Parenting - October 2006

We have been dealing with this since he was in K- he has tried most of the med's out there and nothing seems to be helping him. We are in weekly counseling separate for right now then together.We are trying to get in home support to. He is just so out of control and mouthy!! WOW!! The things that come out of his mouth. We have tried everything, punishment, taking things away, rewards for caught being good, talking, and nothing! He just does not care. He is getting violent, threating I am gonna punch you in the face and such like that. He has a younger brother who is 5 who he is very aggressive with and a younger sister who is 15 months that he adores!! He is very explosive and impulsive. I do spend quality time alone with him but that doe snot seemto make a diference at all. I am at my wits end. He did spend 6 days in a clinic where he was supposed to learn some tips to manage his anger, yeah that lasted all of 3 days when he came home. We've done charts and all of that. Please help!!!

2006-10-13 02:23:39 · 17 answers · asked by Dark Goddess 3

realise his or her goals in life.or do you knock their ideas

2006-10-13 02:21:14 · 6 answers · asked by stefan 3

do not know something instead of calmly explaining things to them and teaching them positively.do they feel inadequate or do they fear that the kid will be aware of the fact that they do not really know the answer

2006-10-13 02:10:15 · 16 answers · asked by stefan 3

my sons face who is 4 in nov..was pushed against a wall by his cousin..who is 8 i dont know if on purpose..but my sons face is in bits..very bad..cuts and bruises..he jumped on my sons back..he is always bullying him..but his parents never even made him so say sorry NOTHING am i wrong to be angry at them?

2006-10-13 02:04:02 · 23 answers · asked by tinkerbell 4

I have tried every i can think of to help her sleep better and after 14 months of waking up with her everynite its starting to take its toll. i have3 children,i'm working and studying full time so my sleep is important and i'm now starting to struggle a bit. any ides would be appreciated! x

2006-10-13 02:03:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-13 01:49:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I put this in the parentlng section as it's a question of parenting a deaf child.

2006-10-13 01:41:46 · 10 answers · asked by Balaboo 5

My sister was on here asking questions about her son and school, although most questions were well answered a few were very quick to jump to the conclusion that this was a problem with her son and not that of the teacher. Why do so many of you get so offended by the questions asked just because it is your profession and why do you assume that it is the parents or childs fault? When indeed this was a problem with the teacher, and a child ended up being pulled from that class because of the same issues. This was in regards to children being drilled by the teacher about being absent (with a Dr. written excuse) or etc. I mean some of the comments were ridiculous, 'stop coddling your child', 'grow up', 'nut doesn't fall far from tree', etc. When you insult people and their children you give them no choice but to react especially when they ask quesions to help resolve a problem not cause one. Just curious as to why so many need to offend?

2006-10-13 01:38:05 · 5 answers · asked by schnzrgal2 1

I have the urge to get drunk, but have to collect the children in two hours. Should I just go for it?

2006-10-13 01:32:45 · 52 answers · asked by ? 4

passed on to your children?

2006-10-13 01:31:23 · 8 answers · asked by Willow 5

Carrot, Egg, and Coffee

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee...You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.

Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see."

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water,its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.


"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity?

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

---When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

You might want to send this message to those people who mean something to you or to those whom you consider to be COFFEE, (I JUST DID)
It's easier to build a child than repair an adult.

This is so true - may we all be COFFEE.

2006-10-12 20:54:27 · 7 answers · asked by rhijoa 2

Hey i need to practice drumming too but i have a kid
i no drummings a hobby but the auditions are comin up what should i do? my kid wakes up like every minute so i did it in the garage and then my wife left me for 1 week cus for her job
its weird

2006-10-12 20:22:40 · 4 answers · asked by cloud 1

My soon to be one year old has started hitting her head on things. She'll sit up against something and hit the back of her head against it. Not very hard. I know that some kids do this and the doctors say it's a phase. But my first daughter never did this and it worries me to see my little girl hitting her head. Did anyone else go through this with thir kids? Any advice? I'm a stay at home mom and I am with her all the time. I don't think she could be trying to get attention. She gets more than enough from all of us.

2006-10-12 18:58:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

worrying, Its starting to break I believe. The nurse told me to give her Tylenol every 4 hours for pain and temperature. New mommy I was told its 101 degrees but is that right?

2006-10-12 18:37:02 · 14 answers · asked by Lisa D 1

my friend and her husband moved to evertt washington a month ago from san antonio tx their son is having a hard time

2006-10-12 17:11:23 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-12 16:32:16 · 2 answers · asked by Mr Goodbar 2

I'm about 5 months pregnant, and things are going very horribly with the father right now. I don't know why, but for whatever reason the last couple days I've just started to panic about being a single mom!! How am I going to do it?? How do y'all do it? I'm in the middle of getting a degree, but that's going to take longer now that I have the baby. How do you all pay for rent and car insurance and groceries and child care?? I can't imagine how hard it must be!!

2006-10-12 16:07:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm not talking about abuse, but things like reading your diary, breaking you up with a boyfriend, never letting you sleep over friends houses etc? I treat my mom terribly due to things she did 15, 20 years ago that I have just never forgiven. Did she really think I would just "grow up" and forget?

2006-10-12 16:01:27 · 26 answers · asked by Olivia 2

What do you feel are the pros and cons of being a stay at home mom or dad? My husband and I have a 19month old daughter, and my husband is the working one. The hours arent too demanding, so he still has a good ammount of time with us. I also work from home when I have the down time, because I enjoy it, and it help build a retirement income for us. We really love the situation, and cant fathom having to pay someone to raise our child for us. I know other choose differently, and thats ok. What have your experiences with stay at home parenthood been? Pros cons? How did you make the choice? Was your own mom or dad a stay at home parent, and did you appreciate it? Just wanting to hear from others in a similar situation as me. Thanks and god bless you all!

Rachele Burke
email and IM: starsalso@yahoo.com
profile: www.myspace.com/rachelemonique

2006-10-12 15:58:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband and i are considering adopting a child from africa. we have a 15 month old and have the resources and ability to adopt. has anyone had any expirences with international adoption? good/bad? suggestions on age of a child to adopt? since we have a girl what sex should we try to adopt? what other questions should we be asking to help our decision making process? thanks!

2006-10-12 15:56:08 · 5 answers · asked by msmayasmom 2

whenever i go shoping and i get her something she has a fit and has attitude if i don`t buy her bother something..um kida need advice shes 11

2006-10-12 15:33:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a stay at home mother and taking online courses through University of Phoenix. I'm doing a research paper on Child Discipline. I would like to here other people opinion on 'Spanking' whether or not its appropriate. This just helps me get started on my research. Thank you.

2006-10-12 15:25:44 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

and never wash their hands or watch their babies. I'm so sick of seeing people do that crap. Thats so dirty and unhealthy

2006-10-12 15:23:17 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

he wont go to bed and im baby sitting he keeps coming downstairs and acting silly

2006-10-12 14:36:29 · 10 answers · asked by guitarist2309 2

my sons father tells me on how to raise my son(i listen to him because i dont wont any trouble i feel it will damage my sons emotions as he is only 3 and doesnt understand) 4 i have my son 80% of the time. i get told that im the worse mother he tells me on how long he gets his son sometimes he wont even return him and i have to go pick my son up. im not allowed to get my sons hair cut, he teaches my son that my partner doesnt want my son around and it hurts my partner alot, (this only started when my sons father found out im pregnant with my partners baby) i get told on what i can and cant do with my son and it stresses me out that it doesnt make me feel close to my unborn baby and i cant feel happy with my partner i just fake my laughter and smiles.is there any suggestions in helping me deal with my huge situation i dont want to feel this way anymore and i dont want anything to happen to my unborn baby because im stressed out all the time i just want things to be easy and stress free

2006-10-12 14:25:56 · 17 answers · asked by angel_babe_ 2

well as you all know i got married to natalie and we went home and had sex like in the poem....

but anyways we have a lot to deal with now and we dont want baby seth so what do we do....????

2006-10-12 14:21:19 · 52 answers · asked by Matt 1

I recently had a co-worker who said he refuses to get married and have kids because he considers it a rat race (financially and socially) in today's America and that he doesn't want to be a sole-provider so a woman can use procreation as an excuse to not work for the next 15-20 yrs. If you knew someome like this what would you think of him and what social problems and stigmas do you think he will face during his life. He is 26 yrs old.

2006-10-12 14:19:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

most men that owe as much back childsupport as my exwife does would be in jail.

2006-10-12 14:19:03 · 9 answers · asked by mutt531 2

My 9-year old son finds it difficult to wear socks with raised seams in the toe, even when inside out, (and he is not just being awkward! It freaks him out!)

2006-10-12 13:33:33 · 4 answers · asked by SteveB 1

What does swamp @$$ mean, and if somebody says you have it how do you stop it?

2006-10-12 13:16:11 · 2 answers · asked by OoOoO 1