One of the childen (age 17) lives with his girlfriend.
The other boys age 3 and 12 live with them and are exposed to the drinking and drugs (cannot confirm this, but it is pretty common knowledge).
The father of these boys is jail.
I want to be a good example for these kids. I have started taking them to church and the 12 year old has spent the weekend at my house with my son. The three year old curses and hits you and I need advice on how to connect with him when he is getting NO GUIDANCE at home?
My husband says that it is not our problem. I want to "fix this" for those children.
Any advice on how I can be the BEST influence in the limitted amount of time that I spend with them?
2007-05-13 17:57:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hugs!!!! Give those poor kids hugs and smiles.
Try to be patient. They obviously need good influences. With out much guidance they are exhibiting behavior that was learned or ignored(more likely both).Even if they don't admit it kids pay attention to adult behaviors.They appreciate and long for guidance.
With limited time that you spend with them your best bet to make an impact is hugs.
Thank you for wanting to to get involved. I'm sorry you don't get more support from your husband. Most have the "its not our problem mentality" and at the same time wonder how our world is the way it is.
Good luck to you and them.
2007-05-13 18:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by suprjeenyus 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the state The best thing is for these kids to be removed from that ladies home u can do it with out giving a name.
2007-05-14 01:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by anglzndskyz2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run dont walk to the nearest phone and call social services- if you even SUSPECT the children are being exposed to drinking and drugs (and potential abuse) they are endangered. period. while you are being a good friend to these children you have no legal recourse to protect them if need be. get them the help they need. i know the system is not perfect but its better than drugs in the house. social services might be able to get them to a family member who they can live with if it cant be you
if you do nothing and something happens to one of them- would you be able to live with that? thats the question i would ask myself.
take care and good luck
2007-05-14 01:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by cometkatt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you can do is call child welfare. Those kids should not have to live in a house with drug addicts!!!
2007-05-14 01:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call social services and report them. It would be best for the kids.
2007-05-14 01:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with the influence their getting at home theres not much you can do unless you want to be a full time parent to these children, if so discuss this with their parents if not contact dss, they deserve better than they are getting.
2007-05-14 01:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋