A rebellious question; I agree. I live in Tamilnadu, India, that was once upon a time a great country with enviable culture and civilization. The related incident had happened on this Christmas Day. After the festival lunch, the husband had left over so many items in the plates. In the past the wife refused to eat it and the husband was passive about it. But this time the In-laws present there felt offended when the wife refused to eat leftovers and the husband too joined in the fray. They said that it is in the Indian tradition for a wife to eat such things and faulted her for it. But firmly she stood her ground in spite of the unpleasantness it created. While I complement her for her being firm against provocation I am eager to know your views about this obsolete and vomit-inducing practice. Why not the husbands practice eating the garbage item before insisting on wife to do the same and faithfully stand by Indian tradition? Snake Charmers’ land? I say ‘Yes’. You fume? Yes, you should!
2007-12-26 11:39:45 · 19 answers · asked by Nimit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I personally feel that to force any one to do any thing without his or her free will is wrong both morally & legally. As far your question regarding Indian traditions followed here in the name of religion & such traditions including the practice of sati i.e. burning the widow with the dead body of her husband are have been held as illegal & punishable offence. The question of making the wife to eat the left over of her husband may be some sort of tradition but forcing her to do so is nothing but criminal intimidation in the name of religion or culture or tradition for which I don't suggest any one should do so. After all the Indian Constitution provides to all its citizen freedom of life, which includes freedom to live decently as one feels like & in doing so if such person is not infringing any law of the land, but in this case this lady being forced to eat her husbands left over forcibly amounts to infringing her free of life & that to by infringing the law of the land, which is criminal intimidation punishable offence under the Indian Penal Code. By refusing to obey her in laws she has done no wrong as she has legal & constitutional right to do so. We must follow our traditions but is such traditions are against the moral & legal provisions of land we should avoid these. Lastly, India is no more a land of only snake charmers, fortunately or unfortunately even educated & learned people also live here.
2007-12-26 15:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I live in America; so, therefore, I do not understand this type of tradition. At the same time, I respect the culture of India, so I don't think there should be any fault placed on the country because to them, maybe America seems strange. However, and most importantly, I do believe most in the rights of women, and all human for that matter. I'm glad that this woman stood up for herself; however, I don't think anybody should look down upon a woman who does choose to eat her husband's left-over's or any other custom/tradition that may come off as ridiculous to other people.
2007-12-26 11:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by ohmygosh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The husband and in-laws seem to have made up their mind to make a guest visit to the jail. Pretty soon the husband will be without a wife and the in-laws will be behind bars. Its one thing if someone follows idiosyncratic traditions but its a totally different ball game if it is forced upon someone unwilling to do it. This is out right cruelty within meaning of S. 13 Hindu Marriage Act and might even qualify as mental harassment u/s 498A IPC which is a non-bailable, cognizable offence.
2007-12-26 16:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard that it is tradition for wives to be treated in this manner by Indians and in some Middle Eastern Muslim countries. The men are served the best food, the children get the second best food and the wives get the left overs. Its all part of tradition, usually occurrs in rural areas (not so much in the cities) and certainly doesnt help in getting women emancipated around the world. The entire planet is ruled by men. That needs to stop NOW.
2016-05-26 11:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by madeleine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such types of so many traditions are exist not only in India but so many other countries which force women to realize that Male is always superior,even from her childhood,mothers behaviour towards her brother give her a message that she is secondary thing in household.
2007-12-26 12:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like humiliation to me rather than a tradition. Sick? I agree.
God created men in his image and look what we've done to ourselves.
What saddens me most is how people are cruel in the name of religion and tradition and culture. An excuse for their unforgivable behaviour? Absolutely! These days, you'd expect people to stand up and question certain things. Well done to the lady you are referring to.
2007-12-28 02:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to shove away such idiotic practices. Tradition with such baggages make them laughing stocks.
Tradition must be above such abominable ideas.
2007-12-26 12:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by Nilutpal Gogoi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is heartening to note that she stood her ground and refused to comply with this outdated tradition.
I would advise her to stay firm, whether she gets support from her husband or not.
2007-12-26 13:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by maulikshah17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if I was still hungry the idea of finishing someone elses dinner just wouldnt be an option, and I dont care who im offending.
2007-12-26 12:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is sick to me, mothers eat the left overs off their kids plate, but to force a wife to eat the leftovers is revolting.
2014-09-06 05:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by See leVel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋