She cheated and left me about 7 months ago and we share our kids every other week together. I was and am still hurt but trying to hold the moral high ground. After talking to my kids tonight i asked for her and i told her happy mothers day and she said thanks. was that ok. oh and i also had the kids get her cards and pick out a couple of presents. she is still with her homewrecker.
2007-05-13 16:29:08 · 10 answers · asked by tyler d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that's fine. She is your children's mother. It's nice that you can still show some respect for that - nice for the kids to see that you still respect her as their mother. It gives them a sense of security - knowing that it's ok for *them* to do the same - that you'll be ok with that -and- encourage it in them.
I hope she does the same for you in return.
2007-05-13 16:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are definitely holding the high moral ground, and congratulations to you for that. Not many people would be so grown up about it. It is so nice you got a card and gifts for your kids for her. She probably really loved it. She may start thinking she made a mistake with the home wrecker. Keep being the big one, you will feel much better and you are setting a great example for your kids. Kudos to you, more dads should be like you.
2007-05-13 16:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it was good you said happy mother's day to her. She is the mother of your kids. I am in a similar situation as yourself and I try to keep the animosity between the mother of my kids and myself away from my kids. No matter what, you have kids together that need 2 parents that are concerned with raising well adjusted kids.
2007-05-13 16:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by david d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was nice. She is the mother of your kids and you taught the kids a big lesson in forgiveness by letting them know you wanted to do that. I doubt she will reciprocate on Father's day ....but who cares. Long as you get your kids regularly and keep your temper at any cost!
Kids need Dads, like you!
2007-05-13 17:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you haven't let go and by asking here your asking is it OK to hold pent up feelings. Brother you ned to get some help letting go. Why would you give presents to someone who cheated on you. Seek medical attention.
2007-05-13 16:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Village Player 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are a great father for recognizing that she still is the mother of your children, she may not have been a great wife but if she is good to your children its nice to let her know that you appricate that..plus it makes you look soo much better that you haven't stouped to her leveal..I am sure it made her homewreking boyfriend a bit uncomfortable as well
2007-05-13 16:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by KFD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that was a very decent, sweet thing to do.
Hopefully you will have touched her heart and she
will see her wrong. Good luck, God bless.
2007-05-13 16:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats nice of you, i is sometimes good to keep the peace in the family.
2007-05-13 16:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it is ok i wouldn't do it or but the presesnts but to each is own
2007-05-13 16:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!! You are a gentleman!
2007-05-13 16:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋