Weddings - September 2007

I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. I'm currently in my last semester of college and I just got a full-time job. The job pays crap and I'm not lying either. But, it's a foot in the door at a company w/ loads of personal growth potential.

My boyfriend works full-time. We both had financial difficulties, but mine are almost cleared up. His should take another 6 months to clear up.

I'm frustrated b/c I feel like we are at a great time in our lives to move to the next step. A wedding won’t be able to happen until at least 2009, but I feel an engagement is appropriate at this time.

When I bring it up he says, "I know we want to be together. But, we both still have a lot of things to work out in our personal lives (mainly financial and w/ job security)"

I just don't feel content with this answer. But, I don't want to pressure him either. Like I said, I'd be willing to have a 18 month engagement.

2007-09-23 18:19:38 · 13 answers · asked by Miss Answers 2007 2

My wedding is on nov. 2nd and i still haven't finished finalizing my guest list. I want less than 60 people there but my family keeps telling me to invite some great aunts & uncles that i could care less if they were there. The whole problem in the this is that our wedding reception & ceremony are at the same site, same room and there is not much space. that's why i wanted it to be a small wedding....but my immediate family on my dad's side is 30 people. What should I do????

2007-09-23 17:56:30 · 11 answers · asked by samanne05 1

Or freedom fries, if you wish.

2007-09-23 15:40:41 · 15 answers · asked by neil s 7

I have a sleeveless dress, with the typical poofy skirt. I have an elbow-length simple veil, and have a small tiara that I'm debating on switching out for something even more simple. Would you wear your hair up or down? I thought at first I'd do up, to help elongate the way I look (I'm short), but now I'm not so sure? The one thing I do know is that I don't want it completely down and all over my face.

2007-09-23 15:33:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

if so do u know any talented videographers located in toronto? and any web sites!

2007-09-23 14:36:16 · 6 answers · asked by stacy 2

just wondering.
I'd love to get married in St. Patrick's Cathedral in NYC..it's so so beautiful, but I'm not Catholic.. =\

2007-09-23 14:30:04 · 22 answers · asked by Kristin 3

I have a question regarding really proper shower etiquette.

We've already decided that the wedding will be small, i.e. meaning, parents and grandparents only, no aunt, uncles, cousins, etcetera.

I'd like to still have a shower, not to get gifts, I already have a silver set and all the dishes I could ever want, but just to party with my friends, female family, and I won't lie, maybe get some lingerie for the wedding night. All the showers I've been to, no house gifts, just lingerie stuff.

Is it appropriate to have a shower if you're technically not having a wedding? I'm not asking for wedding presents or money from anyone.

Please do not respond with what is considered appropriate for today. My family is weird about all those old proper etiquette rules. So if anyone knows the Emily Post, Ann Landers kinda response for this, I'd really appreciate it!

P.S. There's no bachelor / bachelorette parties, btw.

2007-09-23 13:39:52 · 13 answers · asked by sephienie 3

I'm getting married in less than 3 months. I'm 20, and my fiance is 21, so I feel old enough to make decisions on my own. My mother wanted me to ask this question to hear some honest feedback, so here it goes.
I would like to share my wedding day with everyone I consider a friend. I want to invite one of my friends that I hardly ever talk to, we will call her "Sarah." Sarah, who is my friend of many years, happens to be my dad's ex-wife. Her and I always got along pretty well and she was always a real nice person to me. Her and my dad split because of reasons I will not go into. My parents both feel that they would feel betrayed if I invited Sarah to my wedding, but I would feel really bad, like a terrible person if I didn't. I don't want to start a fight with anyone or anything, but I want to have a beautiful day shared with all my friends, a day about my fiance and I. Not a day about who has a grudge or not. What should I do? Should I or should I not invite her? Thank you.

2007-09-23 13:32:51 · 29 answers · asked by Damien's Mommy 4

I am getting married in May, I thought it would be a nice project to take pics of my fiance growing up then me growing up and then us dating, engaged, wedding, and make a video. Then as time goes on add in anniversaries and the first home we purchase and r children etc etc etc. so that at the end of r lives together we will have something to leave behind for r children grandchildren and great grandchildren to c the amazing life we had together. just a way to record all of the best moments in r lives both seperate and together. whats ur take on this?

2007-09-23 13:21:36 · 7 answers · asked by Jen 2

I was inspired by a white and black wedding cake with red roses seen here:
http://i97.photobucket.com/albums/l238/onetruqt/535437126_f8c274eda2.jpg

And decided to use these colors for my wedding. I know I don’t want a tradition wedding. In replace of tull, flowers and other boring material used I want to use feathers, mirrors and beads. The typical just wont do so I really need help coming up with unique ideas. Just to give you an idea: for place cards I found theses really cool ball and chains and painted numbers on them attached is a card with the person name on it. PLEASE HELP ME no idea is to far out the box. thanks :)

2007-09-23 12:57:27 · 13 answers · asked by sboyd_hfcc 1

My boyfriend and I recently decided to take the plunge, however he can't afford a nice ring now because we need to move. Should we still tell people that we are engaged or should we wait until I have a ring on my finger?

2007-09-23 12:44:48 · 24 answers · asked by Bella Ophelia 1

The pastor can't perform my sister's wedding in two weeks, so I thought about getting ordained through an online service. Exactly how legal/legitimate are these certifications?

2007-09-23 12:32:10 · 5 answers · asked by hammond_eggor 2

what is the guest attire etiquette? mini-dress, knee length...is it ok to wear black or white? it is an October wedding and I am not sure what time of day yet.

2007-09-23 11:23:03 · 10 answers · asked by breeleighmidge 2

I'm having an uneven amount of people in my wedding party due to the fact that I have only 1 female friend (the rest are male), no sisters, and only 1 female cousin that I'm close to. So 2 bridesmaids and 4 Groomsmen. My mom seems to have a problem with it. She says it's unwise and keeps giving me attitude about it. When I ask why I HAVE to have it even she ignores me. I'm not going to give in to what she thinks, but I don't see what the problem is. I know it's pretty common to have an uneven wedding party and there is no law saying it has to be even. So why can't she just leave it alone? What can I say to her to make her stop her arguing on the matter?


and btw we're paying for the entire wedding ourselves.

2007-09-23 10:45:14 · 17 answers · asked by Mekana 5

So, I currently have purple hair and I'm getting married next year.
I really only don't want it to be purple so I don't offend certain family members.
I'm not sure how I feel about it yet.
I have really tan skin and was thinking of a light brown/blondish color or a redder color.
Should I just go with the purple hair I like, because it's MY wedding or should I make family happy. I don't want to hear them complain.
Also, should I leave my hair down to cover the tattoos on my neck or should I just go with an up-do, which is what I prefer?!

2007-09-23 10:35:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

There are tons of songs about little girls growing up and getting married, but i can't think of anything like that for guys. My brother is getting married and I was asked to put together a slide show of pictures of the bride and groom throughout the years, but I need a song to play while showing pictures of my brother. So any songs about men getting married, or just about men would be great!

I'm thinking about playing "Isnt she Lovely" for the bride, so something that goes along with that would be appreciate, but all ideas are helpful!
Thanks everyone!

2007-09-23 10:08:41 · 9 answers · asked by pirate_kiss06 1

She Is Also Pregnant And Im Invited To The Wedding What Am I To Do It Feels Sooo Wrong Please Help

2007-09-23 09:45:38 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-23 09:43:21 · 20 answers · asked by Hilllbilly_gal 5

Our wedding will be my fiance's 2nd and my first (and only) marriage. We have been living together for quite some time. Are we still supposed to register for gifts? I think it sounds fun, but I don't know if it would be considered a faux pas or not. What are the guidlines for this?

2007-09-23 09:20:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-23 08:56:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance and I decided a year ago when we got engaged that we wanted a wedding that reflected who we are and what we love. We decided to have a destination wedding in Cuba with our kids. We invited people to join if they wanted to share in our day. We also decided that we would have a small reception when we returned for friends and family to see a video and pictures of our wedding. We could only afford so much and having a wedding local with reception and then a honeymoon was far more than we could afford. I got a fair bit slack from my dad about the cost to travel for a wedding. Yet my dad said he wouldn't pay for any of my wedding if I had it here. So the people that are going I feel are upset and feel obligated to go. I have also been told that it was selfish of me to have a destination wedding because many of my family would have liked to see me get married and have the reception here. Many of my family have decided not to attend the wedding - but are talking behind my back now

2007-09-23 08:35:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was thinking that strapless is probably out b/c i dont want to feel self-concious about it all night. What about a halter, sweetheart or off the shoulder style? I want short sleeves.

2007-09-23 05:50:59 · 15 answers · asked by kcleighb 3

If you had to pick 3 songs for a wedding, what would they be. No typical songs either.
I have picked one i like, sam cooke, a change is gonna come.

What 3 would you chose?

2007-09-23 05:04:05 · 7 answers · asked by gadgesxi 1

It's my boss (37/M) bday and i don't know what to give, he almost have everything. i want to give him something that he would appreciate. He is very nice to me, i want to give him something for his bday to show how much thankfull i am to his generosity and kindness. please help

2007-09-23 03:40:53 · 7 answers · asked by concerned_citizen 2

My sister's son will be Married soon. All my Nephews cousins are invited to the wedding but mine seeing they are not the age of 18. I am the youngest Aunt. Also I have 5 children ages 11 to 17. There are a few kids attending on the Brides side because they live out of town. I have A great Nephew the age of 11, And My older Brothers adopted son age 17 are attending. I have really taken offense to this and do not want to attend but do not want to hurt my sisters feelings. Should I stay home or Suck it up an go for my Sis. My Husband refuses to go, so I,ll have to go alone. What would you do. Please Help

2007-09-23 03:02:09 · 21 answers · asked by mary f 2

2007-09-23 02:38:15 · 10 answers · asked by sonči 1

2007-09-23 01:31:40 · 8 answers · asked by INDRA SINGH S 1

should i tell them with my girlfriend or talk to the parents alone?

2007-09-23 01:11:46 · 17 answers · asked by hans h 1

My fiancee wants the traditional Wedding March song etc, but we would like to find a different version to the typical one. I heard a piano version and guitar version once and they were both beautiful but I have no idea who played them, so can't get a hold of the CD.

Does anyone have any recommendations?

2007-09-22 18:13:23 · 8 answers · asked by GW 1

My daughter and her boyfriend recently went to the courthouse to be married by the J.P. so that they could "go ahead and live together." Now they are planning a church wedding which is going to be about 2 months since the actual "J.P." wedding. While I respect their reasons for wanting to make it "legal" before living together, I have never heard of re-doing the whole thing (rings, etc) only 2 months later. It seems kind of awkward and not sure what to tell guests. And what day should their anniversaries fall on? Both ceremonies? I realize that these days pretty much anything goes with weddings and I want my daughter to be happy, but has anyone else ever heard of this? Thanks!

2007-09-22 18:00:57 · 7 answers · asked by mysti 6