Am I at fault. I can't use birth control bc my family has a strong history of heart attack and stroke. I though all married couples used condoms. Why is he angry?
2007-12-26 10:46:24 · 37 answers · asked by lesh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
neither one of us is ready for kids. I am 20 he is 21 and we are both in college. We can't afford kids.
2007-12-26 10:58:44 · update #1
Try an IUD. No chemicals.
2007-12-26 10:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by Shades of Grey♥ 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ah well hun, it seems you are in a rock and a hard place. I am 29 and at some point most married couples will use condoms, for whatever reason, but not all. You obviously cant use BC, and he hates condoms, so consult your Doctor and see abut going in to look at other forms. Not all come in a pill, however none are fully effective from stopping pregnancy. Good luck and I hope you can both find a solution
2007-12-26 11:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As others have said, hormonal birth control is not your only option. Talk to your doctor about a diaphragm or IUD. Neither one will increase your risk of heart attack or stroke. All married couples do not use condoms. There are better methods of birth control for when STD's aren't a concern.
2007-12-26 11:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by Tiss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you check out other forms of birth control? Maybe DepoProvera or something else.
Some men do not like condoms because they greatly reduce sensation. However, he needs to be understanding of your medical concerns and work with you on finding a solution.
Wasn't this ever discussed before you got married? I would have thought this would have been an important topic of dixcussion, - if you both want kids, when you want them, what form of birth control you want to use until you are ready for them... Sounds like a communication breakdown already. If you didn't tell him beforehand, I can understand him being upset, but now he needs to get over it and you both need to find a solution.
2007-12-26 14:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by rlb1961 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In response to your question and the responses TO your question, condoms take away a whole lot of feeling for the man. Try putting a tight glove on your hand and trying to feel something delicate like a rose or something. You can barely feel it. This is why mean do not like condoms. If you can feel the touch, why even try. There is a new product out that a woman can get put in at her Drs' office. When you decide on kids, it can be easily removed. I am not putting all the responsibility on the women, I just wanted you all to know why we hate condoms.
2007-12-26 11:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Bill P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is angry because he got married and thought he was going to be able to have sex with out condoms. u have to let him know that you can not use B.C. if he has a problem with this then ask him if he would like to have children if his answer is no then tell him that u 2 will have to use them if the answer is yes then maybe you should try not using them if you are ready for a kid also, You can ask your doctor if there is any other kind of B.C. that you can use. If you and your husband plan on never having children maybe you should get your tubes tied
good luck I hope things work out for you :)
2007-12-26 10:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends, personally I don't see why he should be angry. I'm not married yet, however If my wife would ever ask me to use a condom during sex, I wouldn't really have a problem. It's better to be safe than sorry. However If you and him feel like the time has come and you both want children, then tell him to take his condom off, and give him the all go sign. FULL BLAST ! I'm sure the two of you will enjoy it !
Good Luck
Jordan
2007-12-26 10:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why hes angry....but unless he wants you to get pregnant I dont know what hes expecting.
Me and my husband use condoms most of the time. But we also sometimes use Vaginal contraceptive foam instead...its non hormonal and the only side effect are some people say it burns a little(i've never had a problem with it)...and it makes it more pleasurable for him... the only bad thing is it take about 15 minutes before its effective and can get a little messy....but you can get it walmart for about 6 dollars
the foam isnt as effective as a condom or the pill....but as long as you use it right you should be fine...and your husband would probably like it better
2007-12-26 10:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Arnold 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably mad because now that you're married, he doesn't see the need for protection.
Try researching some other alternatives and talking to your doctor. There are new IUD's out on the market that contain no hormones or chemicals and are really effective--the newest being Mirena. Also try using over the counter protection like the foam or VCF or Encare--all are used before you have sex and offer some kind of protection from pregnancy since they contain Nonoxyl-9.
2007-12-26 11:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no not all married couples use condoms..
there are many differnt types of birth control on the market besides the pill
communicate with your partner and the two of you should seek the advise of a doctor and choose a method thats comfortable for both of you
there is always the choice of being steralised if neither of you want children
2007-12-26 10:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think people should be wearing condoms after they are married. I have never used a condom with my wife. There are other types of birth conrtrol besides pills and condoms. Talk to your doctor about alternative contraceptives.
2007-12-26 11:05:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋