ive always been really nice to them and they hate me for some reason. I dont know why. I think he is so scared of them that he wont even tell them we are seeing eachother anymore, He has to sneak around to see me. Why wont he stand up to them? I know he loves me but why wont he?
2007-05-13 20:23:47 · 9 answers · asked by slass 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you both under age? In school or something? if so your bf probably has not got any way to go against his family since he depends on them for support etc. However, if he is out and has a job etc. there is no excuse. Talk to him and ask him why, if he cant explain it he has no backbone and you will forever be relegated to being the other woman in this family, he will do what they say and you will have to live with it...or not....in which case you need to find a bf with some backbone.
2007-05-13 20:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write his parents a letter. Sometimes people get so caught up in their emotions that they won't let another speak before they lash out. Whatever their problem is, writing a letter can't hurt. Since you're writing it, you don't have to deal with the direct confrontation or any intimidation. They won't be able to interrupt you. Don't write an angry letter; just express how you feel and ask why they feel the way they do. Just say how you feel. I'm not saying this is the cure, but it can't hurt.
Heath
2007-05-13 20:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by heath e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you that, but he cares for his family more than he does for you.
He is the kind of guy that needs his family to apprave of his relationships.
It would be interesting to ask him why does his family hates you so much and why he doesn't stand up to them.
Then ask yourself how long you can put on with a relationship with this guy, because the moment you 'll tell him to deal with his family, he will find excuses
You are losing your time with someone that is not ready to really be with you,
2007-05-13 20:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by annelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents will do anything to find out stuff about their kids boyfriend and girlfriend because they wouldn't want their kids to get hurt! they are probably too scared because you guys are still young and maybe the thought about you guys moving in together have them feeling that they are going to lose his son too young! good luck!
2016-05-17 12:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he needs to learn to stick up for himself but you must remember, parents often have reasons for everything. I know you feel terrible but give them some time to get to know you better. Sometimes you have to prove yourself and if he's the one for you then make effort to show them how much you care bout their son.
2007-05-13 20:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone says that silence happens because two of them love each others! However, i dun know if your boy friend says he hates u. mayb, u should change another boyfriend...
2007-05-13 20:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by innovatinglife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hes lived with his family for oh about his WHOLE damn life, he wants to make sure its worth it to be with you before blowing his family off
2007-05-13 20:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to leave him and find a man with a backbone!!!
2007-05-13 20:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you he wont care, but thats your choice.
2007-05-13 20:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by bienbuenote 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋