I am a 41 year old woman my boyfriend is 19 we are talking about getting married and having a baby?

Question

can anyone help. We love each other and I just need opinions on this subject. At 41 can I still get pregnaunt?

I spelled pregnant wrong and I realize it, but it was too late to go back.....

Answer 1

You are sick. Hopefully you can't get pregnant. Find a MAN closer to your age.

Answer 2

Hmmm...

I would be the last person in the world to try to stand in the way of true love but you two really need to sit down and talk about many things. The age difference is only an issue if it is issue to the two of you. I can see the attraction that both of you have for each other. You have a "young stud" that is making you feel 27 again. You feel lucky that someone like him finds you so attractive and that is wonderful. He on the other hand probably has probably had little to no experiene with woman and you are like a dream come true to him. At that age it is very easy for a young man to become infatuated with an older woman; especially if the girls his own age are not making him happy.. We have all had those fantasies. And if you are very pretty he thinks he has hit the jackpot. Remember we men usually mature much slower than woman so he still is probably only thinking with one part of his anatomy.

Now having said that let me say this: Do not let anyone change how you feel about each other. If you love each other go for it! Just when you sit down to think about this please be realistic! Your age difference is not a problem right now but if you want to get married then you need to think long term. You should think 10 to 20 years ahead. How will you both feel when you are 60 and he is just 38. You will be retiring and he will still be an middle aged "and very sexually active" man! Are you going to be up for satisfying his needs and how are you going to feel about him looking elsewhere for intimacy! I am not trying to scare you. I just want you to be honest with yourselves!

Now to answer your question ... Yes you can still get pregnant! And while most woman have babies at younger ages the average female body is perfectly capable of having children well into your fifties. Of course this depends on the individual woman and if you are serious about having a child the first thing you should do is see your doctor. Then go from there...

GOOD LUCK TO YOU! I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR YOU TWO!

Answer 3

To all those heaping abuse on this woman: Maturity isn't necessarily dependent on age. I was ridiculously precocious at his age, but not ready to deal with a child in my life, let alone another adult. Your boyfriend may be.

I hope -- for both your sakes -- that he's mature enough to handle helping to tend to a child's physical, emotional, and developmental needs, household finances, housekeeping, etc. You don't want to be the one doing all the work, and you'll need more than support he may not want to give you. You'll need a partner who will share the burden. I say this having grown up in a single-parent household...I've seen firsthand the damage a father who abandons his responsibilities out of immaturity can do to everyone involved. Again, this has nothing to do with age: my dad was nearly 40 when I was born.

The bigger question here is the age and health of your relationship. If you two have managed to hold things together for a few years, and you know that he makes you happy and would make an excellent father (Is he attentive to your needs? Does he want this as much as you do? Do you know each other well? Is he capable of helping to support a child?) then by all means go for it. If not...perhaps you both need some time.

Regarding pregnancy at 41? It is possible, but may be dangerous for your health and your child's. Ask a doctor about this -- he or she may be able to suggest some alternatives if you haven't already hit menopause. Hope this helps.

Good luck to you both.

Answer 4

It is a little disturbing you have so much in common with a 19 year old. Ask your self is he really ready to be a father, If this were your child would you be OK with this? This just does not sound right as a mother of a 19 yr old. Ive been there I was that teenager and now I resent him for not letting me live my life. Having a baby at anytime in your teen years alters your life, He knew better I didn't. I would hold off on the baby, I was young I did same thing. Don't do it.

Answer 5

It doesnt matter how old you are if you are in love you are in love. You do need to sit and think about him though 19 is young to have a baby is he ready for father-hood are you ready for mother-hood. Try taking time away from each other like a week no talking to writting email no communication so he can get out and experience a week of not being with you after that week if you guys still want each other be together. but realize he is still a teenager. Do you really want to be with him or do you just really want a baby? and yes you can still get pregnant as long as you havent hit menopause

Answer 6

You might be able to, but think about it carefully before you do. A 19 year old is still growing up, changing a lot all the time, and isn't in the same stage of life that you are.
If this doesn't last, and honestly it probably won't unless he is exceptional, you will have a baby to raise alone. Wait two more years and then decide.

Answer 7

You should be able to get pregnant as long as you haven't gone through menopause. You need to go to a Dr first, and be monitored closely. Genetic Abnormalities and prenancy with multiples are MUCH more common with each year past 35 for a woman.

19 is VERY young. Be cautious, as he is REALLY too young to know what he wants. You could easily wind up being a single mom-- Is that what you want to risk at 41??

What do your families think?? Are they supportive?

Answer 8

What on earth does a 41 yrold want with a 19 yr old? Yes you can get pregnant unless a medical condition exists. Think about this when the kid graduates high school, youll almost be ready to retire. All kidding aside, if you two are truly happy then who are we to stop you? Good luck

Answer 9

Well you set yourself up for a bashing with this one. I am 9 years older than my gf, but we WERE BOTH KIDS at the same time. I was just an older kid. You were old enough to drink before he was born! What will you have in common? You will be retiring when hes just getting into middle-age (if it worked out). Yeah you can get pregnant my grandma had her last child at 43, but you will probably be raising it on your own. Do you really want to do that?
I'd also like to add theres only 20 years difference between my daughter and I...hmm?

Answer 10

dear lady he is not suitable for you at all also pregnaunt in that age so harm for the coming baby you can ask doctor to tell you the other main thing if you marry this small guy after 15 years you would be able to have six due to changes that happened in your hormons that made sex so harmful for you but he would be in that timeabout 34 yearsold need sex so much you will refuse due the pain of it so thir will be many broblemsbetween you and sure he will know many girls upon you neglect this idea completly search for one old than you search for kindness search upon your soul even in sex he will be satisfied with you case

Answer 11

yes, you can get pregnant but there are many risks - serious birth defects, a harder pregnancy, etc.
you need to discuss this with your doctor.

also, since there is a fairly substantial age gap between you & your boyfriend, it would be wise to see a couples therapist before making any permanent commitment. make darn sure you're right for each other and share the same long term life goals before going down that road.