i was wondering if anyone had hints on how to look after their devastated mum who has been betrayed after 38 years of marriage, i caught him round there xmas eve, and he is being horrid to my mother, even though still living with her!!, and has told me he isn't bothered about me only the other woman!!
2007-12-30 06:09:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my mum does know about it and she wants him to leave but he won't. thanks so much for all the advice. i am trying to start a family of my own but have found this off putting, i have already called off my wedding because of it, as i don't want his ugly face there. you are allso kind and this is giving me strength xx
2007-12-30 07:41:16 · update #1
My heart breaks for you. I expericed this as well. Just be a rock for your mom. It will take alot of time but she will get through this. I'm so sorry.
2007-12-30 06:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by momontheedge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does Your Mum know? If she doesn't know yet, perhaps you should tell her "anonymously" (like a note through the mail, or have a friend of yours Call Her ) Then, just Be There for your Mum when she needs you. That is really all you Can do. She has to work through her own heartache, and pain, However having you by her side will Mean All the difference in the World. Good Luck !!!
2007-12-30 06:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
purely on account which you're 66 years old does that propose you haven't any longer from now on like to offer???? There are people who're raised via their grandparents, and raised all right i could upload. This lady could produce different family status via to help her in this. I doubt this new child should not be properly cared for or enjoyed. And in actuality nevertheless, we ought to ALL die at any 2d, so as that isn't even an clever argument. we've as we talk and different than that no longer something ELSE is promised to us. And a 60 twelve months old isn't much less deserving of motherhood than a 30 twelve months old and a 40 twelve months old is not any much less deserving than a 20 twelve months old. To me this could properly be a merciless and ignorant element to make. we are all people and could take care of one yet another as such. rather frankly i could be extra disgusted if this lady have been a 24-twelve months old crack addict.
2016-11-26 21:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by rieck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad sound like mine was years ago,,,,,My mom put up with his cheating for 30 years before they divorced,,,Your dad is going through a mid life crisis and life will soon crash for him!!! He is a rude SOB for saying that to you,,,Children at all ages are devastated by the end of their parents marriage,,hang in there and help your mom all you can at this time, also I'm pretty sure this isn't the first time dad has cheated on mom!!! Whats the chances of getting caught the first time??? Maybe your mom has known all along that shes married to a snake,,,
2007-12-30 06:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by MissMonk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible! I'm very sorry your parents are splitting up and I'm sorry for your pain as well. The best that you can do is try to stay out of it and be supportive to your mother---it sounds like she is really going to need you. Your father seems too wrapped up in the affair he is having and too self centered to worry about you, and I sincerely hope that changes. Try talking to him, but if that doesn't cause anything but arguments you may have to back away from him and let him come around on his own.
2007-12-30 06:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for the pain your dad is causing. Time will heal your mother's wounds, and the best thing you can do is just be there for her, and don't let her get too depressed and lonely. Make sure she gets out of the house and socializes, because the only thing more healing for a breakup than time is good girlfriends, no matter what your age.
2007-12-30 06:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called it's not your business, and your dad is old enough to make his MISTAKES.
You can be uspet all you want, but when the bell tolls, be there for your mom.
I had a FIL who did that, or so I felt becuase I caught him with many women out in town, I told my THEN husband about it, and he said his mom already "knew" and she just ignored it.
That to me was sad, but that's how they dealt with things in THEIR marriage.
Maybe they are dealing with stuff in the same way, it's not right, but it's up to them, it's their marriage..NOT YOURS!!
2007-12-30 06:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by THEMrsMinLa&Momof2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this man is going to midlife crisis, I know this is not going to be without consequenses but I think you should knock at this woman door and have a talk with her without telling your mum
also talk to her maybe their might be more to the story
Talk to your mum before you talk to the woman without telling her what is going on
Good luck
2007-12-30 06:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry about your pain... what a selfish sonofab*tch
what goes around comes around, this might not be much consolation right now but in the end he'll get his... in the meantime, take care of your mom, be strong and supportive for her, time will heal all.
2007-12-30 06:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your mother, and ask her what she wants to do. She probably wants to leave him, but doesn't really know how to go about it. Take her to a lawyer for a cosultation.
2007-12-30 06:14:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋