Marriage & Divorce - 26 December 2007

i've been married for 4 yrs now wife has son 12 from previous marrage and is a stay at home mom.i work 5 sometimes 6 days a week. i pay all the bills & is the only income source so she doent have to worry about it. when i come home i have to cook about 98 % of the meals plus uasually clean up afterwards as well then i get to relax for maybe 2 to 3 hrs till its bed time, which i go to bed alone as she stays up till whenever and sleeps in till whenever.some nites shes just goes out, & comes home after i've gone to bed so i really dont know when she gets home. she gets $300 child saport from ex & i was giving her $400 more till lately for spending money & that wasnt enough.i opened a new checking account for the bills after i couldnt control the spending w/out her on account & left old account for her. ofcourse since then our sex life has been non- exsistant & she calls the shots on when that will be. so what should a husbands & wifes responabiltys be when she is a stay at home mom??

2007-12-26 12:35:24 · 17 answers · asked by wayne 1

my fiance has a bit of temper, and what i dont understand is why he plays video games that make him yell screem cuss, and through stuff. why? guys why does he do this??? its to the point the dog wont come in when he plays and the nieghbor thinks we are fighting! is there anything i can do?

2007-12-26 12:32:20 · 10 answers · asked by Mrs T. 2009 4

My 17 year old son is very secretive and evasive and defiant. He seems to want no accountability for his actions. Several times in the past we've had to "save him" from situations he's created himself. My husband is very strict and insists on asking probing questions - which means he usually ends up finding my son in some deceit, which infuriates my son (and my husband). Right now my son is very defiant. I know that over the next couple of days this could come to blows between them. My husband is ready to throw him out if he doesn't back down, and my son is so defiant and headstrong that he won't back down. As a mother in the middle what can I do. I should support my husband (my husband never feels I support him enough though I am not a pushover mother) but I'm afraid to let my son do what he wants while he has so much rage (I don't want to enable him but I'm afraid for him). Any advice please?

2007-12-26 12:30:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-12-26 12:28:30 · 6 answers · asked by Shooter McGavin 1

2007-12-26 12:14:01 · 11 answers · asked by rr.milf 1

ok here is my problem...
I have known this guy for bout 4 years.. we started dating and one thing led to another and if fizzled out, at the time i know he was married and his wife was living with him but they were "sepearated"
now 3 years gone by and out of the blue he emailed me... we have started seing each other again and he now lives alone in his house and his "wife" lives in londin with his 2 kids. he is down there all week visiting them and comes up on a weekend to work and see me .... now i dont hear from him when he is in london only ona weekend... he never answers questions wen i ask about pur "relationship! and to top it off last sunday morning i caught him puttin comdoms in his pocket to go to work with..

ne ideas bout what i should do ??? the thing is im falling in love with him and he knows it and does nothing more than encourage me to do so ....

2007-12-26 12:06:27 · 14 answers · asked by Erica M 1

IS IT RIGHT FOR MILITARY MEN TO CHEAT ON THEIR WIVES BECAUSE THEY ARE "LONELY" AND IN A DIFFERENT CITY/COUNTRY ? "THE WIFE WOULD NEVER KNOW"... AND IF THE MILITARY WIFE IS IN A HOMETOWN, IS IT OK FOR HER TO USE LOCAL MEN TO SATISFY HER NEEDS WHILE SOLDIER IS OFF PLAYING / FIGHTING / TRAINING AT THE BASE ?

2007-12-26 12:03:30 · 24 answers · asked by Jyssi Leeann 2

Or is it an exercise in futility?

2007-12-26 12:02:16 · 12 answers · asked by trillian 5

please help

2007-12-26 11:49:21 · 16 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4

we are getting a divorce and my husband has a good job but doesn't pay child support for his two girl. he just refuse to paid on his own.. do you think the court will make him pay because he children lived with me . we have been separated for 1 years and half.

2007-12-26 11:48:28 · 10 answers · asked by babymadison61904 1

this girl has a very low self esteem.her b.f is only 25.does she really looked old ? does she has the right 2 feel embarassed to be with a younger b.f?

http://s253.photobucket.com/albums/hh62/inyakibabe/?action=view¤t=IMG_0005.jpg

2007-12-26 11:47:40 · 25 answers · asked by Lhizz 1

can anyone help. We love each other and I just need opinions on this subject. At 41 can I still get pregnaunt?

2007-12-26 11:44:27 · 38 answers · asked by j 1

2007-12-26 11:44:18 · 13 answers · asked by cindycandy 1

What will happen if a person doesn't disclose accurate info in the disclosure docs? After I disclosed my info to my ex on 10/11/07, it took him until 11/26/07 to finally provide me with his info, however, he is withholding info bcuz the check stubs he submitted, which were dated for pay periods of 10/12 & 10/26 was for Job “A”, but I just found out that approx. 1 week b4 he served me his disclosure, he started working @ Job “B”, but he didn’t include any info pertaining 2 that on the worksheet. So either he has 2 jobs & is trying to withhold info on the 2nd, or he quit Job “A” & started Job “B” but did not disclose it bcuz he gets more $$.

My question is, can't he get in trouble for witholding this info? Bcuz, he's purposely lying or disclosing false/incomplete info. I didn’t ask for alimony. All I want him to do is pay 1/2 on debt acquired from the time we married to the time we physically separated, which was 75% his debt anyway & he doesn’t want to pay anything.

2007-12-26 11:43:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

A rebellious question; I agree. I live in Tamilnadu, India, that was once upon a time a great country with enviable culture and civilization. The related incident had happened on this Christmas Day. After the festival lunch, the husband had left over so many items in the plates. In the past the wife refused to eat it and the husband was passive about it. But this time the In-laws present there felt offended when the wife refused to eat leftovers and the husband too joined in the fray. They said that it is in the Indian tradition for a wife to eat such things and faulted her for it. But firmly she stood her ground in spite of the unpleasantness it created. While I complement her for her being firm against provocation I am eager to know your views about this obsolete and vomit-inducing practice. Why not the husbands practice eating the garbage item before insisting on wife to do the same and faithfully stand by Indian tradition? Snake Charmers’ land? I say ‘Yes’. You fume? Yes, you should!

2007-12-26 11:39:45 · 19 answers · asked by Nimit 2

he's been gone for over a year, can I file for abandonment? what's the process, how long does it take?

I don't want any of his crap and he certainly isn't going to get anything from me, but knowing how it takes him forever to get simple things done, a legal battle would just take forever and mucho $$$ and I just want this done YESTERDAY.

p.s. the marriage was never consummated either, I'm working on the annullment too.

2007-12-26 11:32:57 · 4 answers · asked by ? 3

what happened? what did you two say? how long have you been together?

2007-12-26 11:32:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a crush on my husbands best friend. I have had it for about 5 years. I say it's a crush because it comes and goes. How do i keep it from developing into more if he is always around? I try to not hang with him and my husband and i make excuses not to but my husband always wants me to tag along. Lately i've been thinking about my crush constantly and im afraid that im starting to like him. What do i do?

2007-12-26 11:25:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

WELL I BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND. I STARTED DATING SOMEBODY ELSE I GOT PREGNANT BY HIM AND NOW IM BACK WITH MY EX BUT HE THINKS THAT THE BABY I HAD IS HIS. NOW THE REAL DAD OF MY BABY KNOWS ITS HIS AND HE IS HARRASING ME AND PRESSURING ME TO LET HIM SEE THE BABY BUT THE BABY DOESNT HAVE HIS NAME LEGALLY THE BABY IS UNDER MY HUSBANDS LAST NAME AND MINE. CAN HE DO SOMETHING TO ME. OR FORCE ME TO DO ANYTHING. CAN HE DO ANYTHING TO ME LIKE A LAWSUIT OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT. MAYBE TAKE ME TO COURT

2007-12-26 11:22:55 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance and I have been together for 10 yrs and have an almost 2 year old son. We've been fighting a lot lately and have had many ups and downs in our relationship. I'm actually always threatening to leave him and have said some horrible things to him during fights. Even though I know we've been fighting... I was totally caught off guard when he told me last night that he doesn't want to be together anymore. He says it's not healthy for our son to be around the fighting and that he has to leave for his own self-respect.

I have many regrets. Despite the fact that I'm always saying I want to end things I've always been afraid of HIM abandoning me.

Now he says he's willing to continue supporting me for the next 3 yrs while I continue school. And when I ask him what's going on he just says "nothings changing" and to not think so much. He also says he'll hang out with my son and I tomorrow. Do you think there's a chance to make things better? What should I do? I'm distraught.

2007-12-26 11:22:13 · 13 answers · asked by Haulie 2

what is her name

2007-12-26 11:16:25 · 8 answers · asked by toya 1

Im 25 years old (male) and engaged to my fianceee who iv been with for around two years but as we get closer to the big day theres something thats really bothering me
Baisically between the ages of 14-17 when i was at boarding school i fooled around (for want of a better word) with one of the guys i shared a room with. Since then nothing like this has ever happened but iv never told anybody about this and so much of me wants to get it off my shoulders and tell her to start married life honestly and everything but on the other hand so much of me dosent want to say any anything for fear of what her reaction might be. Do you think that i should say anything or is it something we could go for the rest of our lives without her ever needing to know?
Thanks in advance

2007-12-26 11:05:49 · 29 answers · asked by unileedslad 1

I love to and almost always walk around my house nude but I am 19 and have my own apartment I have no room mates BUT my kitchen window doesnt have any blinds should I stop walking arund nude

2007-12-26 11:02:19 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hadnt contacted an ex friend for months and then sent him a Merry Xmas text even though my buddy said 'don't'

I got nothing back

It's not like I have been bothering him i hadnt text'd him for a very long time but I got a woosh of Xmas spirit and text him anyway

Feel like a fool I realize this is not that serious (ie one text after a month or two) but when I received nothing back I just sit here and wonder what a fool he thinks I am.

I am fixated on it

He was a friend I met several months ago I fell for him and we parted company because he didnt feel the same. I am a little obsessed with him. I am in counseling but even my therapist is getting a bit bored and exasperated with it!!! LOL

I am have written 'LOL' but i dont really feel like lol-ing.

2007-12-26 10:54:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

there is someone that is bold around women he is stongly attracted to, he definitely doesn't hide his feelings. however, with me it's the exact opposite. he's been giving me hints with the help of his friend actually for two years. doesn't have the courage to come to me and be straightforward. ok, there are some obstacles as to why he may be shy and of course he is not married but i can't go into it now. so my question is, is he not that into me, obviously? i mean, i'm a woman and if i'm in love and fear i might lose someone, i do everything not to. does that make sense. thanx for replies.

2007-12-26 10:54:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Am I at fault. I can't use birth control bc my family has a strong history of heart attack and stroke. I though all married couples used condoms. Why is he angry?

2007-12-26 10:46:24 · 37 answers · asked by lesh 1

what does a brother say to them? I am so frustrated right now!
Any advise is welcome!

2007-12-26 10:43:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

i went to the grocery store 2 weeks ago and bought a christmas tree. the box on the outside said that lights came with it, and they did. here is my dilema iv'e waited over 2 weeks now and the tree wont grow. when i first got it it measured to be 6 ft and i just measured it yesterday on christmas and it was still 6 ft. i dont understand what the problem is. my kids spit at it and i shoot it with a water hose at least once a day, yet still no success. this has caused a big strain on my marraige, my wife doesnt think its very manly that i cant grow a tree and my daughter gets picked on at school because her friends dads tree grows. could it be i have a rudolf type tree. you know the one that is always picked on but in the very end it leads all trees on its way toward tree heaven? advice?


signed, a true person hurt that his christmas tree wont grow

2007-12-26 10:40:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-26 10:38:05 · 13 answers · asked by linus 1

Is NY a 50/50 dispersement of property or if one seeks councile w/out knowledge of forthcomming proceeding screwed?

2007-12-26 10:34:19 · 3 answers · asked by RICHARD C 1