Marriage & Divorce - 30 December 2007

we would go to hotels and have sex. it lasted 3years. The affair ended 9 years ago. When the affair ended, he still occassionally calls me once in awhile to see how I'm doing....when he calls I'm nice to him, keeping it casual...just wondering why ans what makes him want to call

2007-12-30 06:35:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Our son (11 months) just had a triple organ transplant in November and he is a lot of work to take care of. He gets medicine every couple of hours so we are up all night. He also has a feeding tube and an ostomy which require a lot of care. He goes to the hospital three times a week between speech therapy and checkups with the transplant team. Long story short, we are exhausted. Now he wants to move his stepdad in from Nebraska (we are in DC) b/c he lost his job and does not want to take one out there. He wants to keep a job w/the same company because he "likes to travel". I told him no way he just needs to find a job where he is, but my husband told him he can stay with us FOR A FEW MONTHS while he saves money for an apartment out here. Am I nuts or should he tell him to find another way?
Oh yeah, I forgot to mention that our son is immunosuppressed and can get very sick if he's exposed to something he's not used to (i.e. an asshole from Nebraska).

2007-12-30 06:28:12 · 11 answers · asked by ashley b 2

i was wondering if anyone had hints on how to look after their devastated mum who has been betrayed after 38 years of marriage, i caught him round there xmas eve, and he is being horrid to my mother, even though still living with her!!, and has told me he isn't bothered about me only the other woman!!

2007-12-30 06:09:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-30 05:28:51 · 46 answers · asked by jenny cooper 2

My friend wants to leave her husband due to catching him committing adultery in her own house. She doesn't want anything from him except a divorce which he claims he won't grant her. She is very worried about costly legal fees, and I am trying to help her find a sound resolution.

When I filed my own uncontested divorce, I did it myself, the only fees I had to pay where the filing fees, and there were no lawyers involved because both parties agreed on the divorce.

Is there anything she can do to make her divorce inexpensive and quick on her part? This is taking place in Illinois. ( I know some states have different laws)

2007-12-30 05:18:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

she wont answer the phone should i leave a message or wait tell she answers the phone. read my last question to see whats up with me calling her ok. thanks

2007-12-30 05:13:46 · 9 answers · asked by daisy 4

my husband and i have been married for 2 1/2 years we have just recently gotten back together after being seperated for 8 months the reason we seperated is my step daughters mother i felt like he always put her before me becacuse he didnt want to fight with her and have her take his privelages with his daughter away. this woman hates me and would do and say anything to ruin our marriage she even said about a year ago that he was cheating on me with her (he denies it) thats been almost a year ago he seems to have chaned hes putting me first in his life and seems to be doing everything he can to work on our marriage i love him and want our marriage to work i also have a hard time with my step daughter who is only 3 i know she is only an innocent child but being around her only reminds me of what her mother did and all he hard hard times i have had becacuse of her mother. how do i deal with this

2007-12-30 05:02:17 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

MY wife has stopped loving me!!

2007-12-30 04:59:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need lots of opinions! When people ask “how long have you been married”, what should we say? Here is our history:

Dated: for 2 years before marriage
Married: 10/98-9/01
Separated 9/01-08/03. Divorced officially 08/03.
Dating again a year after official divorce.
Moved back in together: 12/05
Remarried: 01/01/07

Husband says we that our anniversary on 01/01/08 should be our 1 year anniversary. It just doesn’t feel right! I tried it out and when I told some people that we have been married for one year, it felt so wrong! Feels like we have been married for at least 5 years! What would you say our “years of marriage” should be? How would you answer the question “how long have you been married?”

P.S. Life is wonderful with hubby this time around, now that we are older! It is for life this time! ;)

2007-12-30 04:42:37 · 11 answers · asked by cammie 4

My husband and I have our problems, like any other couple. But lately we have been arguing all the time! I am getting tired of it and it is effecting how I feel about my husband. I honestly am starting to dream about leaving him. Anything will turn into an argument with us.

I will admit that part of the problem is I resent my husband for alot of things, he has made alot of mistakes and he has hurt me alot. Any advice how to get past all of this? We cannot afford counceling (Medicaid got denied, which was our argument for today, since I am having ababy in 6 weeks and we have no insurance)

2007-12-30 04:32:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I been married for 7 years and we have 2 kids, my son is 6 and my daughter is 4.

About 2 years ago the sex stopped, she sleeps in my sons room and I sleep alone, the last time I had sex with her was about 2 months ago....before we had kids we had sex often but now sex life is dead with her, I try to get her in the mood but she is a dead fish. I tell her that I need for her to start acting like a wife and not just a roomate but she just thinks I'm kidding. I can't go on anymore... we had sex 3 days ago and when I was kissing her there was no sparks at all and it felt weird like if I was kissing my sister... I been going out and hanging out with my brother who is single and going to pubs and clubs and I'm alway meeting beautiful women that are interested in me. The other day I made out with this woman at a club and I felt alive again... I don't feel love for my wife anymore... and I love my kids, but we only live once and I'm still young, I'm only 34, should I find my happiness? ?

2007-12-30 04:31:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-30 04:15:48 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-30 04:13:12 · 33 answers · asked by egwiv2001 1

2007-12-30 04:08:48 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex is getting married but I didn't find out through him I found out through some of his coworkers whom I'm friends with. I still have very strong feelings for him yet his coworkers still tend to bring him up in front of me which I do not like and tell me stuff that I don't want to hear. It breaks my heart to see him getting married because I still like him and i find it really hard to be happy for him because in are relationship he completely disrespected me as a person. I always compare myself to her because she is a flight attendant and I seem to think it would be a relationship where she isn't around half the time and now their getting married? Any advice?

2007-12-30 03:40:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I mean when it happens all the time. Not physical usually, but constant verbal.

2007-12-30 03:19:45 · 25 answers · asked by jdydewing 5

you find some attractive person who is off limits is hitting on you? Both you and that person are off limits and you are mature individuals and unwilling to risk anything. Just for a moment does it feel good that some one beautiful finds you interesting / attractive / wants to know you better? i experienced this and found myself smiling for 2 days. :) Though am not acting on it.

2007-12-30 03:14:15 · 10 answers · asked by reflection 2

2007-12-30 02:51:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex wife cheated on me and I divorced her. I met someone else and am engaged. When the ex found out, she started calling me and cries and wants to know everything about my life. She told me that I never tell her anything and that's why she has to ask. We have kids together and she questions the kids about what I do and about my finacee. How do I make this stop once and for all??? She refuses to listen and won't leave it alone.

2007-12-30 02:45:11 · 32 answers · asked by Viking 1

for a second name?.
What would you do?

2007-12-30 02:40:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

my moms best friend just recently had twins and she spends ALL her time around her best friend and her 3 kids. one of them is 4 years old and she talks about how she absolutley cant stand her, but she stays there anyways. my mom is never around me and when she is all she talks about is he rbest friends problems and her husband who is outcheating and never there for the kids and stuff. my mom even spent christmas, thanksgiving, and soon new years eve with her best friend!! then when shes home she talks about how her best friend is a ***** and stuff like that. since her best friends husband is out cheating thats her issue for marring him and having kids w/ him b/c he was cheating before they were married and had kids!! My mom had to raise me single he rwhole life and her friend has no reason why she cant. When will my mom be MY mom again and stop being THEIR 2nd mom whose uneeded!?!?!?!?!!

2007-12-30 02:38:18 · 19 answers · asked by happy camper♥ 2

I want to move back to florida were my family resides and to get away from my soon to be ex husband ,he is verbal abusive and controlling i am sure he will not let me take our daughter at the same time i am not going to stay here for another 12 years while he watches her grow ,i did tell him he can have her in the summers and holidays i am not trying to take her awayfrom him just want a better life, and i feel me being away from him will make me be more sain for my child i am very stressed he will be my black shadow ..Has anyone been thru this and what was the out come

2007-12-30 02:07:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel sorry for the lady she knows nothing about this man. first off he was a hitter to all his ex's and he pulled out my hair and i had to wear wigs for 6 months. he is a alcoholic abuser. now my question is this lady knows nothing about him at all. the only way i know her number is because he called me once from the cell phone he gave to her to use. he don't even like her twins. and he owes like 45,000 to me and his ex wife. is it fair to know and not tell when her life could be in danger? even if she don't believe at least she has the option to deside for what she wants? his first wife no one ever seen only heard about. i am friends with wife number 2.....he beat on her too. my beating was not as bad only the one time hair pulling. but, what if she get killed i think i owe it to tell her and let her deside. is this a good idea or not? and give me some advise on how to do it. i know i have to wait tell he is at work cause i never know if he is setting there. thanks

2007-12-30 02:05:01 · 29 answers · asked by daisy 4

2007-12-30 01:47:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex is all in my head, she is all i can think about. I want her back so badly its becoming too much to bear not knowing if she would have me ever again. But what keeps me going is I believe she still holds a small flame for me, but I can't be sure- she has given me a few signs since we've been apart. I have even talked to her and sent emails saying how I feel- and she has not told me to stop saying those things as I have asked her to do if there is nothing there to grasp.
Guys i am not playing, i am unravelling i love her so very much and I tell her in these mails-
We have been apart for 3 months and during this time there were a few things that happened that caused me to hang on because she had let me hold her and even kiss her passionately once - so i consulted God, he wont answer. What do I do?
For 5 days now, she has flooded my thoughts and its the hardest thing Ive had to endure in my life I believe.
We had over 3 years together, i want her back! Im dying to have her

2007-12-30 01:47:33 · 10 answers · asked by Diadem 4

Me and my bf are not Indians and not living in India, but we want to get married there under the special marriage act. As I understood one of us has to live in India 30 days before we can apply for getting married. Is it possible to hire an agent or lawyer to do the paperwork for us? So that we can just go and get married asap and get the certificate of marriage. What are the possible options to get it done asap but still end up having a legally valid marriage certificate.

2007-12-30 01:46:34 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

and runs off to live in another State, with her "true love" from catholic high school?

2007-12-30 01:39:07 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi...
I got into USA in 2006. I have a green card expaire date Feb 2009 with in that time I have to change my states to permente resident. But my marriage is v abousive in my husbend called copes 4 time during 2007. saying I am creazy in June they put me in mentel hospital with in two days they let me go giving the the report she is normal and in a v abouse marriage. on 12/26/07 he called again copes asking them to take me to mental hospital. and becouse of this very behavier he got his first marriage ended. now he is saying that he dont want to give a divorce and even dont want to give green card I dont know what to do... help me please.

2007-12-30 01:37:46 · 9 answers · asked by joti 1

My hubby had spinal surgery last week. He should have been out of the hospital but there were minor complications and unexpected pain. I have been struggling with how to handle this situation... His mom has taken over. First she's been introducing me as his "girlfriend" to the doctors and physical therapists... So they have been giving her all his post op info. Its as if I am not there and invisible. His brother had to tell one of them to talk to ME at which point MOM huffed off. Then she completely screwed up his contact info, using hers as his address and even went so far as to discuss payments and insurance with them!! Because of her "mistake" I may end up with the entire hospital bill not being covered... now we all know in order to leave the hospital you have to show some independence, even just getting up alone... well... I walked in yesterday and she was FEEDING him... like a baby!!! She left me alone with him for a little while and he was a totally different...

2007-12-30 01:34:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am in a very bad marriage so bad that i am thinking of getting a divorce, he is a pig, and he treats me badly, lies a lot, i think he is cheating on me.if i do get divorced i would like to leave the country we are in and go and be with my family abroad , my question is with regards to the kids (2x, 8 and a 2year old)how easily would i be given custody and be allowed to leave the country, what must i prove to the courts that will give me custody.
thanks

2007-12-30 01:30:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous