what does a brother say to them? I am so frustrated right now!
Any advise is welcome!
2007-12-26 10:43:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont say anything !
Be there as a brother to listen to them and let them vent.
if they ask for your opinion,just reply and tell them you cant give them the answer they are looking for,but if it were you, you would....(and fill in the rest)
My 2 daughters are actually going through a divorce right now,as well as custody battles,and I listen, and I listen, and i let them k now that my door is open,and that I cant tell them or wont tell them what to do but will give them the "what i would do" side of it
for the most part you just have to be there for a shoulder to lean on, and a brother thats willing to listen,and let them know that your there for them and if you can help your willing to
2007-12-26 11:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by country_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women go to men, particularly men whom we trust with our lives (like our brothers) because we want a male prospective which is THE TRUTH. We also want a good listener, but we tend to go to our girlfriends for this. Don't let their troubles become you, though.
1) Delegate time for each sister.
2) Listen completely.
3) Give advice which is the truth and don't hold back; we want the truthfulness we've grown to rely on from you.
4) Always begin by explaining that the truth is only YOUR truth, based on what we tell you. And, that your truth may make us angry, we may not like it but it is in fact the truth and that what we need is this truth right now to better our choices.
5) They may cry. When women cry, this in a man's mind often = an emergency situation; i.e., an EMERGENCY ROOM. And you'll want to immediately "fix" us. Remember that tears come from women all the time and when this happens, it's only your job to tell us that you understand we're sad and that you love us. Not to necessarily fix the problem.
6) Remember to tell your sisters that they are their own people with their own troubles when this becomes too much for you. Even Fonzie can only be so cool. Let them know you're there for them but you also have your own family with your own set of situations and troubles that go along with it.
I hope this helps.
2007-12-26 18:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to answer when there are so many unknowns....
How long were they each married? How long did they know each other (the couples) before getting married? Why are they getting a divorce? Are there kids? How old are your sisters? Have they been married before?
And that is just some basic questions that should be known before answering. Sorry.
2007-12-26 10:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Betty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question isn't sparkling, yet i'm going to attempt to cover all bases. First: as quickly as she data for divorce, she is loose to work out absolutely everyone she needs and not be accused of adultery. this is, there is not any longer something felony which you're able to do to her till you have info that she develop into seeing this man or woman till now she filed for divorce. 2nd: "is this ideal?" nicely, in case you incredibly recommend is it ethical, or is it "constructive", then i could say No. even though it is actual felony and he or she is loose to do it. 0.33: it is amazingly perplexing to understand if she develop into cheating with this man or woman or if this is why she filed for divorce. that would desire to be real, yet till you have info, forget approximately it. there is not any element eating your self alive over it. remember, she develop into probable unhappy for an prolonged time. human beings do no longer in simple terms awaken sooner or later and want a divorce. It builds via the years. So she could have been cheating, yet she additionally would have in simple terms been unhappy and emotionally indifferent out of your marriage for an prolonged time. She would have in simple terms began searching for companionship as quickly as she would desire to (after submitting) and located somebody.
2016-11-25 02:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by fuents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do for your sisters is be understand and supportive. The best thing to say at times is nothing! I just went threw a divorce and sometimes, I just needed someone to listen!
2007-12-26 10:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, it is really not your concern. Of course, they will let you know, but describing all the issues in detail and hashing it over with all the relatives isn't necessary. Tell them you are very sorry that this happened, give them your love, and tell them that if there is any way you can help to let you know.
2007-12-26 10:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I brother says - "Let me know what I can do."
Then he listens and listens and listens!!!
If they open up to you - they need a good listener and a shoulder to cry on!!
They do NOT need someone telling them everything they did wrong, what they could have done differently, or someone bad mouthing their soon to be ex-husbands!!!
Good luck!!!
2007-12-26 23:10:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them know that you are there for them. Don't do the guy thing where you think that because they told you their problems that they expect you to fix them - they don't (unless that is what they actually said).
2007-12-26 10:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by Shades of Grey♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to give them any advice unless you know what they are going through and since we have no details, how can we help you?
2007-12-26 10:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont say anything, just listen. Let them know that you love them and that you are there for them. They just want someone to vent to.
2007-12-26 10:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋