Meeting Older Women?

Question

I'm a bit over 40 and I like women in the thirties and forties; if they've taken decent care of themselves then they look just great at those ages.

Personally, I'ld like to father and raise another kid or two. What I need, ahem, is a woman capable of the task, so to speak, as well as willing and interested.

I would just like to come out and ask woman I meet in this age group if they still fertile but I really do not want to slight or offend anyone with such a personal question at a first meeting.

Yet its important to me, and if for no other reason I can at least find a basis for some other kind of relationship once I know one way or the other.

After all, its getting to be September, so to speak, and I'm running out of time. I'l like to see the kids through thirty, even though I would otehrwise provide well for them.

So what is a nice, unoffensive way to bring up this subject without putting the other person on the defensive?

I just want to make clear that I have two wonderful kids quite grown now, one about to enter medical school.

Theroetical sciencee aside, a surprizingly large number of women in their 30's and above have had hystorectomies. And though the theory-mean age for menopause is 43, its younger for women I'm likely to be attracted to.

Let me say again, I'ld like to sort this out BFORE it get to "first date" stage.

Anyway "Judge ye not, that ye be not judged."

I do so like the "Ask what she has planned for the next two years" reply.
That speaks right from the heart, to the heart.

Because if you ask someone that at a first meeting she'll likely know in her mind exactly what you're really asking and can either indicate her pleasure to follow it through a bit more, or a "lets go on a different tact", response.
I do so like that answer. Click.

Answer 1

the best way is to be casual, ask what do they have planned for the next two years or even their futures, any kids or if they already have some, more kids?...I don't think that's rude or offensive.

Answer 2

If you like women in their 30s and 40s, they are all fertile unless they have gone through a traumatic experience like cancer or something akin to it.
Menopause does not happen until 50-ish, thus, rendering her infertile.
I wouldn't ask until the 3rd date or so. I would broach the subject like this, "So, do you like kids? Do you want to have children of your own someday?"
Don't go into the great detail about what you want, providing well, blah blah...that will scare most women off.
By the way, I am 30 and hardly consider myself an "older woman." I still want children...someday. Maybe in 5 years or so. I don't even feel like an older woman with my 23 year old boyfriend.

Answer 3

well you don't just come out and ask that... but you are on a date then you can always bring up the subject of children and you wanting to have one... in the future...... If she feels that you and her might click.. then she will be open to tell you if she is able to have children....... It can be a touchy subject if the women can't have children and she still wants one.. so let her offer as much informations without you asking straight out........

Answer 4

Most women over 35 or 40 do not want to have any more children. It is very hard to carry a child when you get older. Most pregnancies at that arge are considered "high risk" pregnancies. You should have thought about having children earlier in life, if you like older women.

Answer 5

meeting older women!! wow! MILFS!!!
yup im 19 n i was wit a older women about late 30s early 40s
and she was great though me some good things. ha