Marriage & Divorce - 30 December 2007

2007-12-30 11:01:00 · 65 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-30 10:49:37 · 37 answers · asked by renae2007_1986 4

many may argue about having more than one wife ,but as i noticed wherever you go there are women more than men .
add to that there are lots of prostitutes every where that rises the questuion why they don't have a husbands (the most acceptable way of life)
finally he(the man) is capable of having up to four wifes. bearing in mind lots (not all) of those have one wife tend to do adutry.
so folk what do you think about having more than one wife ?
(for ladies only : we are just discussing this topic, no hard feelings)

2007-12-30 10:31:29 · 17 answers · asked by friendly 2

I am in a situation where I made some mistakes in my marraige of 7 years. We have one child together, and the past 2 years I've felt all sorts of things that I won't go into here, but fell out of "passion" if not love, with my husband (although he's a good provider). He caught me in an affair and was secretly monitoring my email over 3 weeks before he confronted me. In that time he had all sorts of raunchy pics and emails that I had sent to 2 different men online that I was interested in. He was livid obviously and shared them with his side of the family because they didn't believe him when he told them what I was doing.

Anyway, I have straightened up now and want to try to make things work, but his family looks at me like I'm a horrible person now. Will I have to live under this dark cloud of guilt my whole life while I try to make it up to him? I'm not a bad person, I was just going through a weird period in my life.

2007-12-30 10:20:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

it's not like you are going to see her again

2007-12-30 10:17:37 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

I come from a very wealthy family and am accostumed to receiving lavish gifts for special occasions. My fiance's family is also well-off, and they know the lifestyle that I am used to. This year for Christmas, his family only gave a bag that retails for a little over $700(Louis Vuitton Antigua Cabas MM.) My family and I, however, spent over $3,000 on his family. I feel cheated. Should I ask my fiance to buy me more gifts to make up for his family's lack of consideration, or just spend less on them next year?

2007-12-30 10:06:37 · 101 answers · asked by Liz Hope 4

2007-12-30 10:01:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

what do you think of when your hear the word jockstrap and cup? have you had anything to do with one?

2007-12-30 10:00:26 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

Had a platonic relationship with a person of opposite sex that thay could rely talk to? do you have that kind of friend?

2007-12-30 09:52:02 · 25 answers · asked by WAIGHT 4

Our kids are in a play group together. My son really likes going.

2007-12-30 09:47:44 · 14 answers · asked by Golf Chick 3

2007-12-30 09:41:14 · 27 answers · asked by racheal 1

I have nothing.He controls everything.If I left I would leave with nothing.I have a car now but I know he would take it from me since it is his through the bank.He would make everything impossible for me.I believe he wouldn't pay child support at least he says he will work and not use his social so I cannot get the support I deserve.I know he would be given a job without his social too.People will help him accomplish that.I would leave without anything.I don't have anywhere to go.I have a poor family which cannot financially help me.I have two kids that will be in need.If I were to go back to my mom's she lives in a little town out in the country where there is no transit system and the one taxi that is there will break the bank.I feel so lost.When I met him I was independant.I had my own car, a good job etc.Since I have had the kids I have had to work around his schedule,relocate,drop my dreams so he could accomplish his.My credit is messed up now.Please no negative comments.

2007-12-30 09:28:18 · 40 answers · asked by tiffany a 3

My son is 14 months old and i returned to work about a month and a half ago. Do you think it is right to work or is a mums place still at home? i do enjoy work but i miss out on so much stuff that i took for granted.. is it really worth it? im confused... need some feed back c

2007-12-30 09:26:51 · 14 answers · asked by Dimples 2

also, how long had you known your spouse before marrying?
thx

2007-12-30 09:01:30 · 27 answers · asked by ★SuGar and SpiCe★ 5

2007-12-30 08:57:16 · 13 answers · asked by f_short_m 1

I have a private savings , checking, and credit card because my husband has stolen from me in the past and present to buy himself toys and race car parts. I think he is addicted to his cars. I heard you can get addicted to anything. He denys it. He has easily bought things on the internet with my credit card (his cards are maxed out). Somehow he learned my pin number (my bank card) I think from watching me. He was able to pull money from my ATM. He thought I WOULDN'T NOTICE. The worst of it is that now I JUST FOUND OUT THAT HE HAS STOLEN MY IDENTITY AND HAS ORDERED CREDIT CARDS IN MY NAME. He said to me yesterday that I shouldn't woryy because he has been making payments but I called and he never made one single payment. Thank god I ALREADY BAUGHT A HOUSE. He swears that he doesn't need anything else for his car and I have nothing else to worry about. He has said this over the past ten years. We have three small children. I am afraid he is a thief? Do I LEAVE? The kids love him. Is

2007-12-30 08:56:30 · 16 answers · asked by snj 1

I think I've given all I have. I feel at this point it seems to be a dance of "I need you in my life" satifaction. The thing is...I don't think I feel that way anymore.

In personal experiences.....when does enough become the end? And if you decided that....how has life treated you since?

2007-12-30 08:17:09 · 8 answers · asked by ? 1

2007-12-30 07:47:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6yrs now & we have a 20mo old daughter together. Well he will never watch her for me. Like if I want to take a shower & ask him to watch her he always says "wait until she's asleep!" Plus I just started this new fitness plan for my new years resolution & it requires me to run on the treadmill everyday (shape's meltdown). Well I asked him to watch her & he said "Wait until she's asleep" but I did & the tread mill woke her up & she was all the way at the other end of the house... He never changes her diapers for me, He never gives her a bath... I have to do everything & never get to do anything I want to do. I asked him "What if I started refusing to change her diaper or even watch her?" (which I would NEVER do btw) he said "well I guess you'd be a bad mom then" Plust he's only nice to me when he wants "some" but when he don't he's hateful to me all day. I don't know what to do. I love him but I'm really not happy at all...

2007-12-30 07:32:43 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Will I be able to stay in quarters until the divorce is final, and will I be able to recieve alimony I have had like 2 jobs in 9 years. and have not worked in the last like 7 years except like for maybe 6 months. I do not want a divorce and we are going through counseling. I do not think he is real serious about the counseling and just does not want any of the responsibility. I am not worried about custody, I do not know how I will support myself or my 3 choldren.

2007-12-30 07:30:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband of 6 months asked me today how many guys I've been with. I'va always told him two, because that's what I consider. But there was a couple of drunken, black outs, that I think I might have have sex. I told him about them, wanting to be honest. And now he says he doesn't think the same of me...and he's bringing up every little mistake I've ever made. What do I do?

2007-12-30 07:28:35 · 33 answers · asked by anon. 1

I'm in a situation where my husband is not meeting my needs emotionally or sexually. He spends all his time either at work or doing something alone, like reading, or arranging baseball cards. We rarely are intimate.

I'm at a point where I am so lonely and feel so disconnected from human contact generally that something has to change. I feel it is unfair to be married and get the emotional (and physical) needs from outside of the marriage, but I also don't want to give up on this. I want things to work out. I also can't continue on like this. It's affecting my health at this point.

He knows how I feel, we've done countless hours of marriage counselling. I feel like my only option is to terminate the marriage. Is there an option I haven't considered that you can think of to save this marriage?
Thanks.

2007-12-30 07:23:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and i have been married for 9 months and been together for 8 years. After we got married, i had mentioned that i wanted to cut my hair. He suggested that i donate my hair to locks of love, which i did. (but they had to cute a lot off which let me with a "pixie" style haircut, which i adore. Ever since then, he has made numerous cuts about how i look like a boy, he's not attracted to me anymore, etc. He isnt affectionate anymore....I have told him that i will let my hair grow out, but he expects it to happen overnight. i miss him being affectionate with me...to me it seems so petty to act like that over hair...am i nuts???

2007-12-30 07:22:36 · 20 answers · asked by Mrs.Mann 2

This is an unusual situation. My ex is 60 and I'm 41. We have 3 children together. He currently lives with us in the basement. I have to move on because we are outgrowing our house. I was thinking of letting him move in with me again due to the fact that 1) he has to have a knee replacement operation and recovery is very difficult and long! 2) my kids have grown used to him being around, esp. my youngest and they would miss him 3) we can't really afford to live separately. I am working full time he's on disability and I can't pay someone to take care of the kids after school.
With all this being said the fact of the matter is that my ex and I can't stand each other. We will NEVER get back together. I have been seeing someone for 4 years now and I can't seem to move on due to my situation. My ex hates this person immensely and doesn't want him around my kids. He's very controlling. I feel guilty though, if I don't help him out after all we've been through. Please help!! Thank you!

2007-12-30 07:18:55 · 5 answers · asked by dancergalny 2

We started out normal. Had some issues arrise. Stayed together when other couples may not have. We are now, Very good friends. I mean the best of friends. But, as a result of the problems, we are not intimate, at all. My question is directed to older couples who may be familiar with this. Can It really be as good as It seems, If thier is no sex going on? We don't even talk about it or think about it. We lauph at it! We have 6 kids, 2 of whom sleep with us ( by choice,of course). We are tired, worn out, desperate to relax. Trying to have enouph $ to provide. Really, no time for sex, we fall asleep sitting up half the time. We are both round as Turkeys, probably not from food, but, depression & lack of healthy eating. We have to eat whatever we can get that will feed everyone. Half the time, I don't eat at all. & I am still fat,lol. I feel REALLY HAPPY, am I nuts? (only, depressed about my complexion & weight) I honestly think we are to fat to have sex. We release ourselves, as needed.

2007-12-30 07:17:56 · 11 answers · asked by Sojourner 2

I love her but I also would like to have kids. I do not know what is more important.
Thank you!

2007-12-30 07:05:46 · 20 answers · asked by ezns74 1

My mother in-law has only been married to this guy for a couple of years and he treats her like a slave. She doesn't know about this but we think if we can get several guys to start emailing her she will leave this guy she's married to now.

2007-12-30 07:01:57 · 14 answers · asked by cavyndish 1

He told me two days before christmas.... that bastard

2007-12-30 07:01:38 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ever since i saw his picture and got a reply back , i've been thinking about him. Its just been small talk between us. I am married. The thing of it is he is single and just got dumped, am i just adding to the fire by reconnecting with him? He sounded happy to hear from me. I asked if he remembered me and said "of course i do!" and listed some of the things i liked and did. The weird thing is, i didn't tell him i was married .He found that out through my profile. I felt awkward telling him i was happily married when he's telling me the girl he went out with after me, turned out to be a beast and recently he was jilted. I sent him a message telling him i need to stop contact because of how i feel. Then i sent him another one telling him i would like to keep in touch once in a while. Did i do the right thing?? Is it best to have no contact? Is he not saying much because i'm married? Its only small talk and nothing more.

2007-12-30 06:46:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years-we have a little girl and our relationship-is not so good..he flirts and drools over other girls in front of me-puts me down about my weight and looks-ive changed my diet-ive been losing weight-maybe not in the right way-but im lsing it-honestly i need to know how i can emotionally DETACH myself from him-please can someone tell me how to do that-i would really appreciate that-i need to find a way to stop loving him so much and to stop worrying about how he feels about me -i really want to find a way i can just stop caring about him period.

2007-12-30 06:44:44 · 9 answers · asked by B. Anderson 2