2006-10-13 01:49:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You need to let your child know that talking back will not be tolerated under ANY circumstance. Do what you gotta do. Smack in the mouth, grounded for weeks, whatever it takes. Start as early as possible. The later you start, the harder it will be to get them to stop.
2006-10-13 11:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Duct tape
Only kidding, I am a mom of two daughters, now ages 15 and 11. In retrospect, I can tell you from experience that if you DON'T lay down some sort of law, right now, about this issue, you WILL have a larger problem with it as time goes by, guarenteed.
The concept is: ALL negative behavior has consequences. Whether you decide to do a time-out or some other kind of age-appropriate privelege revocation, you absolutely must make it clear that the behavior will not be tolerated.
Please - for your own future sanity - do NOT ignore this problem. A certain amount of talking back is normal as every child starts to "spread their wings", but, YOU know when that line has been crossed.
Kids need rules, and look to their parents to set examples of appropriate behavior. Make sure you aren't presenting a negative example. When you are speaking with another person, in front of your child, be polite and respectful. Set up a little exchange ahead of time with another adult where you can have a conversation which includes things like, "Thank you SO MUCH for listening to me! That makes me feel so happy!"
So far as smacking your kid? I admit I did it on occasion, but in all honesty, looking back, it really didn't accomplish anything. The real meaning of "discipline" is to show a child the right way to behave, and, if you want to have a child grow up to be a decent adult, that actions have consequences.
It's called "accountability" and it is in short supply these days.
You can join ClubMom for feedback boards and discussions with other parents. Even though my kids are older now, I still go there for help now and then and have found it to be a very friendly and informative site.
Most important advice I have is: don't cave in. You are the boss, so to speak, and you have the most important, challenging, and rewarding job on the planet. You are a parent. The pay sucks, but, the benefits are amazing!
2006-10-13 02:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by happy heathen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you really can't stop them from talking back to their parents especially if the child was brought up in a family that literally voice out their feelings. I have a four year old son and he's very transparent about his feelings. For me, that's a good thing. However, there are certain parents who just can't handle the truth that's why kids are sometimes misinterpreted. The best way to avoid this is just talk things over calmly even if you're at wits end.
2006-10-13 02:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer_roze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking back is a sign of lack of respect for authority. The problem isn't the child talking back. The problem is disrespect. You have to teach children to respect all people. And especially respect people who are an authority figure. Manners, the golden rule, kindness, and thoughtfulness seem to be forgotten traits these days.
2006-10-13 02:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by woody sims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both the carrot and the stick. As they talk balk, you calmly respond that they will be grounded for talking back. You continue with what you have to say and you make sure that soon enough they are indeed grounded for having talked back. That's the stick. The carrot works in two ways, both by example. First, you don't yell or hurt their feelings when you speak with them yourselves. And, most importantly, you tell them after the fight and after you grounded them if they talked back, that if there is something on their mind that they would like to express to you, and as long as they express themselves in a respectful way, then you welcome their opinion even if it is critical.
2006-10-13 01:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit the child down and talk with the child and let them know that talking back to parents is wrong and let them know that if they do it they will be punished. Now if they continue after that then you pop them on their lips and then let them know why you did it.
2006-10-13 02:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by waynekirsten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say liquid soap is a great motivator. My mother used bar soap and put me in the corner, but that was just too drastic. So, try the liquid soap and make him or her watch a re-run of House. That will learn her.
2006-10-13 01:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't respond to it. But you should tell them that you don't speak that way to me and punish them like time out or something. By not responding to it i mean say you tell them to clean there room and they say no you clean it. you don't continue fighting with them you don't say no you do it you simply pick the child up by the hand take them to the corner or time out spot and tell them that they do not speak to you that way tell them that it will not be tollerated. This has worked for my 3 year old hope it works for you.
2006-10-13 01:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regain their trust and your authority. the reasons why you talk back to somebody is that you question their authority and most likely don't trust their judgement. do not underestimate kids. they are more keen to these issues than you think. it may take a while but hey, better late than later.
2006-10-13 02:00:08 · answer #9 · answered by eric c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
old time religion, used to work for centuries, a good spanking with an explanation for what when the incident took placed.
2006-10-13 02:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by gotaken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋