My boyfriend and I recently decided to take the plunge, however he can't afford a nice ring now because we need to move. Should we still tell people that we are engaged or should we wait until I have a ring on my finger?
2007-09-23 12:44:48 · 24 answers · asked by Bella Ophelia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You do not need a ring to be engaged. Many years ago they didn't have engagement rings, they only had plain gold wedding bands. You're engaged if he asked and you said yes!
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials.
2007-09-23 12:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 14⤊ 1⤋
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My boyfriend and I recently decided to take the plunge, however he can't afford a nice ring now because we need to move. Should we still tell people that we are engaged or should we wait until I have a ring on my finger?
2015-08-06 21:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are engaged when you and your fiance say that you are engaged, but don't be disappointed if people say - where's the ring? That's what happened to me.
In retrospect, it would have been better to get an inexpensive ring to symbolize the engagement. We got very nice wedding bands for the wedding. And several years later, my husband got me a gorgeous diamond ring.
Have you gone on EBay? Our son got a beautiful used diamond engagement ring, one-quarter carat, for $125.00. It takes some perseverance to keep bidding on rings that you like, but there are great deals there. Only buy from someone who has a lot of great feedback.
2007-09-23 14:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can definitely be engaged without an engagement ring. The first time I got married, I didn't want an engagement ring, and didn't have one. If you are engaged and planning a wedding, I would tell people now. If you're not really sure when you'll be getting married, I would wait.
2007-09-23 13:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Tell people your good news :) You do not need a ring to be engaged or planning to be married. My husband (of 2 years now) and I were together (and saving up/planning our wedding) for 4 years before getting married because we were in college and didn't buy an engagement ring because it would have been an irresponsible way to spend money we needed to pay our way through school. A few months before our wedding we bought him a wedding band and bought me a diamond ring for my wedding ring (no "traditional" wedding band). There are no rules set in stone. Do what feels right for the both of you and forget what judgmental people may say because that would be a sad way to live life.
Congratulations on your engagement and on being responsible with your money and not following "tradition" for the sake of what others may think.
2007-09-23 14:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by sunny 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes! While the ring has become a big sign of the engagement, it is the commitment you have made to each other that truly matters!!! I say tell everyone! But if you really feel more comfortable waiting till you have a ring, you have other affordable options. If you are unable to afford a diamond ring, you should consider “fake” diamonds. You can find a nice Diamonique ring on QVC for under $200. If you don’t feel comfortable with faking it, I suggest you try other gemstones. Aquamarines are a beautiful light blue stone (fairly durable, 7.5-8 on the Mohs scale – diamonds are the hardest at 10). Kunzite is a pretty light pink stone (6.5-7 on Mohs scale), and yellow tourmalines (7-7.5 on Mohs scale) are a pretty substitute to yellow diamonds. Since Jennifer Lopez’s engagement to Ben Affleck, colored engagement rings have become very popular, and a great choice for brides who are:
1) on a budge
2) have a non-traditional sense of style
3) are not the cookie-cutter type.
Also they allow you to get a larger stone of higher quality for a fraction of the cost of a diamond. For me, I would absolutely go with one of these alternatives since I can hardly justify spending $10,000 on a ring. I much rather spend that on the honeymoon, reception or a house. Best wishes on your new adventure!
2007-09-24 04:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Panther 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you love him then the ring is on your heart. You can be engaged without having a ring. Besides who cares what other people think when you are in love. He loved you enough to ask you whether or not he had a ring, you said yes, and when is the wedding (lol).
I hope that the rest of life together will be blessed.
2007-09-23 12:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by 4JESUS 1 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you can be engaged without an engagement ring.
2007-09-23 12:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Suz123 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I never wanted an an egagement ring; I wanted matching bands. But yes, we told people we were engaged but we didn't until we could also tell them the date. Neither of us wanted a long engagement. But certainly, tell people you are planning to marry. Why not!!
2007-09-23 12:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes you can, the ring is just an outward symbol of your engagement, something for all the world to see, but if you don't have one it does not make you any less engaged.
2007-09-24 01:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋