I need lots of opinions! When people ask “how long have you been married”, what should we say? Here is our history:
Dated: for 2 years before marriage
Married: 10/98-9/01
Separated 9/01-08/03. Divorced officially 08/03.
Dating again a year after official divorce.
Moved back in together: 12/05
Remarried: 01/01/07
Husband says we that our anniversary on 01/01/08 should be our 1 year anniversary. It just doesn’t feel right! I tried it out and when I told some people that we have been married for one year, it felt so wrong! Feels like we have been married for at least 5 years! What would you say our “years of marriage” should be? How would you answer the question “how long have you been married?”
P.S. Life is wonderful with hubby this time around, now that we are older! It is for life this time! ;)
2007-12-30 04:42:37 · 11 answers · asked by cammie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As my husband tells people, when they ask how long we dated before we married, "Five out of six years". You could say, "We've been married six out of nine years!"
2007-12-30 04:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see
In my experience I am in a relationship now that started 4 and a half years ago (june 03) we split once for 4 months and again for 3 months. Got back together the last time and moved in together.
We don't say that we have only been together the 2.5 years we have been living together we have been together 4.5 years cause even when we were apart our hearts were still with each other just circumstances caused us to be apart and grow as people.
Its great to celebrate your first year of remarriage that is wonderful. but in the end you have been married longer and that is how I would say it.
Follow your heart what is it telling you.
If it is a matter of your anniversary date that is bothering you I would stay with the new years date its special its where your bond was sealed for life.
Congratulations on finding happiness don't let something so menial stress you out let your hubby no how you feel about it and never second guess what your heart is telling you.
2007-12-30 12:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by jennbabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say we've been re-married 1 year. If the person that's asking is someone you care to share that much of your personal life with I would say the above suggestion.
To other people I would say however many years you were together and married. As far as how long have you been together go with however long you have actually been a couple. I wouldn't go with something that doesn't feel right.
2007-12-30 13:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by so called goody goody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just add them together 5 years you earned the right to say that and i think its great you got remarried . you have been married for 5 years tell em. unless you want to spark a long conversation about your personal life
2007-12-30 12:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by david g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married for 1 year,
but you can tell people that you have been together for what ever year you have
Good luck & Congrats
2007-12-30 13:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My New Year's Resolution is: never go back to an ex.
Just like Kim and Eminem, this won't last, so it won't matter what you tell people. Tell them you've been married a year. Make your husband happy. People never change.
2007-12-30 12:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sassie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well i would say "well this time i have been married for ------- long and the last time i was married for ----- long." or simply ask which time are they asking about.
2007-12-30 12:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by ~SweeT~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Add up all the years you've been married and use that as your answer.
2007-12-30 12:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to just say "we've been together since 1996..." which is true... if they press the issue, Then you can go intio detail
2007-12-30 12:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
married for one....in hell for 12
2007-12-30 12:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Leannamick 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋