how is it that parents yell at their tenagers if they?

Question

do not know something instead of calmly explaining things to them and teaching them positively.do they feel inadequate or do they fear that the kid will be aware of the fact that they do not really know the answer

Answer 1

because they are scared you will end up just like them and they think the louder they scream and holler the more likely you will listen .but that's not true that's when kids block them out . or start hollering back.

Answer 2

MOST people do not start out yelling. Think about it. What happened right before the yelling started? Had you asked a question, gotten an answer you were not satisfied with (for whatever reason), and said or done something that frustrated the person who had answered you? Try to think, honestly, if you had any part in the way things escalated.

There is usually no reason or excuse for yelling, especially at people we love.

If you had any part in it, try to remain calmer next time, and consider how your words or actions can affect others. If, after careful and honest retrospection, you believe that you had no part in the other person's reaction, then you may have to consider that the other person (your parent) may be unaware of how their inappropriate behavior makes you feel.

I suggest writing a letter to your parent. Tell them that you look to them for guidance and answers, and that when they yell at you, it makes you feel scared/angry/confused, and you want to know how to better communicate.

You may be thinking, "This isn't something I should have to do! I'm the kid here!", but, everyone on this planet is fallible, and everyone can improve. Sometimes people - even parents - just need a little reminder that life can be so much better if we would treat each other with more respect.

I think I have learned more from my two daughters than I have ever taught them, and I am grateful to them for it. They make me want to be a better person.

Answer 3

As a parent myself, sometimes I find myself yelling when my children do something they know that are not to do over and over and over...I think it is because we know that we are not getting threw to you. The more we talk, the less you listen, and we resort to yelling. We think if we just say it loud enough, you will hear us finally and stop the unsafe, or unacceptable behavior. In most cases, we as parents are wrong. We shold not be yelling, but sometimes we don't see any other way.

If this makes it hard for you as a teenager to go to your parents when you need help, try changing the way you go to them. Do not hide the things from them, but maybe you can leave them a note before you go to school, letting them know what is going on. Be specific, don't leave anything out. Then, after they have had all day to think it over, perhaps you can then both work on the problem calmly together.

Hang in there, you won't be a teenager forever.

Best wishes.

Answer 4

Parents are really two innocents abroad. They have grown up and it is reasonable to expect that they have gone through all the cycles. But from my own case I think that when the child comes up to them for some questions relating to adolscence they feel rather shocked. Instead of appreciating that the children are undergoing a change of lie (as they themselves did once) their first reaction is that they have been amiss somewhere that their'child' should asked such questions.They somehow feel that they have erred somewhere in their upbringing that this yesterday's chocolate chewng child should come up with such precocious question. Their first angry reaction is not anger against the child but against themselves for their alleged failure. Perhaps when they themselves were growing up the times were rather different from the present with such a lound explotion of knowledge which might have prompted the 'child's curiosity in the first place which they feel is rather premature. Do not think that they do not know the proos and cons and are afraid of ridicule if exposed. As they say they are your parents after all. Please do not feel that their reaction is out of anger. or nervousness. Normally when the initial shock is over they may sit down with the child and try to explain the things to him inthe language he may understand.

Answer 5

Calmly explaining things to teens is a waste of time. Most parents feel they have already told you whatever it is a million times. If you had listened to them the first time you wouldn't be getting yelled at.

Answer 6

Parent's yell at their teenagers because (probably) they think it's the only thing that they can do. I don't know.. I don't have teenagers yet ( only 4 and 1 year olds ) but I would hope that when they are teenagers that I would be able to tell them that I don't know something. I say it enough now when they ask me something that I don't know the answer too.

Answer 7

Ok, first, an answer to the question for what it is....... Some parents yell out of frustration. Some yell out of stress. Some yell out of anger management issues. All of this aside, be the calm collected one, without a smart remark, and ask them who they think you should ask instead of them. This will serve as a suble reminder that they have a responsibility to you. Good luck.

Answer 8

They are probably frustrated- with themselves and with you. They probably expect great things from you, so when you show a weakness, they freak. They may be upset that you don't know the answer, but I imagine that they are upset with themselves, too, for never teaching you. Not appropriate behavior on their part, but you are certainly not alone. If it happens again, you should calmly ask them the same question you asked us.

And there's nothing wrong with your spelling.

Answer 9

As a parent, I've discovered that yelling doesn't get it. When I talk in a normal tone of voice or even lower my voice to a gentle tone, I get more response.'

Answer 10

I think some parents have to yell to show the kid how serious they are. Otherwise the kid will think it's a joke.