Family & Relationships - 13 May 2007

I'm divorced 3 yrs now. Many time he missed his maintenance payments. He pays an amount per child as well as the schoolfees. All into my account. Usually I paid the schoolf from the first amount that enters my acc. Lately he only paid a sum, equal to the schoolfees, nothing else. Am I legally binded to pay the schoolfees first? It's not stated so, anywhere. There is no way to keep my household running without the rest of the money. Last 2 months I did not pay the school, as I needed money in the house. Can he or his lawyer expect me to do so?

2007-05-13 22:10:39 · 9 answers · asked by Zettie 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Does it sound Cruel!

But the actual fact is every 8 in every 10 Household neglect their parents when they reach 80+.
When they are full of illness and full of problems

i would consider the following form of action "discard":
Put them in the old folks home.
Push responsibilty among siblings.
Visit Them less than 5 times a year.

The common excuse are for discard:
My house is too small for them to come and stay.
Both me and my Husband/Wife are working.
We are facing Financial Difficulty
We have Kids to take care
Many more....

Can you guys pls contribute "WHY & WHAT" have circumstances made you so "choiceless" that you have to discard your own parents?

Dont you remember how they sacrifice everything to take care of you when you are sick when you are a kid!

2007-05-13 21:56:46 · 10 answers · asked by novkhan 1 in Family

2007-05-13 21:53:45 · 9 answers · asked by sony_var 1 in Family

I am 32 and my husband is 34. We have been married for 4 yrs. no child yet.But my husband is not financially stable yet. As I am also earning we are pulling on somehow. My husband gets very less salary. If we have a child the expenses and commitments increases. Incase I am not able to continue with the job everything has to be managed with his salary which is next to impossible. Only thing is that he is having bit of property. having a child in this kind of a situation is it suitable. Everybody says that as you get aged it is very difficult. But I am not able to take a right decision in this kind of a situation when my husband is not financially stable and he doesn't have a savings of a single pie. I have made a little of savings

2007-05-13 21:43:49 · 17 answers · asked by janu 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Why do girls tease guys? She is just doing it to be mean. Like she was making signs that I was gay like the ******* handmotion which I thought was extremely rude considering I am not gay at all.

And she laughs whenever something bad happens to me with her friends of course.

She is a nice person but sometimes she does things that are just so mean.

She doesn't like me she has a crush on some other guy and has been since the VERY beginning of the year. Sometimes she talks to me like a friend but then she is like sooo ******* mean and annoying.

Why?????

Also note: I do not have a crush on her at all for those of you who might have said something like that. I used to at the beginning of the year but then I got to know her and didn't like her anymore.

2007-05-13 21:41:15 · 8 answers · asked by Matthew E 3 in Singles & Dating

We both know this is not right but we want to keep the friendship intact and no we did not sleep with each other and I am goind out of my wits. Our spouse knows we go out together and there is no objections. Tell me what am I supposed to do and he is younger than me!!

2007-05-13 21:39:56 · 12 answers · asked by babyface 1 in Friends

2007-05-13 21:33:55 · 10 answers · asked by gofmos 1 in Singles & Dating

My galfrnd left me 1 year ago and got married to another guy. but still i think of her and miss her terribly. i often feel jelous thinking about her that she is loving her husband more than me. do i still love her or not ? when will i get rid of this jelous feeling.

2007-05-13 21:28:09 · 29 answers · asked by lakme s 1 in Friends

I'm getting married in a few weeks and my fiance and I both agree that we want to draw up a prenuptual. It would be a simple document. I own the house we live in, we have no children together and never will and our savings are minimal. I certainly don't want to pay a solicitor to draw this up for me as its so straightforward. If we divorce, he has no claim on my house and we each keep what possesions and savings we had going into the marriage. I've found websites where you can download a form but it still costs money. I know that drawing this up ourselves will not be legally binding, but I've been led to believe that NO prunuptial agreements are legally binding in England anyway, its up to the divorce judge to decide if it should stand.

2007-05-13 21:15:41 · 9 answers · asked by firefly3050 1 in Weddings

2007-05-13 21:15:29 · 15 answers · asked by BB5150 1 in Singles & Dating

I want to take a divorce from my wife but she is pregnant.
how can i take a divorse from her please tell the sollution

2007-05-13 21:14:44 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

that he is just having time out (we were spending all our time together) and if i just let him be he will contact me again or should i make the move and call him? Guys have you ever just chilled for a week or two for a breather and then got back in touch with the girl? Does this actually happen or is he giving me the miss?

2007-05-13 21:14:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I like my best guy friend from high school...but he's got a die hard thing for the girl that he fell for in high school, who is also a good friend of mine. They got close last summer and dated for three weeks towards the end. They broke up because they were going to different schools. She is not showing interest in him and recently told him that they would have to build up back to friends, let alone to a romantic status again (which hurt him badly). He said that he doesn't want to build things up only to have them end like they did last summer, with him calling her and her being too busy to make time for him.
I've been trying to get something going with other seemingly more interested guys...but to no avail.
I'm trying to get over him, but he's so flirty and very sweet to me, sometimes in a more-than-friendly way. He asked me if I liked him and I told him that I did...Then he got even more flirty, even after he made plain that he had no interest in me.
What is up with him?!

2007-05-13 20:58:46 · 5 answers · asked by thatsalovelypainting 2 in Singles & Dating

I have ever never talk to him or even look at him but his tring to make a relationship with me, he sends me letters or he calls me every day, I have no idea where did he get my number! would you help me please???

2007-05-13 20:49:38 · 20 answers · asked by negar_solati16 1 in Singles & Dating

Guys...when you admit you are "missing" a certain female
as in you wish you had as much time to spend with her as you used to...
What are you really saying?


Does it take a LOT for a guy to admit he's missing a female?

2007-05-13 20:49:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I got to see this guy for a month when he was on leave. Spent everyday together and had THE BEST time. He leaves and I barely hear from him. Here's the thing, he hardly talks to his mom too. His mom told me things that he's said, like, "She's nothing that I've ever met before, I can be myself when I'm with her and it feels good." When he was here, it was like I was the gf w/o the commitment. His mom wants me to wait for him. He comes home for a little bit in Dec. b4 he's deployed to Iraq again. She thinks that he still likes me alot. His mother and I are close too! She calls me "daughter" and calls to check on me. I'm scared. I'm afraid that when he comes back, the same thing is gonna happen like they did last time and I get attached. I can't be a temporary girlfriend. But, I don't want to give up either. Why would he tell his mom these things if he didn't like me? Am I getting the run around? Or is he "married to the military?" Is he just not interested? I don't understand.. Thanks!

2007-05-13 20:44:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm a high school teacher, so I know teenagers are a bit self involved. But my daughter takes it to a completely different level. We try to do all we can for her (monetarily, physically, emotionally, spiritually) however, she treats us like we are nothing more than money bags. Whether it's prom, a car (yeah, it's a P.O.S. car, but it's wheels she didn't pay for), or a coach purse for her 18th birthday, she will take these things gladly but then doesn't show any love or respect for us. She LOVES her friends.
Am I being a sucker for giving in (and in essence attempting to buy the love she will not show) or should I keep trying?
p.s. Her little sister is totally the opposite

2007-05-13 20:39:30 · 23 answers · asked by Brenda J 3 in Family

I have been depressed for a little while after nearly losing my son in a car accident , moving away from my family for this man and having him lie to me and hit me when he gets angry. To the extent on whipping me. Today it was a bad day for me being alone and wanting him to come straight home. He came home yelling at me because I needed him home and apparantly he drove like a maniac and hit the side of his truck on a tree. He has even driven through a fence when he has got angry. I know I needed him home but is it my fault he chose to drive so irratically and damaged his own truck. Please tell me if I should be blaming myself.

2007-05-13 20:32:34 · 26 answers · asked by golden tigress 3 in Singles & Dating

im 22 and my parents are against me dating. ive been with a wonderful man for over a year and things are great. I've met his parents and they love me. I am very focused and plan to go to graduate school after i take a year off to work. My bf is planning on going to law school and has a very good job at the moment. I know my parents will disapprove. Even if i brought home bill gates they dont want me dating at all. Im so scared to tell them but i think its gone on far enough. My dad dated while in school and my mom got married when she was 23 but they wont let me date. I hate the fact that they are so strict and unrealistic. I am completely dependant on them until i find a job to live on my own...should i tell them and risk not seeing my long distance bf for a WHILE or not tell them and keep hiding it. The only reason im contemplating telling them is that my graduation is nearing and my family as well as my bf will be there. I dont want there to be an awkward situation. What should i do

2007-05-13 20:30:49 · 26 answers · asked by lovesickprincess 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years now. Over the last year we have been arguing a lot and I feel that he is pushing me away. He has gone from being a really loving, affectionate and commited partner to more like a brother or a friend. I have to always ask him to kiss or cuddle me and he rarely says I love you unless I have said it first. More than anything, I want to get married and have a baby (Im 36 hes 41) but hes not so keen and changes the subject when it is brought up. It makes me so upset as I have done everything for him and his kids, have always put them first and feel like I have received nothing from him in return. I feel so unhappy and when I tell him that he says that it is me and wont see that it is him making me miserable. I try talking to him but it always ends in an argument then he acts like nothing has happened. I dont want to leave him as I love him so much, but I cant handle the arguments and rejection any more, its killing me. What can I do?

2007-05-13 20:25:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ive always been really nice to them and they hate me for some reason. I dont know why. I think he is so scared of them that he wont even tell them we are seeing eachother anymore, He has to sneak around to see me. Why wont he stand up to them? I know he loves me but why wont he?

2007-05-13 20:23:47 · 9 answers · asked by slass 1 in Singles & Dating

There is this guy that i know who has trouble showing emotions! I have tried to help but it isnt working! He sometimes tries but for example if a girl sends him a really sweet message telling him how she feels he doesnt reply! When she asks him why he says cause she should know how he feels already! But girls like to be reminded! I tried to explain this to him but he got upset about it! How can i help him out?

2007-05-13 20:16:42 · 5 answers · asked by Stacey-Lee 3 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have close friends who, like us, are going thru a tough time in their marriage. I never give opinions on their relationship unless I'm asked, but they are very judgemental of our relationship. One minute I'm told by both of them I'm too outspoken and b#itchy, and should "just let him do what he wants", the next they tell me I'm too soft and should "put my foot down with him". I feel like they are constantly judging and 'grading' me, as to who is to blame.

I get the feeling that they do it to make themselves feel better about their marriage - like, our relationship is worse than theirs and that makes them feel better. They are the same about parenting too. They are always telling me the 'right way' to do things with our daughter and how I'm always doing things wrong. They try to say they're just being helpful, but I don't see it that way.

Am I being oversensitive? What's your perspective?

2007-05-13 20:13:12 · 17 answers · asked by kmlloveplant 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm a bit over 40 and I like women in the thirties and forties; if they've taken decent care of themselves then they look just great at those ages.

Personally, I'ld like to father and raise another kid or two. What I need, ahem, is a woman capable of the task, so to speak, as well as willing and interested.

I would just like to come out and ask woman I meet in this age group if they still fertile but I really do not want to slight or offend anyone with such a personal question at a first meeting.

Yet its important to me, and if for no other reason I can at least find a basis for some other kind of relationship once I know one way or the other.

After all, its getting to be September, so to speak, and I'm running out of time. I'l like to see the kids through thirty, even though I would otehrwise provide well for them.

So what is a nice, unoffensive way to bring up this subject without putting the other person on the defensive?

2007-05-13 20:09:43 · 5 answers · asked by Radzewicz 6 in Singles & Dating

I have this question from my friend. She's bothered that when she text her guy friend as she used to before, this guy refuse to meet her coz he doesn't want to cheat his gf?

For all u know, they had not meet for 5 years coz my friend go to other places. WHAT DO U THINK? PLEASE HELP ME TO ANSWER THIS QUESTION FOR MY FRIEND.

This question is open to all guys & girls.

Thanks for your time in answering this question.

2007-05-13 20:07:25 · 11 answers · asked by Dawnz 3 in Friends

im 21 and i have very protective parents. they don't want to let me move out till i graduate college , get a job as an architect and get a good car. my sister is 28 and still lives at home. she is successful but i dont want to be here longer. i think they want me to be like her but i need my freedom. its like im still a child because i still have to ask permission to do everything. i want to move out w/ 2 other girls. the place is 850 all together w/ 3 bedrooms. i only make 650 a month...do u think i should do it? i know i could make it work and i realize i wouldn't have money to just waste but my parents WONT LET ME. im over 18 but they dont care. they will NOT let me leave. what do i do? how do i make them see that i need to do things on my own? any advice please!!

2007-05-13 20:07:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

One problem after another.....WHY????

2007-05-13 20:02:07 · 36 answers · asked by aNjAsMaRa 2 in Family

There is this married woman at work who is having an affair with a married man. I speak to him sometimes and we are friends,he told me she is very jealous and possessive. Anyway,this one day he called me and i didnt know but she was listening outside the room,she then folowed me outside and started threatening me and getting angry,i told her i already have a bf-which i have. I just dont need the hassle at work,i had to leave the last building i worked at over a man,if she gets me in trouble i could get the sack but i havent done anything wrong I also dont like the atmosphere between me and her,she is very moody.

2007-05-13 20:02:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hi, my bf is the sweetest but sometimes, when he gets playful, he now likes to jump on my back for fun after I proved to him that I'm fit. I may be a cheerleader but it can get tiring on the thighs on a bad day. Since it's in the spirit of fun, I'll still oblige but isn't this supposed to be the other way around (well he gives me rides too but I thought it was exclusively the guy's role)?

And oh yeah, has anyone else experienced this or am I ... hmm ... the only one who is odd and peculiar?

2007-05-13 20:00:07 · 5 answers · asked by Stacy J 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-05-13 19:58:18 · 31 answers · asked by melisa 2 in Friends