We live in a small town, and the closest place to shop is Vegas, all of my girlfriends and my parents are back home on the east coast. I need an honest opinion and not someone who is just trying to sell me a dress. (Obviously most places won't let you take pics, afraid of copying designs etc) and sending relatives the pics of models is obviously going to look totally different on them than it would on myself.
Would it be weird to bring my fiance? Is that whole "you can't see the dress" thing still in practice or has that been pretty much pushed aside in the real world?
2007-09-05 13:37:53 · 18 answers · asked by Courtney 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i would take his sister, and i've showed her pictures online and the only she has to say is "wow...it looks like a princess" she's also 8.
2007-09-05 14:23:14 · update #1
Maybe you go together but surprise on the one you decide to purchase. He can give an opinion, but don't tell him what you decide and surprise him for the wedding.
2007-09-05 13:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lyla 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, he may not be willing to go. My HTB has already said he doesn't want to know a thing until wedding day....he gets irritated if I even show him a gown off the internet to see if he likes it (trying to gauge if he's into big gowns, small, elaborate, simple, etc.)
"Obviously most places won't let you take pics".....you should try a different shop. Every single one I have been to has no problems with you taking pictures if you explain that you are planning an out of town wedding unless you are up in the Vera Wang store. They know that having the gown custom made is a big hassle and chances of women actually doing that are small. Taking pics is actually very common, not only to get other people's opinions but so the bride herself can see what it looks like in pictures when she is narrowing down her choices later.
Failing that, doesn't your fiancee have any female family around? Havn't you made any friends in your new home? I know its not their opinion but it could be a really good opportunity to bond with the future mother/sister in laws...
2007-09-05 21:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow -- I was unaware that if you wanted a friend or someone to see your dress that you had "low self esteem"...
I am keeping my dress a surprise. I love surprises and so does my fiance. I would encourage you to make your fiance wait, as well. However, if there is NO ONE else, then you have no other choice but to take him along. If you go to a nice shop, the ladies there should be nice and give you an honest opinion. They want your business, but there will be more than 3 dresses to chose from...they will help you figure out which one is the best.
Good luck!!
2007-09-05 20:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by WorldTraveler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Will your fiance be able to tell you if a dress doesn't suit you? Will you get a bit p.o.'d when he tells you the 30th dress you've tried on isn't the one?
When I shopped for my dress my best friend made the trip from our hometown to help me because I knew she wouldn't BS me about how a dress looked. But I had the foot work already done - which ones I really liked - before she got there. And she ended up most liking the one that I liked the most, too.
Is there someone you work with or a neighbor that wouldn't mind a day in Vegas helping you shop? Find someone in town who's opinion you can trust and buy her lunch in exchange for coming with you to check out the dresses you have found (and already tried on once before) that you really like.
Don't drag your fiance into this - he'll hate it and it might cause a tiff between the two of you.
Good luck
2007-09-05 20:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mirage 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Would it be possible to maybe have your mom fly out for a special weekend of dress shopping or your best friend?
I dont necessarily think its bad to bring your fiance, but really one of the most special things about getting married is the dress and his reaction to seeing you in it for the first time on your wedding day. You will be missing out on that special moment where he tells you how pretty you look. Yes he will tell you when you have it on at the shop, but its not the same, you wont be the "blushing bride" that you will be on your wedding day and you wont have the magic of the wedding day surrounding you when he sees you and tells you how amazing you look.
If there is any way at all to have your mom come out (and I bet she would, thats a special thing for moms to do with their daughters) I would really try to go that route. But if its just impossible and you feel that he is the only one, then take him along. Maybe you could try on a few, get his reactions and then not tell him which one you will be getting so at least there will be the surprise of which dress you got. That may be a happy medium for you.
Best of luck!
2007-09-05 20:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me put it this way, it's not common by any means, but it's your choice. Be prepared for some people to be shocked and horrified, but if it works for you, do it.
A couple months ago, a woman on this board posted about how her fiance was the one who made her wedding gown. Others would be appalled at the idea of the guy having any clue what their gowns might look like.
If you're okay with him knowing, that's what matters. There's no law that says he can't see the gown before the wedding, no matter what tradition says.
2007-09-05 20:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can if that's what you feel comfortable with. Me and my fiance are going to have a ton of stuff to do the wedding day, so he's going to see me in it before we're married. It's not a big deal. There's no such thing as bad luck if he sees you in it before. The only downfall is maybe that he gets "desensitized" to seeing you in it, so it's not a big "wow" for him when he sees you walking down the aisle. If I were you, I'd have him help me pick one out.
2007-09-05 20:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by BlackDahlia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The belief is that they cant see you in your dress before the wedding. I honestly dont believe that superstition. If you trust the opinion of your fiance above and beyond anyone elses then go for it. My husband didnt go with me when I went to find a dress but I showed it to him on when I brought it home to get his opinion. Do what you want. Dont let anyone tell you you cant do something based on a ridiculous old wives tale.
2007-09-05 20:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by tinybori 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The can't see the bride thing is still in practice, but I understand what you're saying. If you want to take your fiance with you and you're both fine with it then go right ahead. Congrats on your upcoming wedding day!
2007-09-05 21:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by DJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be weird. You can't see the dress thing is still in practice. Plus, you want him to see you wearing the wedding dress for the FIRST TIME on the actually wedding. If I were you I'd go by myself and choose a dress.
2007-09-05 20:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yeah, it would be. Not because he shouldn't see you in the dress, but you need an adult woman with you. There has to be some woman you can take shopping with you - even a coworker.
2007-09-06 09:09:33 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋