How do you know when you've given personally all you can give in a realation ship?

Question

I think I've given all I have. I feel at this point it seems to be a dance of "I need you in my life" satifaction. The thing is...I don't think I feel that way anymore.

In personal experiences.....when does enough become the end? And if you decided that....how has life treated you since?

Answer 1

WHEN YOU HAVE GIVEN YOUR ALL AND IT HAS NOT BEEN RECIPROCATED
WHEN THE RELATIONSHIP IS ONE SIDED
WHEN YOUR ALL JUST ISN'T ENOUGH
WHEN YOU STOP ENJOYING THERE COMPANY
WHEN YOU START AVOIDING THE CALLS
WHEN YOU FINIALLY WAKE UP AND REALIZE YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT THEM
ENOUGH BECOMES THE END WHEN YOU STOP CARING ABOUT THERE FEELINGS
RIGHT NOW I'M IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS COMMUNICATION FREE AND THAT SUCKS FOR ME... HE HAS HAD A HARD TIME EXPRESSING HIMSELF HE SAID ITS BECAUSE HE HASN'T EVER HAD TO THINK BEFORE (WELL SHAME ON HIM BUT I JUST CANT TAKE ANYMORE ITS EITHER GET IT TOGETHER OR LETS KEEP IT MOVING)
I BELIEVE THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO HAS SIMILAR VALUES AND THE RELATIONSHIP WILL BE EQUAL

LISTEN TO YOUR HEART IT KNOWS BETTER THAN THE HEAD!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

You say that you have given it your all so it is enough. It has not helped and it will not get better. When you are tired of trying it is time to end. It was hard at first but you get over that feeling very quickly. Just being away from it will make you realize exactly how unhappy that you really were. In a few weeks you will be wondering what took you so long.

Answer 3

I feel I've given all I can give. I don't know if this is right or wrong or the answer you're looking for, but the reasons for me thinking this are:

I don't care what my husband does.
I don't like being around my husband that much.
I don't want to be intimate with my husband.
Everything he does gets on my nerves.
I hate my in-laws.
I daydream about leaving him and being on my own.
I don't want to have children anymore (I don't have any yet).
ETC.

I'm a sad case, really. As soon as I'm wrapped with with this whole grad school thing, I plan to take a break and then re-evaluate.

Answer 4

It becomes the end when you feel like you have made every attempt to work things out and nothing has worked..

When you feel enough is enough then you know what to do. Everyone is different and can put up with different things.

Always remember that the botom line is you come first no one else will take care of you better then yourself!!

Answer 5

It is different for every one. No one can tell you when enought is enough for your only you know when that happens. It took me 4 years with my first husband and 8 years with the 2nd one. I am remarried now for the 3rd time and it has been totally wonderful everysingle day we have known each other.

Answer 6

When you can go 14 days straight with that feeling that you're being used and this relationship is a deadend, that is two whole weeks with no glimmer of hope, then its time.

Answer 7

Do You Care Too Much to be Loved?


You would think being too caring and giving in a relationship is a good thing, a desirable thing. If you gave your partner too much, cared about him or her too much, you would want to be thanked, be appreciated for it, wouldn't you?

Unfortunately, giving too much or caring too much in a relationship makes your partner appreciate you less rather than more. The more you care and give, the more likely your partner is to think you need him or her more than he or she needs you. And the more likely your partner will think of you as a doormat who will do anything to please.


If you care too much and do too much, you likely feel taken for granted and not cared about much. You are often the one people leave behind, the one left wondering what went wrong.


I am not saying some giving and some caring in a relationship is bad. But doing too much of either will likely lead to you being alone.


How much is too much? Take this assessment and find out if you are giving too much and if you care too much in your relationship.


Choose statements that best describe you.


Your significant other is struggling financially. You:

A. Ask him/her to move in with you
B. Give him/her money to help
C. Loan him/her money with an agreed upon payment date
D. Offer lots of emotional and moral support



You bring presents, flowers, cards, etc. for your significant other on the following occasions:

A. Every time you see him/her
B. Most times you see him/her
C. On very special occasions, and some made up special occasions
D. For major holidays, plus a few other special times



Your significant other is feeling overwhelmed with life/responsibilities/work. You support him/her by:

A. Moving in and attempting to carry most of his/her load
B. Cleaning his/her house, cooking for his/her family, or taking on
other household or childcare responsibilities
C. Agreeing to take on some responsibilities for a short period of
time, while another plan is being formulated
D. Helping him/her figure out how to restructure life/work/family
so that the load is lessened



Your significant other has just forgotten an important occasion or has done something inconsiderate. You deal with this by:

A. Saying absolutely nothing - you do not want to hurt his/her
feelings
B. Bringing the incidents up only during a fight, as ammunition.
Otherwise, you would rather not take a chance at hurting
his/her feelings
C. Bringing up the incident and sharing how it made you feel
D. Bringing up the incident and talking about why it turned out this
way



You care about your significant other and want to make sure the two of you have enough time together. You try to arrange your schedule so that you can:

A. Spend every available moment with him/her
B. Spend every night together with him/her
C. Spend a few weekday nights and the weekend together
D. Spend a mutually agreed upon amount of time together


What this assessment reveals about you:

If you primarily picked "A"s, you give and care much too much. Back off emotionally or you may find yourself alone again and again. Instead channel all that wonderful giving energy into volunteer work.


If you primarily picked "B"s and you are dating, you are caring and giving too much. Find another outlet, creative or service oriented. However, if you are married or in a very long-term relationship, your level of giving/caring is right on target.


If you primarily picked "C"s, you are in the average/healthy range of caring and giving. Try improving your communication to drastically improve your relationship.


If you primarily picked "D"s, congratulations. You seem to be in a very healthy, thriving relationship, where the two of you can communicate your needs and wants.

What to do if you care and give too much:
After this article, you may be convinced you need to curb your giving, but you may not be able to do it. Try this: every time you feel like overdoing it in your relationship, give to charity or volunteer.

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries

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Answer 8

I couldn't tell ya BUT; when you wait until there is no more . . . no more anger, no more love, no more hatred, no more feelings at all, nothing but indifference and the zombie zone, then it's too late.