My ex is getting married but I didn't find out through him I found out through some of his coworkers whom I'm friends with. I still have very strong feelings for him yet his coworkers still tend to bring him up in front of me which I do not like and tell me stuff that I don't want to hear. It breaks my heart to see him getting married because I still like him and i find it really hard to be happy for him because in are relationship he completely disrespected me as a person. I always compare myself to her because she is a flight attendant and I seem to think it would be a relationship where she isn't around half the time and now their getting married? Any advice?
2007-12-30 03:40:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Shannon, it's hard but it's time to get over him. When your friends start talking about him, just say "I would rather not talk about him right now", and go about your work as usual. After a while they will get the message.
Good luck dear and move on. It's for the best.
faith
2007-12-30 03:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 05:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by Narcisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has moved on, and you must also. There were reasons the relationship didn't work and you are forgetting about those and probably romanticizing him since he seems to be happy. When co-workers mention him, before they get started, just interrupt and say "I really have no interest in hearing about him.". If they continue, repeat the same thing, then walk away. It won't take long before they understand you mean it. Get out with friends and stay busy until you meet a new guy. Good luck.
2007-12-30 03:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I found out in a 24 hour period that BOTH of my ex's that I had significant relationships were getting married or remarried. (one was my ex-fiance and one my ex-husband). I actually was more upset about my ex-fiance getting married though...weird huh?
Really there isn't anything you can do about it except let time take care of the pain. You could tell his coworkers to stop mentioning him to you since he is in your past and it isn't your business. They would likely respect that and stop.
Just try not to dwell on it and find lots of things to do to keep your mind busy and off him. When you do find your mind wandering to him remember the disrespectful things he did instead of the good things.
Thats about all I can tell you. I wouldn't say I've completely forgotten about the fact that my ex is married but I definitely don't think about it as often anymore.
Good luck!
2007-12-30 03:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by jenny s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only advice for you is that you need to start considering yourself. I will point you to my profile and a question I asked some weeks ago ("Why can't I break it off with him" or something like that was my question), read the answer Chris C gave me--I think it is very applicable to your situation and it was full of wisdom.
He has moved on with your life and is not considering you. It is time to face that fact and stop beating yourself up about your past relationship. Look to the future.
2007-12-30 04:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends maybe trying to make you see that he has truly moved on. They want to see you do the same. You say he disrespected you? Honey, you deserve better. Put a smile on your face and when others bring him up, tell them that is nice. They will see that it doesn't get the reaction they are looking for and the conversation will move to something else.
Have a great New Year and there will be a new MAN.
2007-12-30 03:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by britbrat76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. He is not a part of your life any more, so remove yourself from his life. If possible try not conversations with his coworkers and friends, you really need to separate yourself from him and stop living in a place of heart break with this guy.
Find yourself, find new things that have nothing to do with him. Take up a new hobby or class, just put yourself in different and new circles so that you are focusing on you.
Good luck
2007-12-30 03:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it he won't be happy for long. He is back in the marriage nightmare!!! Marriage even destroys soul mates. It destroyed your loving relationship didn't it?!?! Take an honest look at all married couples are any of them still truly in love?!?!? If you are ever lucky enough to fall in love again don't destroy it by getting married.
2007-12-30 04:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure.. Let it go.. I realize it's hard..but he wants her, and not you.. Nothing personal.. Don't compare.. that will eat you up every time. Start doing things for yourself.. dating, taking classes, find out what makes you tick and you'll be comfortable with yourself and not focused on the ex etc.. You'll probably always have feelings.but they will dwindle with time. .Good luck.
2007-12-30 03:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a way to move on with your life. I know it's hard, and I know you are wondering why it's her instead of you, but all you're going to do with that brand of thinking is hurt yourself more. Enjoy your friends, your life...you too will meet your special someone one day!
2007-12-30 03:45:44 · answer #10 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋