2007-01-16 16:39:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I told mine a lie back.
I told him that we were going to do something that he likes a lot later in the week. He was very exited about this.
When the time came he reminded me about the activity.
I told him no we are not going and after some dialog I told him I lied.
He was upset... That was when I told him how I feel when he lies.
I worked. Today 12 years later, it still seems to work.
2007-01-16 17:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by Swtf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a great childhood. And when I look back on it I realize that some of the little lies I told my parents (which is normal for a child to do by the way) they had to have known were lies. But they let me get away with them. And other lies they didn't. The ones they didn't let me get away with were the more significant ones. I think the other ones were to teach me guilt. Because with guilt you don't actually get away with it. It gnaws at you. Being a parent and knowing just how far to go when disciplining a child, knowing which battles to fight and which ones to concede, and knowing just how long you let them dangle before reeling them in to safety - well it is the toughest job you'll ever do. As far as punishment goes, each child is different and only you as a parent knows what will get your child's attention. You'll figure it out. Just make sure it is done with love.
2007-01-16 19:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you want to punish and that is what should be done but dont you worry about a 7 year that has started lying to their parents.?
Shouldn't you also try and find out why or how this 7 year old leaned to lie in the first place.
2007-01-16 16:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have a 7 year old boy who occassionally lies to me and my husband. Everything that I have done hasn't worked until one day my mum said to me, when you catch him lieing to you turn around and ask him what his punishment should be. I thought to myself yeah right he'll propably say no ice cream for desert or something. Well didn't I get surprised when I asked him. He was actually harder on himself then I would have been. the lying has settled right down as he doesn't like to punish himself cause then he can't get out of it.
Maybe this might work for you as well
Good luck
2007-01-17 00:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Donna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A 7 year old should know the difference between truth and lie. If it's a flat out lie, and not a child with a good imagination, we use spanking. In our home lying, big or small earns a spanking. Spank her calmly and out of love, afterwords have a long talk about not lying again.
2007-01-16 18:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down with the child and explain that lies will get him in twice as much trouble as telling the truth. When my four year old lies to me I get very strict with her. When she tells me the truth I correct her for whatever it was she was in trouble for and then I thank her for not lying to me about it.I also have asked her if she would like me to start lying to her.My mom would do the old school punishment. She made me write 150 times "I will not lie" You might also try telling him the story of "The Boy Who Cried Wolf" and tell him no one will believe him if he doesn't stop lying.The best thing is to remember to encourage him not to lie if you think he might be telling one.Interrupt his story and say "please don't lie to me." Good Luck
2007-01-16 16:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We just went through this with our 7 year old daughter. We explained to her that it was not ok to lie. I told her the story of the boy who called wolf, and she understood everything that we meant by it. I told her that no one would believe her if she told lies. I also told her that it broke our hearts to know that she was lieing to us. But don't think that this is over. She has not lied to us since but we do know that it will happen again. Repeat Repeat Repeat, kids to the strangest things. This method worked for us, I hope that it works for you too.
Kath
2007-01-16 17:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by kath2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got my 7 year old daughter convinced her cheeks turn red and i can tell. She is good though she is smart and quick at reading people and learning who she can get one over on. I whoop her *** when she messes up. Or i make her do push-ups and run laps( shes already a jock) And the story of the boy who cried wolf is good. It helps them visualize how a lie can affect things and that simple lies can turn ugly, spare the rod and spoil the child.
2007-01-16 20:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by wombizzle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let him know that whenever he lies to you, you know it. Warn him that he will have bereavement of something he likes most. Explain to him that by saying a lie he might be in the difficult position to say another lie to hide the first one and so on. Its like building a wall with straws instead of bricks.
2007-01-16 20:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by maran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be direct...if you know your child is lying, call them on it.
Explain to them the story of the child who cried wolf. Eventually, no one will be able to believe him/her and that would make you very sad.
If you just remove toys, etc...that makes them feel it's okay to lie if that's all the punishment they're going to receive.
2007-01-16 16:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋