Parenting - January 2007

I'm a widower(age 32) with a 3-year-old daughter(N).My colleague (J. - woman,age 29) isn't married and lives with that girl - L.(age 16,her parents have lived in another country for the last year and are going to spend a year more but they weren't able to take her) who often comes to work and sometimes helps.L. knows N since N was born and N looks at L as she is something like her mother(L often babisits N,disciplines her,feeds her,buys her clothes when needed,etc.).Recently N has started to ask questions about her mother.I can't tell her the truth now(her mother was murdered) and don't know how to explain that.N's mom was a very close friend to L(just as J is a friend to L) and when N asks L about her mom,L answers but after that gets upset,sometimes cries(L has been there when my wife was murdered).N and L are very close too and I can't make N not to ask L about her mom.One sentence - What should I and L do???Pls help(L doesn't know I've asked that question)

2007-01-17 02:48:01 · 13 answers · asked by michael 1

off by themselfs as long as they kno what to do

2007-01-17 02:10:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I used to think weddings were become crazy...bigger and bigger and more and more expensive...but children's birthday parties are getting to be like that too.

Here's an article I just read today:

http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/reuters/usreport_life_parties_dc

Do you agree people go a little nuts and that this puts a lot of pressure on other parents too both in attending and to compete so that thier kid feels like they're treated like all the others...I mean what values are we teaching our kids if we do this?

I have a sister who doesn't even talk to me because she thinks I don't do enough for my kids on their birthdays.

Frankly I'd rather spend the money on THEM then on parties where you get a lot of junk you don't need and go broke in the process.

Thoughts?

2007-01-17 02:00:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 17 month old daughter has been waking up around 4am everyday for weeks. I've tried cuddling her, I've gotten her a drink of water, and lately, I've been just ignoring her and letting her cry it out. She cried (mosty whined) for about 2 hours this morning and I'm at my wits end! I don't know what to do! Now she's tired and throwing tantrums because she's not sleeping well... any suggestions as to why this is happening or what I can do to get her to sleep through the night. (Her bedtime is 8:30pm...is that too early?

2007-01-17 01:57:03 · 10 answers · asked by mommyismyname 3

I am an only child, I was raised to be independent and was never just "given" anything. My father came from a large family and my mother has a sister and a brother. I have three daughter, two of which are constantly demanding attention from their older sister. It causes conflict between the middle and the youngest. My older daughters are 18 months apart with a 3.5 year age difference between the middle and the youngest. I don't understand why they can't all be friends with one another. My oldest spends time with the youngest but when the middle one is around, the youngest feels left out. I personally think it is insane but I have no clue how to resolve this issue. ANY advice would be appreciated and helpful. I am totally out of my relm of thinking, because I had no brothers or sisters.

2007-01-17 01:26:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I go to work and pay the bills and provide my children with everything that they need. My son is 4 years old and needs to learn some responsiblity. I do not want to raise him to be a man that is always dependant on some woman to do everything for him. My son can fry and bake almost anything he wants on my stove. He is a very good cook for his age. He has been cooking on his own for almost 2 years now. Last week, he surprised my family and I by baking us a lasagne. He is very responsible and doesn't have to do anything but cook. I work and do all of the cleaning around the house and make sure that he has everything that he needs. Whats wrong with that?

2007-01-17 01:17:47 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

She says it wont get hard but i keep trying to tell her that something is going to go wrong and that it might be harder for her daughter to get into colloge is this true or not?

2007-01-17 01:07:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-17 01:04:20 · 9 answers · asked by private n 2

2007-01-17 00:49:16 · 12 answers · asked by RED WHITE AND BLUE 4

Hi there- my husband and I have been waiting parents since last April when our homestudy was completed. I am just interested in talking to other waiting parents or adoptive parents about how you handled the "emotional rollercoaster" of the "wait", and your experiences, if you would be so kind to comment. We have been considered several times, however, for one reason or another, it wasn't the "right fit" for the birth parents, or us.

2007-01-17 00:36:12 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-17 00:34:37 · 11 answers · asked by CRY$T 2

what are some things parents can do to reduce the amount of time their children watch tv?

2007-01-17 00:01:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Who can resist that gorgeous smile and baby giggle. Or the toddlers cheeky laugh, and wanting to play "snap" with them. Or the 6 year olds new ability to do "jumps" on his bike. Hey, the ironing can wait!!! What have you put off today???? There is always tomorrow!!!

2007-01-17 00:00:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

What to do if me and my boyfriend have children? I would like to bring them up with bith our languages (I live in his country). Now he does not see a problem, but how do you do that in practice?

2007-01-16 22:53:03 · 9 answers · asked by MM 4

i have a 2 and a half year old girl,my friends daughter is coming up 4 in march,when i go to her house her daughter wont share with mine,she panicks that were going to take her toys and all you can hear from her is 'it's mine your not taking it home', and other simmilar things,it's rubbing off on my daughter who is starting to act a bit the same way. Should i keep them away from each other or carry on seeing them and hope it passes,to be honest it's wearing a bit thin and i'm a bit fed up with all the attitude, i've tried to teach them to share but there seems to be a big chip on the older girls shoulder about something.

2007-01-16 21:05:38 · 27 answers · asked by heebygeeby 4

And on the way out, I saw a Guy unbuttoning his Kids belt, the man screaming at the child "Benjamin, move your arms, move your ******* arms" ( I reckon this kid was about 6) then he slapped/hit him really hard on the stomach.
The guy was about 50, carried on screaming at this poor boy calling him stupid.

I know we all have bad mornings, but never in my life would I/have I done anything like that...
Do you think I should tell the school??

2007-01-16 20:42:36 · 39 answers · asked by Coley 4

The pressures of today's world are quite different than when I was growing up. I see kids really needing to develop skill sets to become healthy, productive, and law-abiding citizens of this country. More and more they need to be able to learn to think for themselves. We as parents need to give them really good tools in order to be able to do this. They need a) critical thinking skills b)creative problem solving abilities C) effective communication skills, particularly effective listening. In short, the world has become increasingly more competetive. We are short-changing are kids by using simplistic methods of child rearing like spanking. WE are not helping thm be ready for what's to come.
I'm not an advocate of corporal punishment to begin with, but I feel even more strongly about it with today's children.

Kids need to be taught how to think, not what to think.

I'm also a firm believer in the "7 Habits of Highly Effective People", by Stephen Covey

2007-01-16 18:05:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I personally used disposables with my first until he was 2 1/2, then switched to cloth. My second child was about 6 months at the time. Now I'm pregnant with my third and I am extatic to use cloth on the new baby! Do people not know that cloth diapers are not like the ones your grandma used to use? Do people even care that it's cheaper to use cloth and better for our environment? I don't understand why somebody wouldn't use cloth. Why wouldn't a parent want to use cloth?

2007-01-16 16:42:40 · 24 answers · asked by summer_00_butterfly 3

2007-01-16 16:39:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

The reason I ask is because sometimes my daughter doesn't always finish her bedtime bottle. I don't want to go in there to take the bottle because it always wakes her up. (As far as leaving her with the bottle, I went about 9 months feeding her myself then putting her to bed and she just wouldn't go to sleep, so I do what works.) The other night though, I caught her sucking on the same bottle at 5am (her bedtime is around 10:30-11:00pm and before you start harping on me about her bedtime, keep in mind that some people have jobs on the second and third shift and I would go insane from sleep deprivation if I didn't have her go to bed so late because I just can't function at 7am). What are the health risks? I have heard that with regular formula, it can only sit for about 2 hours before it is no good.

2007-01-16 16:23:19 · 6 answers · asked by Puppy Cat 1

2007-01-16 15:53:08 · 1 answers · asked by dog_lover_wells 2

well i have 1 and had sex 4 times!!!

2007-01-16 15:46:39 · 8 answers · asked by lil brooky 1

2007-01-16 15:36:07 · 8 answers · asked by ? 1

If you were over 18 years old with a child and you had the opportunity to get your diploma or GED because you didn't finish school for whatever reason what would you do? The independent study is full so you can go to school Monday - Saturday for GED PREP or you can pay $120 to take the GED test or you can finish High School like you are a sophmore. Which option would you choose?

2007-01-16 15:14:03 · 18 answers · asked by Miss Carmel 1

2007-01-16 14:57:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

thanks for your help

2007-01-16 14:46:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is an appropriate way to celebrate my daughters 8th grade graduation, she wants to have a get together with her friends...........

2007-01-16 14:06:10 · 16 answers · asked by whattheheck 4

he does his homework when its bedtime. and it takes him forever.

my mom doesnt take the remote, games, toys, etc away from him. if she doesnt do it, i do. and then she yells at me and makes me give them back.
i dont wanna sound mean or anything but my brother is really spoiled and my mom isnt raising him correctly, hes a total brat! what can i do to him? should i just ignore and watch him grow up to be mommy's little girl? or should i do something about it, if so, what?!!!

2007-01-16 13:38:00 · 10 answers · asked by sofia 3

i live in florida

2007-01-16 13:31:19 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-16 13:28:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous