2007-09-05 06:15:03 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sit down and discuss what your goals are concerning the way you'd like the wedding to be. If you're going full-throttle with attendants, decorations, clothing, receptions, and the whole enchilada, you should give yourself enough time (8 or 9 months for sanity's sake) to plan. Of course it CAN be done in a short time, but it'll be exhausting.
If you're going for something simpler, it can definitely be done in a limited amount of time.
Just discuss what you both would like and go from there. Happy planning, and congratulations!
2007-09-05 06:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it really depends on how long you've been together. I would always suggest that you date for at least 2 years before tying the knot. That said, do you both feel you've been together long enough to go forward? Apparently you don't or you wouldn't want to wait a little longer. I think you'd be wise to hold off as long as possible without jeopardizing the relationship. Why would he not be willing to wait? What's the hurry? You have the rest of your lives. It's not like you're saying you don't want to at all. He should respect the fact that you just want to wait a little longer. People change A LOT after the first year and a half. Their TRUE selves show up a lot more, guards are down and people can really see who they're considering on marrying. Good luck!
2007-09-05 13:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't complicate yourself if your boyfriend wants to get married this year is because your boyfriend is talking seriously about you and he is not playing around and that's a sign that he really loves you! Go ahead give him a chance to decide this year but in a date both of you can be confortable and able to decide all the settings of the wedding!
Good Luck and hope this answer helps to solve your issue in the best way possible!
And haved a nice wedding!
See ya and God bless you both!
2007-09-05 13:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by Rodrigo Pinto 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing is missing in your question: WHY you want to marry next year, and why he wants to marry this year. If it's just a case of "I want", then it balances out, "You want" = "he wants", leaving you at a stalemate. If you want to compromise or change his mind, you need to find out why and address those issues.
Perhaps you want a big wedding but don't have much money, so want to wait to save up to have the wedding ceremony you've always dreamed of -- while he just wants you and doesn't see a reason to wait to spend lots of money. Or perhaps he's pushing to get it done, but you're not really sure you're ready so you'd rather postpone it a bit.
Or his baby sister is dying and he wants her to attend before she goes... well okay, that's getting farfetched when I have nothing to go on, but you get the idea. Problem solving means finding the WHY of the problem, and then addressing how you can help that underlying issue, to try to get the result you want. Of course it might turn out that his reasons convince you to his point of view!
2007-09-05 13:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by Katie W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do both! Tell him it takes a lot of time to plan the kind of wedding that you want and many places are already booked for this year so go get married officially in Vegas or at the courthouse then plan your big wedding for next year. Then you have the best of both worlds. You're married now just as he wants, but you have more time to plan like you want.
Congratulations and best wishes!
2007-09-05 13:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by ETicket 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him about your reasons for wanting to wait a year. Do you want to have more time to plan? Time to save up your money? Time to finish school?
Then honestly listen to his reasons for wanting to get married sooner.
Check to see if the venues that you want are booked for the dates each of you wants.
If you go through that and still can't reach a compromise then you may need to rethink marriage. The two of you will have to make a lot of decisions together in the future!
2007-09-05 13:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by Stacia T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really feel that you guys need to come to a date you both like together. Me and my boyfriend decided that October of 2008 was going to be our month because we both love the month. Also it is really hard to book places such as the reception hall the ceremony venue DJ/Band Photographer ect within a few month you usual have to book these things a year in advance. I would talk to you boyfriend about this and then decide on a month that you both love and compromise that's what it is all about:)
2007-09-05 13:39:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Both of you write down your reasons for wanting your wedding at the time you want it.
What ARE your reasons and his reasons for when you want it?
IMO, the later the date, the more time you have to save up for a wedding. If you do it this year, it will be rushed. If you do it next year, you have time to set aside a portion of each paycheck into a wedding account as well as find the "perfect" spot for you to get married.
2007-09-05 14:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your not wanting to get married because you're not ready then take that into concideration...
im in the same problem.... im not completely ready to tie the knot and my fiancee is... i think after many discussions with hium, he finally respects that i need my time.....
don't get married until you are perfectly sure about when YOU want to do it....
if you are wanting to wait because of a timing issue then that you can comprimise on..... in the middle maybe...
2007-09-05 13:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by russiansgirl5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason for you to not want to marry the man you love and want to spend the rest of your life with this year? If you are against marrying your love this year, maybe you are having thoughts that he is not for you.
2007-09-05 13:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by Sherry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋