in the catholic church, i heard that the pastor may choose to put limitations on the music that can be used as long as the mass music are religious, but still choose whatever hymns they so desire, since hymns may mean different things to different couples. as for the processional music, shouldnt they be able to use tunes from movies, or others, classic not real populare for weddings or tunes not used at the typical wedding tunes.
2007-09-05 14:43:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
thank you the clowns who gave their cauky answers, what i was referring to was the music played before the service, the bridesmades/groomsmen processional, entrance of the bride. and recessional, or the pre ceremony music. however the mass part, they should use hymns. personally, i dont think the stereotypical wedding tunes like canon, or trumpet voluntary, or wedding march are any more sacred than using the "happy ending" theme from the little mermaid, or "Harrys wonderful world" from Harry potter movies
2007-09-05 16:07:40 · update #1
If the music is in the church, yes they have to abide by the rules of the church.
Keep in mind that some music may have lyrics that are not approperiate for the sanctuary. I would advise to pick a song, and take the lyrics to the pastor, this way he'll know what is in the song.
However, if the music is to be played outside of the church, like a fellowship hall, but still on church grounds, that may be different. A sanctuary is be holy.
Good Luck.
2007-09-05 14:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Are you the groom? Are you a musician? You don't say why you are asking. Anyway, I hope I can help. I am Catholic and I work at a Lutheran Church so I know a little bit.
It REALLY depends! This is in all faiths - not just the Catholic Church. Yes, there is limitations. For my daughter's wedding, we had the usual Canon in D....etc., but there was a "country" song sang during the lighting of the unity candle, and, now that I think about it....before the ceremony started....like when the grandparents were getting seated, etc. Everything music wise needs to be run by the pastor....you can't just sing/play whatever. It doesn't necessarily have to be religious music played prior to the actual start of the ceremony, but, of course, logic would tell you that it can't be something way off....or have lyrics that are not appropriate.
If you are the groom, then run your selections by the pastor. Most are willing to give a little depending on the music!
2007-09-05 23:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in a Catholic wedding. Since it is in a Catholic church, I assume, then they do have rules/restrictions simply because you are in God's house and they want reverent songs to be played. There are some awesome songs that you could choose from. But the way I see it, just choose a Catholic hymn or two. What will it hurt? You can dance to any music you want to at the reception & honestly not many people remember the music at the wedding itself anyway! I don't think that you'll win this argument with a priest, so just go with the flow! Good luck!
2007-09-05 23:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, a church is a sacred place. I don't think it's appropriate to have anything BUT religious music. If you are going to be married in the eyes of the church and God, then you need to do it in tradition and respect.
I'm Catholic. I like the fact that the Catholic Church does not allow certain music or even certain types of decorations (like pew decorations)
I find it's respectful. That other music takes away from the sacred aspect. In the Catholic Church marriage is a sacrament. It's not a time to be "trendy', rather traditional.
It's also a time to pray that God watches over and protects your marriage. It's definitely not the right time for non-church hymns and music.
2007-09-05 21:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in some churches - not only the Catholic church, for sure - you need to use religious music. Kind of goes with the idea that you are being married religiously....
We got married in a Ukrainian Catholic church - used a hymn to Mary to walk in to, and a happy Ukrainian folk song for the recessional.
2007-09-06 09:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally think that a couple should be allowed to choose what music they want for the ceremony. I am Catholic and I understand that you can't have inappropriate songs but if they are popular and appropriate for the setting I don't see why not. The best thing would be talk to the pastor and see what he would allow for a Catholic wedding. He might be able to work with you and incorporate what songs you would like. Doesn't hurt to ask.
2007-09-05 22:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by Angie H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a church has an absolute right to determine what music can, or cannot, be played in it. If you don't like their rules, then you need to find another place to hold your ceremony. We don't want to use traditional or religious music, but we're not getting married in a church. But, if we had decided that we wanted a church wedding, then we would have accepted the rules of that church. Sometimes you can't have it all and you have to compromise something.
2007-09-05 22:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the venue. If one wants to be married in the Catholic Church, then one follows their rules. Many churches have rules. If one wants to be married in a certain church, one follows the rules.
Select a different venue, and you may be able to use the music you want.
2007-09-05 21:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should but they won't.
I just wanted the song "Always" at my wedding and the Church would not approve it.
While my husband and I were walking down the aisle, after the ceremony, the vocalist knew I wanted that song and sang it anyway. What could the priest do at that point? The ceremony was over and he (the priest) would look like a jerk now if he didn't sign the wedding papers.
2007-09-05 21:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by thearizonapenguin 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
What you have to remember is that the church is just that: a church. While some denominations have no problem with secular music, others feel it is disrespectful to God to use non-religious music.
When in a church, it's important to show respect for the beliefs represented there, whether one shares them or not.
2007-09-05 22:04:49 · answer #10 · answered by gileswench 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋