2007-12-30 11:01:00 · 65 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i do not in ANY way mean ppl who cannot physically have children, i mean ppl who choose not to have them!
2007-12-30 11:15:34 · update #1
No, they are just wanting different things from life.
2007-12-30 11:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they are. I am a childless woman. I don't want children. I like my time. Perhaps that is selfish. I own 3 beautiful dogs who take up alot of my time and are my best buds. I have been married for 23 years and I'm 40 years old. I used to want children in my 20's, but we were in school and not enough time. Now that I'm 40, I have no interest. I want to live a calm, peaceful rest of my life. If that is selfish, so be it. :)
I also don't think I would be a good mom. I would overprotect and love too much. I am way too sensitive and would make a child a nervous wreck. My husband has a bad temper too. Some people, like me, just don't feel kids are a good idea. I have a 16 year old nephew who I worry for all the time. If he was my own child he would be kept in a plastic bubble for protection! I'm overexaggerating, but I know I would be overprotective and my children would suffer for it. Why do that to them or to myself? :)
2007-12-30 11:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It depends on circumstances, but I would say no. I was married and chose to be childless. I feel like I would not be a good parent and it was a bad marriage so it is better to not have kids in those circumstances. Now that I am over 40, would not feel comfortable to have a child at this age. I personally think people who have kids just because it is expected and then have nannies, or parents raise the kids, are the selfish ones.
2007-12-30 17:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not selfish to not have kids. It's not selfish to have kids either. It's just a personal choice.
I can understand both - it's very rewarding to be a parent, but at the same time it's a ton of work and sacrifice. If someone's not up to the challenge, it doesn't mean they are selfish, just as someone who would rather be an accountant rather than a plumber is not selfish. Being a parent is a big job, and if you don't want that job, then you shouldn't take it.
2007-12-30 11:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all. I selfish couple is a couple that has a child and is not ready or responsible. A selfish couple is a couple that knowing they cannot care for a child and do not want a child in their lifes, but they still don't take precautions. I being a mother think it's a BEAUTIFUL thing, but it definately is not for everyone and if you aren't ready and just don't want to be a parent then you are making the right decision. Some people just cannot reproduce. Each of us needs to make a decision for themselves.
2007-12-30 11:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by ~Sara~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're doing that because you want all your own money for yourself, then yes you are probably quite selfish!
If you like/love children and are able to have children then you should before your 'body clock' ticks over to say your 'time is up' and you miss out on the amazing experience being a parent.
Having a child is a 'miracle' in its self if you 'BOTH' don't want to be a part in that, then that's your decision, but NEVER EVER say to a parent "I know how you feel" when a parent or a friend with kids say how hard being a parent is!
2007-12-30 11:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am assuming you mean people that can have children but don't . There is alot of people out there that can't. If people can have children and decide not to have children selfish? No, If they know that they will not be able to give the child the love and time they need to grow up to be decent human beings then no they should never have children.
2007-12-30 11:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Great question , when I was married we both agreed we did not want to have children , we liked kids but just felt it would not be fair to a child because we both had busy careers and enjoyed doing things together in our free time , no it's not selfish I think you have to consider what the childs life will be like a lot of people don't before having kids......
2007-12-30 11:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Confused 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No....some people just aren't cut out to be parents...some are.
If a couple chooses not to be parents then it's because for whatever reason they don't feel they are parent material and should nevr be faulted for it...parenthood is a personal chose and not one made 'cause others do it, or the Mom or MIL want grandkids......why bring children into the world that you will resent or never wanted in the first place.........
....use some common sense here......
2007-12-30 11:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! One thing has nothing to do with the other. My mother is one of the most selfish people I know, and she had 4 kids. If you choose not to have kids, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. In fact, I really respect you for not conforming to the pressure of others. By the way, I have kids. I don't think that makes me any way shape or form better than people who don't have kids. It is just a lifestyle choice. I wish you well.
2007-12-30 11:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by Beachgirl123 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
no, not selfish at all. me and my missus are willing but the bodies arent. but anyway she has a child from a previous relationship where as i have none and unable to provide the neccessary ingredient to bake baby cakes in her oven (i have no sperm) but hey! her son is my son even though he's 26 and a strapping six footer plus! his fiancee is my daughter. i've only known them for a few years but they have my full protection as a pseudo parent. anyway i dont want kids of our own, i can barely look after us never mind a new born. so no nothing wrong with childless couples being seen as selfish. if they dont want or can provide for kids fair play to them.
2007-12-30 13:33:36 · answer #11 · answered by hey its mr gash bucket 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋