm 20 with a 4 month old daughter, I'm living in a small town with my family right now, I plan to move back to the city with my daughter to live with my boyfriend. My mother does not want me to do this and plans to go to my boyfriend with information from the past that would ruin our relationship if I try to leave, I could really use some advice, anything that could stop her from doing this, thanks

2007-05-13 17:43:08 · 21 answers · asked by Rebecca B 2 in Family

What is the difference between snuggling & cuddling?

2007-05-13 17:42:50 · 6 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Singles & Dating

detention on tuesday after school for a half hour. if our school ends at 2:45. what time would be a half hour after that? any ideas on how to get out of it? and since she will only make it for another day assuming i do get out of it tuesday so i can go to dance tryouts what will i tell my mom when i have to stay after school?

I have never got detention b4 and I cant tell my mom the truth. I didnt do anything bad i just talked too much in class while she was talking.

2007-05-13 17:41:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I`m going to NJ for about a week with my mom and dad because my family on my dad`s side lives there.My cousin Brenda has this friend named Ethan and we text eachother every once in a while and send pictures (don`t worry,my cousin goes to school with him).My cousin told me that Ethan thought that i was hot and that she has a major feeling that he is going to like me.I dunno why she said that but she is almost always right about this kind of stuff.I think he is pretty cute.I never had these type of summer love kind of stuff.I`d at least like to experience it this summer.

I definetly need to learn how to live life to the max,have fun,and flirt and stuff.I`ve always been shy but i really want to show that i like to have fun and that i do want something amazing to happen this summer.How can i acheive that?

2007-05-13 17:40:34 · 6 answers · asked by Richelle 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok so I know that my boyfriend uses me. He also cheats on me. And I know for a fact that if I didn't put out, he would drop me like that. I want to break up with him, but I am so in love. I just don't think he'll ever be able to love me the way that I love him. I wish this could be easy, how do I make him love me or make my love for him go away?

WHY DO I ALWAYS FALL FOR THE BAD ONES????

2007-05-13 17:39:39 · 20 answers · asked by michelle g 1 in Singles & Dating

bangalore or mumbai ....in matters of climate ,safety ,entertainment, ,job oppurtunities ,etc .....i personally bangalore is betta .....wht do ull think !! :D

2007-05-13 17:17:27 · 11 answers · asked by (omplExity _|_ 1 in Friends

I was joking around with my husband and said that not only should the baby get me a present, but the dogs too. Again, this was a joke. My husband turned around and said, "YOU EXPECT A GIFT!"

I was a bit hurt. I didn't even get a card today. Zip, zilch, nada, NOTHING! He said our baby was my gift. Am I in the wrong to feel a bit hurt about this?

2007-05-13 17:15:45 · 51 answers · asked by Peanut Butter 5 in Marriage & Divorce

It's been at least three years since the last time I was that close to a girl. All relationships I had ended pretty bad, she either turned lesbian or prefered pot over me, things of that trashy nature.
It's funny and weird that while feeling a bit lonely, I just don't get the impulse to go after any girl. Close girl-friends (the kind of friend you wont date cause you are just close friends) tell me I am a waste cause supposedly I am not that bad looking.
Any suggestions, because I feel like this thing is building some bad repression or I don't know what to call it inside my head.
And I am definetly not attracted to males at all so it's not like I am switching.

2007-05-13 17:08:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Would you be mad if you were dancing with you women and in the middle of song, she pushes you away to dance with an other guy that she had feeling for?


btw the way they were freaking each other~

2007-05-13 16:55:49 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a friend who lost his girlfriend but he was ok because she wanted to be his best friend. But now her new boyfriend tells her to not be his friend anymore. So she tells him she cannot talk to him on the phone anymore. She is not his girlfriend anymore and she is not his best friend. Could this be traumatic for him?? Both of them have common interest and are adults. He has known her for two months and half.

2007-05-13 16:51:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

not even just emotionally, but physically? how come you feel heartbreak physically? is it dangerous? can it be fixed?

2007-05-13 16:44:44 · 8 answers · asked by ~*~Sweet Turtle Luver~*~ 3 in Singles & Dating

I have a new wife. She is wonderful, caring, kind, every imaginable beautiful word that comes to mind describes her. My problem is that she is very hard on my two boys. They have suffered through a divorce in which their mother left and has moved five hours away by plane. My new wife loves my kids but is very strict in her care for them. She is responsible for them when I am working and therefore I feel she has a right to set rules, I am concerned that this change in style is hard on them. She claims that my lack of strictness is what could have contributed to the demise of my first marriage. We are best of friends, we love each other, but I feel a bit distant from my kids and it hurts. How do you balance your love for your kids and your relationship with your spouse. A tough question, not sure how someone can answer, just looking for some encouraging words...thanks

2007-05-13 16:44:22 · 21 answers · asked by hunter65 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm a single mom I work I go to school so I think I'm a very hard working person but for the past couple of years I haven't had any luck with guys. Lately its my self-esteem level hit a big time low. My family moved to a new town about two years ago and being a single mom I haven't had much of a chance to make new friends! About two years ago right before I moved one of my friend's took me over to one of her guy friend's houses and him and I hit it off really well. We started talking and it was great. Then I remembered that I was moving soon and I couldn't do a long distance relationship plus I was really scared it was my first time being in a kind of relationship since I had my little girl so I kind of scared him off by pushing my daughter on him to fast. So he stopped calling and we never saw each other again. Then about 3 weeks ago he calls up my friend and ask for my number just out of the blue and he starts calling me again. I've talked to him a few times its really boosting my self-esteem. I know that the two of us have grown up a lot but I’m still kind of scared of having a long distance relationship. I just don’t know why this guy I only met once 2 yrs ago wants anything to do with me now. I didn’t even think he ever thought of me again after it ended. I want to ask him that but I’m scared to. I have my own confessions to make like how I kind of knew what I was doing when I scared him off but I’m afraid if I tell him that I kinda meant to do it he might get scared again. I don’t know why but I’m happy to just be able to talk to him when he calls me its like the 2 yrs never happened. And my friend she just keeps saying I knew there was something there. He said that he hasn’t had a real girl friend in 3 yrs and its kinda the same with me could it be that we are both just lonely. ( he’s a cute guy and very nice I know he wouldn’t have trouble finding a girl but he works a lot.) I just don’t know what to do or what to think why after 2 yrs?

2007-05-13 16:37:15 · 16 answers · asked by anglzndskyz2 2 in Singles & Dating

" I rather be hated For who I am Than be loved for who i am not"?
i heard that it is kurt cobain who said it...but we cant follow it as he already suicidal?what is the moral behind this?and why would he do this?he doesnt love himslef?

2007-05-13 16:35:58 · 10 answers · asked by truth set free 1 in Marriage & Divorce

...he never thank me for the cards. We have been divorce for many years. Shall I stop the cards. I never hear from him on Mother Day.

2007-05-13 16:30:52 · 17 answers · asked by didibailey 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Even on our wedding night, he didn't seem as enthusiastic as I thought. I'm feeling that he must have been disappointed or found me unattractive. I'm feeling really sad and that I've let him down.

2007-05-13 16:29:17 · 21 answers · asked by Newlywed 1 in Marriage & Divorce

She cheated and left me about 7 months ago and we share our kids every other week together. I was and am still hurt but trying to hold the moral high ground. After talking to my kids tonight i asked for her and i told her happy mothers day and she said thanks. was that ok. oh and i also had the kids get her cards and pick out a couple of presents. she is still with her homewrecker.

2007-05-13 16:29:08 · 10 answers · asked by tyler d 1 in Marriage & Divorce