My kid is being very naughty, but...?

Question

... whenever i spank him it doesn't hurt! How can I make it hurt more!

I've tryed everything else! Taking away privilages, naughty corners, stair, time outs, EVERYTHING! I even bought the Nanny911 book! I've done EVERYTHING! Nothing works! THe spankings used to work, but he's gotten older!

OK! He's finally gone! My boyfriend had me ask this question! I don't have kids! He doesn't think he spanks me hard enough! He was seeing if there was a way to do it harder! Please give me an answer or he'll ground me again!

Answer 1

does his father help and support you with this?

Is there consistency when you do things like take away privaleges?

If your child starts screaming and yelling, and you respond to it by giving in or giving some other form of attention it could make things worse. Someone already mentioned you might want to ignore him at times. That may be because some kids want the attention no matter form it comes in.

This may be psychological warfare ... and perhaps you could pick up a different book to help you out.

Best wishes.

Answer 2

My son is almost 3 and I have only spanked him once, their are other forms of discipline, trying taking away his favorite toy or not letting him watch his favorite cartoon. You could also try making him stand in the corner with his nose to the wall for one for every year old he is.

Answer 3

Why don't you try something else? If spanking isn't working I would suggest a naughty chair or stair. My son doesn't care about spankings either and the naughty chair works wonders.

Answer 4

you need to give more detail as to what he is doing wrong, otherwize i cant give you an ansewer.


but try to find the cause of the bad behavour (I.E. TV - bad influence), and try to stop the thing causeing him to misbehave

if spanking is used to much it stops working - sounds like you have hit that stage, so stop spanking - dont try to hurt him more, spanking is not about causeing as much pain as possible - its about shocking them into behaveing and you dont need to hurt them alot for that.

Answer 5

WHY would you hit your child? All you will be teaching is that hitting is ok when you're angry...so that when he gets to school and someone does something to make HIM angry he will hit. Then you'll be getting calls from the teacher because he is a behavior problem for hitting. Time outs DO work, but you HAVE to be consistent. You HAVE to do it over and over and over and not switch around. It's not your child's fault that YOU are inconsitent. He is only a child...YOU'RE supposed to be the grown up. If you REALLY read that Nanny 911 book you would have read where she says you HAVE to be consistent. Guess you just skimmed that part huh?

Answer 6

pull down this pants and then spank him but u need to tell hom why u are doing this just dont spank him with a belt for small thing

Answer 7

Tell your b/f to get himself a paddle or a hairbrush. That should do the trick - unless you've got an exceptionally high pain threshold.

Answer 8

What worked for me (my children are grown) are to praise them for good behavior more and ignore behavior that isn't truly bad but just annoying. If you are spanking to make it hurt more than you are an abusive butthead with no imagination.

Answer 9

Decide what thing(s) the child likes, and adjust accordingly. Further, remember to compliment the child when the child does right things.
(Parent of two teenagers).

Answer 10

Try another type of punishment. Try time-out or standing in the corner.