Weddings - September 2007

I'm a bridesmaid for a wedding at the end of the year. The bride, the groom and their families are very financially well off. I am not. The wedding, of course, is no expense spared. Due to personal preference and some degree of religious reason the wedding is on a Sunday. I was going to arrive on Saturday (flying there) and thought the rehersal would be then. But the bride has insisted this happen on Friday. This means I have to find accommodation for 3 nights as opposed to 2. (At an average of $120 per night, its fairly expensive and I've look at cheaper places but there's nothing). Because the airport is out of the way and no one can come and pick me up, I now also have to hire a car for the 3 days and this will cost $150. It just seems this wedding is costing me so much. I expected it'd cost $500 tops but its getting closer to $1000.00.

Is it right to ask the bride for help or is it not worth risking a friendship over money? And not agree to be bridesmaid ever again!

2007-09-05 16:37:43 · 19 answers · asked by MissCurly99 2

My fiance and I will be having an outdoor, lunchtime wedding, on the less formal side. We're not very formal type people and we're always joking around.

Rather than your typical wedding invitation, we think it would be funny to have an invitation with a characature of the bride and groom, with me holding a bouquet of carrots instead of flowers. (I'm vegan.) The groom, who is of Jewish and Viking ancestry would be portrayed wearing a Viking helmet with a star of David on it. This is the website that does the characature invitations: http://www.invitations-you-design.com/Humorous-wedding-invitations.html

My fiance and I think this is a good and outrageously funny idea. But perhaps some may find it tacky.

What is your honest opinion of our invitation idea?

2007-09-05 16:00:29 · 26 answers · asked by Ms. X 6

My wedding is going to be in a big terrace and garden under tents in Puerto Rico at 4:00 pm reception right after until 10:00 pm. In January.

My color schemes are going to be light pink, hot pink and white.

Here is picture of everything I got so far! Give me opinions but please don't be mean you can said I don't like it without be mean.

Also there are pic of the dress

White first option
Ivory second option

Guest tables
http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x163/TamraOli26/Mesainvitados.jpg

Our tables
http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x163/TamraOli26/Mesanovios.jpg

Wedding dress
I option
http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x163/TamraOli26/Trajenovia.jpg

II option
http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x163/TamraOli26/Trajenovia2.jpg

II option back
http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x163/TamraOli26/Trajenovia2cola.jpg

Thank's for your comments!!!

2007-09-05 15:06:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

in the catholic church, i heard that the pastor may choose to put limitations on the music that can be used as long as the mass music are religious, but still choose whatever hymns they so desire, since hymns may mean different things to different couples. as for the processional music, shouldnt they be able to use tunes from movies, or others, classic not real populare for weddings or tunes not used at the typical wedding tunes.

2007-09-05 14:43:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok my son wants to ask his girlfriend to go to Homecoming, but he wants to do it in a way that he can surprise her. He mentioned that a friend of his bought a cookie cake and asked his girlfriend with the writing on the cake that read "Will you go to Homecoming with me?". So he wants to ask her in a way she'll remember. But keep in mind he has a small budget. He still has to buy a homecoming mum, tickets to the game, tickets to the dance...etc, etc, etc. or cha-ching! I know there are lots of people out there with cute ideas for a highschool boy.

Best answer get's...well...you know...10 points.

Thanks a bunch.
Abby

2007-09-05 14:34:22 · 3 answers · asked by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3

None of our family is invited, it appears to be their family vacation with a wedding thrown in. I have a large, close family and would like to share the joy with them. How can I voice my concerns (I know it's not about me, but I don't think this is my son's wish either)

2007-09-05 14:14:18 · 16 answers · asked by Alana 1

To go with the disposable cameras on the tables at the reception, we are putting a list at each table of things the guests could try to take pictures of -- like a photo scavenger hunt. I found this idea on eBay, but instead of paying $50 plus shipping to cover my 25 tables, I decided to create my own; plus this lets me customize the suggestions on the card so each table is a little different. Below are the existing ideas, but we're hoping to have some really funny ones, ridiculous ones, etc. to add to it. We want this get the guests to relax and have fun with each other. Any ideas???

Existing ideas:

--Group photo of your table
--Artistic shot of your dinner
--Best Dancer
--Biggest Smile
--Bride and Groom dancing
--Maid of Honor helping Bride
--Child sleeping
--Groom watching Bride from a distance
--Bride and Groom laughing
--The First Dance
--The Wedding Cake
--Groom playing with his ring
--Groom dancing with his mom
--Bride and Groom cutting the cake
--Toast to the newlyweds

2007-09-05 14:13:25 · 7 answers · asked by Sarah 3

2007-09-05 13:50:42 · 16 answers · asked by MalteseLover 2

We live in a small town, and the closest place to shop is Vegas, all of my girlfriends and my parents are back home on the east coast. I need an honest opinion and not someone who is just trying to sell me a dress. (Obviously most places won't let you take pics, afraid of copying designs etc) and sending relatives the pics of models is obviously going to look totally different on them than it would on myself.

Would it be weird to bring my fiance? Is that whole "you can't see the dress" thing still in practice or has that been pretty much pushed aside in the real world?

2007-09-05 13:37:53 · 18 answers · asked by Courtney 4

I am getting married and really dont want kids at the wedding. I would be worried about them getting hurt and gettting into trouble or breaking something. How do I say now kids allowed at my wedding without it beening rude?

2007-09-05 12:21:05 · 33 answers · asked by sweetlips2485 2

I need a song to walk down the aisle to... I know this question gets asked a lot, but I'd like something that's just instrumental maybe... Any ideas?
Thanks :)

2007-09-05 12:11:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are in the process of deciding on the wedding ceremony for our big day. I want to add in a nice poem or saying, that reflects on our love. I would love it to be about love, and prefer non religious. where does one find such a poem? Has anyone got any suggestions for me? I would appreciate having a few to read through. Also would it be okay to just read thru a few verses or a song that we love? Thanks.

2007-09-05 11:39:21 · 12 answers · asked by bluegirl6 6

At my ceremony, I am going to only have a piano player, no singing. What are some suggestions for music that should be played as the wedding party is coming in, at the signing of the marriage license and as the bride and groom leave. (I want the wedding march played as I come in...)

2007-09-05 11:28:00 · 4 answers · asked by Curious 2

Is it when your partner asks you with no ring

Or just when he asks you?

2007-09-05 10:01:14 · 36 answers · asked by Rebz 5

We are having a destination wedding...meaning way out of town but still in the US. Question: Would it be bad ettiquette to register for gifts (and acutally expect ppl to bring gifts) since we are asking them to spend money traveling to our wedding?

2007-09-05 09:53:42 · 18 answers · asked by bellesnail 4

Saturday is my sisters bridal shower and i want to give a speech at it that just shows how much i love her and am thankful to have her as my sister and to wish her the best of luck in her marriage. I want to do this because my sister has not only been my sister, but also a mother to me. Our mother isnt in our either of ours lives and my sister is the strongest person i know and i look up to her a lot.
im really nervous to give my speech. but i know it will be fine i just want it to be really good. i have ideas on what all i want to be said. but just need some help on how to start it off, end it. And just make it a really great speech! AND I WANT TO TRY NOT TO CRY :(
any suggestions???
THANKS amillion =)

2007-09-05 09:45:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do I have the one person that is doing the readings for my wedding transition from one poem to the next?

Does she say something like "Jane & John wanted me to read the following TWO poems"? Or say nothing before the first and then some kind of transition statement between the two? Like "Jane & John would like to share another poem with all of you"

If she says something, does it have to reference some important statement about marriage that we want to share with our guests?

Yikes! Any help would be great...

My readings are the EE Cummings, I Carry Your Heart and another marriage poem called On Your Wedding Day - Author unknown.

Thank you!

2007-09-05 09:28:20 · 3 answers · asked by Pebbles 2

The grooms mother was informed that the brides side would be inviting around 100 guests, and since the groom has a larger extended family, it would be appreciated it if their list was closer to 150.

The guest list was asked for a number of times, and finally received some 6 months after the engagement and 3 months before the wedding.

The mother of the groom informed the mother of the bride the list would be 180 (to the MOB's disappointment), and that she (the MOG) was still working on it.

The list was finally received today. The grooms guest list is 250 guests to the brides 110. The MOG insisted to her son that all the guests are close to the family, and all deserve to attend her son's wedding. The bride is beside herself. The groom is furious.

What's the Mother of the Bride to do?

2007-09-05 09:24:46 · 12 answers · asked by Marty D 2

So I've been engaged to my amazing fiancee for several months, and we were planning on getting married next June. However, I just found out a few weeks ago that I'm pregnant. We're both really excited about it, but the doc said my tentative due date is mid April. The more I think about it, the more I'd love to set our wedding back a year, and wait until our daughter/son could be a part of it (ring bearer or flower girl), but we're getting some crap from both of our families about it, saying we're just making excuses and not wanting to make serious commitments. I think starting a family in itself is a huge commitment, maybe even bigger than getting married, what do you think about it?

2007-09-05 09:15:35 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had to go back to my hometown for a night-time wedding. So some of my friends and I went out for lunch and, of course, we started drinking. Well, by wedding time, I was smashed! I don't remember anything. Does this look bad?

2007-09-05 08:19:28 · 16 answers · asked by Tpheez . 3

Hi girls

My wedding is only a couple of days away - 10 days to be exact :-) I'm going crazy looking for a template in order to have my seating chart done. I fell in love with having the seating chart framed, but I'm having difficulties starting this project. I want to have it done by this weekend, and finally get it out of the way. Do any of you know how much it would cost to get this printed either at Kinko's or Staples? What's the typical size if I'm having 150 guests? I've seen some examples done with PowerPoint, however, I can't seem to edit it and put my information. If anyone has a template I can use that would be great, or any suggestions on how I can start...?

Also, I'm doing my menus, and for some reason my appetizer is 'fresh melon' (don't ask), how can I word that in the menu card?

Thanks in advance girls

2007-09-05 08:19:00 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been asked to stand up with a friend and when I asked about music they had no idea. Can you help?She does not want the wedding march. They need a first dance too.HELP!!! They like easy rock and country.

2007-09-05 07:55:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-05 07:27:47 · 10 answers · asked by Louis Junior. 4

2007-09-05 07:14:05 · 20 answers · asked by nafis b 2

My boyfriend and I recently got engaged, and would like to have a beach destination wedding. This will be my second wedding, so we will invite anyone who would like to go with us to do so (particularly our parents, siblings, etc.), but will have a big reception/party for all other friends and family when we return.

Does anyone have any suggestions for locations? I have looked into Sanibel Island, Florida, and the U.S. Virgin Islands, as we would prefer not to make everyone get passports to make the trip. Cost will be a big factor because we will be paying for the majority of the wedding ourselves (being my second wedding, I don't expect my parents to pay for much).

I would love any advice from someone who has actually had a successful destination wedding. Locations, wedding planners, cheapest times of year... whatever you can offer! Thanks!

2007-09-05 07:11:47 · 15 answers · asked by Sarah 3

One night recently, my best friend and I had a conversation next to a camp fire about his upcoming wedding. After a few drinks, he informed me that because he doesn't want any drama and his fiance hates me, I am no longer going to be in the wedding.

I went from being the best man, to not even being allowed to go to bachelor party, be in the wedding or go to the reception. Does this seem normal? Has anyone else had this happen to them? If so, what did you do?

Fiance history: I spent 2 summers working with my best friend, so we spent a lot of time together at work and then we would work out at the gym. I was blamed for "spending too much time" with him and trying to steal him away from her. They have been together for forever and a day, so obviously they are not going to break up. And, I have been a gracious enough friend to not say anything bad about her ever!!!! I put up with everything because he is my best friend. Any thoughts?

2007-09-05 06:46:19 · 32 answers · asked by rfrey0907 3

2007-09-05 06:15:03 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi. My cousin got married in Las Vegas last week and me and my family couldn't afford to go. Anyway, is a $100 gift card from Olive Garden and 2 of our homemade jams good gifts to give her and her new hubby? She lives in Virginia so I know the jam wouldn't melt.

2007-09-05 06:11:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I saw them in a magazine and cant remember the company to look them up. It is aband that opens and displays a personal message or names. Anyone know a company that makes these?

2007-09-05 06:04:37 · 4 answers · asked by misty b 2

I am getting married and just been thinking who do i actully have to buy gifts for?

2007-09-05 05:55:32 · 10 answers · asked by jenni04 1