my sons face who is 4 in nov..was pushed against a wall by his cousin..who is 8 i dont know if on purpose..but my sons face is in bits..very bad..cuts and bruises..he jumped on my sons back..he is always bullying him..but his parents never even made him so say sorry NOTHING am i wrong to be angry at them?
2006-10-13 02:04:02 · 23 answers · asked by tinkerbell 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You better be angry, if I were you, I'd tell his parents to not come over, forbid this punk to be around your house. Children act out what the parents act like, if they are touchy feely, no real punishment or discipline, the kid becomes a Hitler.
2006-10-14 01:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't. An 8 year old is old enough to know that what he is doing is wrong. He has learned from someone that it is okay to push around someone that is smaller than him and if someone doesn't make him accountable for his actions it is going to get worse. Kids learn from a very young age what they can get by with and the only way they learn that their behavior is wrong is for someone to discipline him. Pushing around a 4 year old is unacceptable behavior and if the parents are not willing to do something about it then it is your responsibility to see that the boys are not allowed to play together. If the parents ask you why then that is your time to explain the situationan and tell them that you are not willing to let your son be bullied and injured by their son anymore. Maybe by your actions they will take a step towards taking care of the problem. If they get mad that isn't your problem. The only thing you are responsible for is your sons safety and if they cannot except that then they are the ones with the problem. Alot of parents think boys rough housing is normal but with age difference it is dangerous. Be there for your son and don't worry about what they think. When it comes right down to it you are all your son has and he needs to know that you are going to be there to protect him. Good luck and God Bless!!!
2006-10-13 09:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely justified in being both disappointed and angry at the parents of the bully.
As for physical violence against your child, if you will not advocate or take measures to protect him who will. The bullying will not stop until the bully is held responsible for his/her actions. This is not happening in your case.
I would inform the parents that you will call the police and file charges of assault ( it is assault and battery that happened to your child BTW). Relatives NOT withstanding!
Also, I would NEVER allow my child around the bully with out supervision again and tell the parents why too.
Do NOT allow yourself into being bullied by the other parents just because you have the bad misfortune of being related. Take action now before you fail to properly protect your child from that monster and something more serious happens.
2006-10-13 09:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by snowelprd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are aware of what happened to your son then yes, you should be angry. I'm sorry, but if my 8 year old son ever did that to his almost 4 year old cousin, he would be in very big trouble. There is no reason for that child's parents to allow their son to behave that way. He seems like he is going to have major problems in school as well. I'm so sorry for your son. I know it just breaks your heart to see him hurt. You need to keep that child away from your son without adult supervision. Next time, it may be worse. Good luck and GOD bless you.
2006-10-13 10:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, that's just wrong and you need to speak with the parents. DO NOT allow your son to play with his cousin until this situation is resolved. YOUR POOR CHILD....if you don't do something about this. Also, if the cousin is in YOUR house, if you believe in corpal punishment, sounds like this boy needs a real A** wooping! I would get in his face and scare the mess out of him. The parents, first and foremost, need to know what happened and that your very hurt by it if they don't do something about it.
Look, my sister's children are hellions! When they come to my house, they KNOW how to act because I let them know real quick that they WILL NOT act disrespectful nor fight like they do at home. I'm not mean, I'm just very sturn and to the point. Don't be afraid, your the parent............do something.
2006-10-13 09:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Southerngirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not wrong to be angry at them if they won't stop him from bullying i had the same problem. start getting on to him yourself and if they have a problem with it tell them if they won't stop him from hurting your child you will. especially considering the age difference an 8 year old shouldn't be playing that rough with a 4 year old. My 8 year old would never get that rough with a kid that much younger i think you should talk to the parents if that doesn't work talk to the kid at 8 he is capable of understanding that he can't play rough with a little one good luck
2006-10-13 09:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by shedevilang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You most certainly are right to be mad, and if I were you.. I'd give that 8 year old a piece of my mind. Tell your brother or sister (I'm assuming if he's your son's cousing that he is the child of your brother or sister)... that that boy is NOT coming back to your house again. Tell them why, and tell them that you have to think of the welfare of your son above anything else (even hurt feelings) and that he's not going to be allowed near your home, or your son until he can learn that hitting is not going to be accepted.
2006-10-13 09:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a parent you have one overriding responsibilty. Take care of your child, as he is not of an age to do so himself. If you still have a question after coming to this realization, you should consider your competency as a parent.
Are you wrong for being angry? No. Are you wrong for not taking the necessary steps to prevent further actions? Yes.
2006-10-13 09:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by woody sims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! Tell this little bully not to touch your son.Tell his "parents" next time your son is hurt the children will not be allowed to play together again.
2006-10-13 09:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you aren't wrong...i would be highly upset too!!!! I would have a talk with them and if they won't bother with teaching him right from wrong then maybe you should say something to him!! And soon before your son gets hurt any worse than what he already has!!!!! someone needs to teach the 8 year old that what he is doing is wrong and if his parents won't then you should!!!!!
2006-10-13 09:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋