Parenting - December 2006

2006-12-16 04:45:35 · 23 answers · asked by Emily 3

I have hinted to my BF that maybe he should move out to care for his troubled 12 yr old son. He said, "If I move out and _____ is living with me, and he objects to you coming over,you wont be able to come over because now it is HIS house." I realize you have to put your child first as a parent, but a parent should set the rules, especially when the child has emotional and learning difficulties, and many problems getting along with other people, including family members. The child is unpredictable, with a history of violence a few months ago at school and with his mother about a year ago.My BF expects everyone to cater to his son the way he does.I say he needs to be a PARENT, one who sets the rules, not allow his son to say who can and cant come to the house. The boy visits now where I live with my BF. I own the house. I didnt let him come here for a month once, because he shoved me, cursed at me a few times, and left messes all over the house. Maybe he is trying to get back at me.

2006-12-16 03:51:00 · 13 answers · asked by eastcoastdebra 3

Yesterday I saw a girl in a store about three years old. IT was noon and she was still in obvious pajammas with her hair unkept and food stains on her face. When the fat worthless mother dragged this kid out to the car she put her in the front seat with no belt on and lit a smoke before driving away. In your mind... is this child abuse? Should we be giving this fat whore of a mother a state aid card to buy her groceries at caseys and ruin this child... probably have another soon too? Am I wrong for wanting to kill the woman and do the kid a favor?

2006-12-16 02:49:07 · 16 answers · asked by claymore 3

Do they want their children to have no dreams?
What is the point they can find out 'the truth' themselves when they get older.

2006-12-16 01:51:45 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-16 01:23:37 · 7 answers · asked by kamalaveni k 1

2006-12-16 00:51:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

At what age should you tell children that Santa isn't real
Or do you think they will just find out on their on???

2006-12-16 00:06:03 · 14 answers · asked by need help 1

I know, most kids do, but my husband and I are at a loss with the grocery bill. Food is expensive, especially in Calfornia, I spend at least $900 a month on food and have three kids. Is that normal? If not, how have some of you "curbed" the appetites of your offspring? It seems like they gorge themselves the minute I walk through the door from shopping!

2006-12-15 20:47:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son was diagnosed w/ADHD 3yrs ago. He currently takes Aderall XR 20mg & it seems to help his focus at school.Here is my problem,he is very whiny,has a major temper problem & in general drives his father & myself nuts.Just this evening,he was in with his 7yr old brother playing.He went to the bathroom & proceeded to yell loudly about what he was "doing" Then he decided to change his clothes,his brother walked in the room & he proceeded to shriek naked all over the house.I then told both of them to go to bed, a little earlier than normal,but they were driving me nuts.The 7yr old went to bed no problem,the 9yr old started crying hysterically,yelling at me "why" & "come on" I was losing it so my husband came in & told him to go to sleep & he started yelling like we were killing him.This is a nightly adventure for us & through the internet,I feel more comfortable discussing this issue.I don't want family & friends to think I am a bad parent or my kid is nuts. Please Help !! I need advice

2006-12-15 18:50:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

This has been a discussion in my circle of friends. If a child is not behaving and being disrespectful of parents deserve to not have christmas? Or maybe less of a christmas? I feel Christmas is always a "put everything aside and ahve peace" holiday but is that sending the wrong message to a child that is acting out at age 10? We are addressing the issues of the acting out and the child is capable and when they want to be can be great.

So I guess should Christmas be a removable holiday? 5th grade age.

2006-12-15 17:46:47 · 27 answers · asked by victoriah68 3

My fiancee has 2 kids, ages 7 and 9 from a previous marraige. We have them every other weekend and almost all the time over summer break. Well, the thing is, is that they are sooooo troublesome. They contsantly fight, not normal sibling rivalry but punching each other, kicking, and so on. They are also destructive too! They pull paint off of walls in our home, have torn the curtains in their room off the wall, broke their light, and broken other things by fighting. They don't listen at all and nothing seems to help. His 9yr old will cry and pout when she doesn't get her way or she isn't allowed more food when she's had more than enough. His 7yr old just laughs when she gets punished like its a joke and will continue her actions. Also, his 9yr old has been caught by us stealing things from our home and at stores and no matter what we try, she doesn't realize that it's wrong. The sad thing is, is that their mother doesnt care and my fiancee really wont try to fix it. Any help!

2006-12-15 17:01:45 · 13 answers · asked by kerrberr95 5

I know this little girl, she is 8. She has 3 little brothers, one that is 7,2 & 10mos. Now i took this little girl shopping once, and i got her some gloves and some boots, (along with a lot of other things). And now, not even three whole months later i saw the gloves on the 7 year old's hands and the strings from her boots on his shoes! Her mother also always has her taking care of her other little brothers. Like she is always changing the 10mos old's diapers and her mom is always telling her to "look after ___(the 2 year old)" like it's her child. Also, the girl told me when we were shopping, that she has to sleep in the living room on the couch! apparently they only have a two bedroom house and her parents have one of the rooms and her brothers have the other one. But i always thought that in a case like that the parents would be the ones with the living room, right? Because of this, this little girl has become incredibly responsible, do mothers usually do things like this?

2006-12-15 16:48:20 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-15 16:44:57 · 3 answers · asked by Question 1

I have often debated this in my own mind. Is it wrong to tell children the "worlds greatest lie" of Santa Claus? or it is a part of childhood that you should let your kids have fun with? Eventually you WILL have to explain that it was all a huge farce, so what do you think?

2006-12-15 16:40:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have 4 kids and number 2 is the most difficult.Her teachers say shes the sweetest girl they know, shes in advanced reading and math.Shes always a super helper at school.At home its totally different. I ask her to hang her coat up and she ignores me. She tells my boyfriend that he needs to get out of the house anand that its not his house(though he pays all the bills and works 2 jobs so I cn be a stay at home mom) I try to spend extra time with her reading and playing what she wants and still shes mouthy and talks back.She yells and screams at my younger two children constantly.In fact I dont think she can go five minutes at home without screaming and whining about something.I have tried taking toys away and grounding her from this and that and nothing works, it just gets worse. PLEASE someone help me!!

2006-12-15 16:04:20 · 32 answers · asked by iamtiffiney 2

It's a long story, but basically I stopped allowing my ex mother-n-law to call my house about 3 years ago. She was constantly butting into my business, making decisions for my son that only a parent has the right to make and she was getting to the point of harrasment. I had asked her many, many times to not call past 8:00 p.m. and she continued to do what she wanted. She would leave messages on my answering machine to my son, telling him that "his mother wouldn't let her talk to him". My ex would send her to pick up our son, and she would show up whenever she felt like it, whether it was 2 hours early or 2 hours late. After telling a lawyer all of this, he advised me to block her from calling my house, which I did. Well, the other day, a man called my house and asked for my son, when my husband asked who it was he said it was my sons dad. When my son got off the phone, he said it was his grandma and his dad wasn't even there. She has got some guy to pretend to be my ex.

2006-12-15 15:34:42 · 18 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

We have four kids each and we would have merged now but the kids don't get along so well so we are holding off. Has anyone been through this that could give some advise?

2006-12-15 15:24:52 · 11 answers · asked by Pilgrim 4

HOW FAR DO YOU LET YOUR CHILD GO !!!!!!!!

2006-12-15 15:22:06 · 17 answers · asked by bonny bones 2

If you do know a cage to lock up children, then where do you buy it?

2006-12-15 15:03:04 · 25 answers · asked by crazygoodnyc 1

Why do people say things like, "my son is 22 weeks old", etc? doesn't 2 months work? it's not that i can't calculate it in my head, it's just that i don't understand why i should have to.

2006-12-15 14:59:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a working mom. I wish I could stay at home, but I married a man with 3 other children, who pays child support and who also carries insurance on his children, our daughter who has a medical condition, and my son who's father is a dead beat and won't get insurance on him. After all this, his bring home is only about $250-300 a week. After paying our mortgage, home insurance, groceries, electricity, water, phone, etc., we would be lucky to break even. Certainly no extra for birthday or Christmas gifts. We certainly wouldn't have money left over for emergency things, like what has happened to us in the past: busted hot water heater, blown up car engine, gas leak. I have seen some say that you can make due with one car. What if that one car breaks down? How would the husband get to work? How would the mom take kids to dr. appt., or to school? Why don't people understand that every family is different, and that some moms have to work? Not to have Coach purses or diamond rings.

2006-12-15 14:30:56 · 24 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

my son is 10 months old and still will not use a sippy cup...he still can not figure it out. Am i a bad mother to have my son on the bottle after a year old?? my daughter was off of hers at 9 months old.

2006-12-15 13:38:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know that alot of schools nowdays do not allow corporal punishment anymore, but where I live alot of the schools still allow it. They send a letter home with the kids at the beginning of the year, asking if you will allow them to spank your child if they get into trouble, and you have to tell them yes or no. I have always said no, not because I am against spanking, but because I always felt that if my son needed a spanking, that it should come from me or my husband. I got a letter sent home a couple of weeks ago saying that my son had gotten 2 detentions (1 for not turning in homework one day and 1 for excessive talking). It asked if I wanted him to serve it before or after school, so I wrote before and sent it back to him. He was to serve it on Tues. and Thurs. mornings of that week. I got another letter day before yesterday that said he had been given 2 days of in school suspension, because he had not shown up at detention. I went in to talk to his principal, and was told that at the fourth grade level, they expect the kids to be responsible for serving their detentions, and that if they haven't served it within 2 weeks, they get a day of ISS. His principal said that my son was not a bad kid, but that it was just a way to teach them responsibility. She suggested that I change the form I filled out at the beginning of school, to allow them to spank him, because some children respond better to that than ISS. What would you do?

2006-12-15 13:27:18 · 20 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

Im looking for safe websites for playing games from children 5-12 anyone have an suggestions. They have to be safe with no chatting

2006-12-15 13:15:34 · 9 answers · asked by saramck 2

how did you leave it, with your kids and what kind of abuse was it that you put up with.
Was it hard, did he take you to court...what about money issues while trying to leave???

2006-12-15 13:03:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a divorced single parent. I beleive it is in the best interest of my child to stay at home as well as engage my child in nursery at a balanced level at age 3. I believe that children should have support of a parent in a near constant state to provide the basis of a healthy foundation of nurturing and love at the most fundamental level. I do not understand parents who leave the upbringinging of a child to institutions who can not form the special bonds as parents from such a young child from say 6-9 months onwards. Why have a child if this is what u do?

2006-12-15 12:40:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Before I discuss this at all I want it known that I don't want to hear that I (as a stepmother) should not do anything but bow down to my stepchildren. My husband works 60 hours a week and their Mom hasn't seen them in 2 years. I am essentially a single mom to 5 kids and literally days go by without Dad getting to see the kids more than a few minutes. That being said: I am so tired of my 5 kids doing nothing. I rarely even reprimand the kids because of the reason above. But I do occasionally (like twice a month) bring all 5 kids in for a family meeting about responsibility and cleaning up their messes...not putting holes in the wall, etc. EVERYTIME I try to discuss these things with the kids my 12 y/o stepdaughter does the same thing. "I want to call my Mom". With Mom being very irresponsible she sympathizes with my SD which makes things worse. So I end up backing off and get the phone after I am done talking. So in the middle of a meeting she asks to call mom..your response?

2006-12-15 12:12:29 · 18 answers · asked by just me 4

She don't have my hair color or look like me. How do i kick her out of my life, and tell her to go find her baby daddy?

2006-12-15 12:11:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I went to the shelter to look at the kittens, and in the kitten room was a mom with a toddler and a small baby in a carrier on the floor. There were about 5 kittens running around and jumping ALL over the infant. I hate kids, but my womanly instincts kicked in and I ran to the baby and got the kittens off of her. They were pouncing on her head!! The whole time, the mom just played with the cats and talked to a volunteer and paid NO attention to her infant. Finally she saw a kitten pouncing on her baby's head and she laughed and said "How cute." Is it just me, or is this lady a complete moron!!!!!!! Kittens have sharp little claws and teeth. She paid ZERO attention to that baby. I almost punched her. Am I wrong for being upset by this????

2006-12-15 11:40:44 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

... whenever i spank him it doesn't hurt! How can I make it hurt more!

2006-12-15 11:18:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous