2007-12-30 08:57:16 · 13 answers · asked by f_short_m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my ex use to all of a sudden find fault and pick fights with me, hurt my feelings, i had no idea why until later on i found out he had been seeing her for awhile, and he was trying to provoke a fight, any fight so he could leave me and be with her. he had to create a reason so he could justify to friends and family why he did what he did, he couldn't tell them the real reason, that he just wanted someone new, and someone who didn't know the real him. men will do about anything to get rid of someone they don't want but they don't want to be truthful, so they pick fights and invent lies.
2007-12-30 13:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship with a guy that did the same, but to be fair, I'd do it back. There were a lot of reasons. Sometimes it would just be to take our frustration out on each other. If the day sucked or if something he did previously annoyed me and I didn't tell him about it, I'd get upset over something trivial. Other times, he'd find things to fight about because he was bored and we weren't doing much talking. I think he did it just to get me to talk to him.
I'd say it's a communication problem. Either he's in a bad mood and he takes it out on you rather than talking to you civilly, or he doesn't feel the two of you interact enough and he's trying to force that (albeit, in a negative way). When he does it next, I'd ask why he wants to get into a fight over something so insignificant. Ask if it really worth arguing about. Then I'd explain how his constant nitpicking is wearing you out, and if there's something he's just not talking to you about, then it needs to be addressed.
I hope everything works out for you!
2007-12-30 09:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Create yourself another account and "Troll" on Y/A the rest of the evening..Make up stuff just so you can laugh at the ridiculous answer, anything to keep yourself in a good mood so there won't be no fighting in your house. Or maybe you could go shopping or watch a movie--or even offer to watch a movie with your husband?
2016-03-16 21:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he leaves in anger or to "cool down", then it's an excuse to get out, to see another woman. If he does it and stays, then he's not happy, he could be feeling guilty, but something is obviously wrong. Is his physical health ok, how about work and stress? I would say try to talk with him, although that's the first thing anyone would do. Just pay closer attention to his habbits, any changes, snoop alittle if you have too.
2007-12-30 09:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by ferochira 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are several possibilities:
1. He wants your attention
2. His needs are not being met and he himself is confused as to what they are or has trouble communicating this to you.
3. He is finding ways to justify his discontent in this relationship
4. He is finding ways to justify an affair or a possible one.
Some more. Perhaps many more reasons, but these are the basic ones I can think of.
2007-12-30 09:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He may be setting you up. When there is no reason to argue but he's not happy he'll try to blame it on you , somehow. Picking a fight works good and he feels like he has a reason to shop elsewhere. Been there, done that. Open your eyes now.
2007-12-30 09:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He is bored or irritated and you are the only one to play with. He wants to talk - so try to figure some fun ways to interact with him. Next time he wants to fight - see if he would rather have a shoulder rub instead, or make out or go pick up a movie to watch. If you make it easier for him to play nice than to play mean, he should start playing nice.
Next time he starts to pick a fight - ask him what he wants for dinner or something else instead of joining the fray.
2007-12-30 09:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because he's a butthole. many men are. my husband loves to argue and fight about the stupidest stuff and i think it's because he likes feeling in control. or maybe he wants out and it's his way of jusifying his desires to leave. i've done that in other relationships before.
2007-12-30 09:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe he has an anger problem. Maybe he thinks fighting with you is worth the making up part. He has a problem of some sort and you should ask him if he is trying to hurt your feelings or what?
2007-12-30 09:46:27 · answer #9 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because he is in bad moods .. and angry inside which makes him a grouch .. and he just does it because he can.
Surprise him. Just don't argue period. Take an exit when he starts in on you.
2007-12-30 09:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋