Marriage & Divorce - 2 November 2007

2007-11-02 04:09:44 · 30 answers · asked by Serengetti 3

2007-11-02 04:07:04 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

something non-religious as well, please

thanks

2007-11-02 04:06:46 · 5 answers · asked by Ember Halo 6

okay, so my husband use to drink a LOT. he would have blackouts and show all the symptoms of an alcoholic (losing time at work, being violent, forgetting everything that happened, etc). So I left and was heartbroken. I love him more than life. When we were seperated he had sex with someone else while he was really drunk, so I filed divorce papers.
Well he hit rock bottom, begged me to come back and has been a good husband to me. Well, last night he got drunk again. And not just drunk, wasted glazed-over eyes puking guts out yelling angry drunk.
This morning he says he doesn't remember anything. He said he's sorry (but more like a coaxed it out of him sorry). But he made the comment that its not the end of the world and that I need to just calm down and we can talk about it tonight.

I love him so much... but I can't do this anymore... :( any advice?

2007-11-02 03:51:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband & i need some help... we aren't communicating well & things are spiralling out of control.

i want to go to a counsellor, but he refuses to go to "a stranger that doesn't care because they'll get paid either way, with money we don't have".... he was forced to do counselling as a kid & apparently didn't get anything out of it. i had counselling in college & got some tremendous help, myself.

so he suggested we talk to his dad. which makes me a bit uncomfy (i'd rather talk to a complete [&neutral] stranger that i don't have to see in any other circumstance, ya know?). I'm sure his dad won't totally take his side or anything like that... he's a cool guy & he likes me a lot. it's just the embarassment issue.... (and it kinda annoys me that he gets mad if i talk to my bff about our problems, but he talks to his dad about them & wants us both to.)

SO, should i suck it up, & grab this opportunity to do *something* that might help? do you think it *would* help??

2007-11-02 03:37:05 · 40 answers · asked by Ember Halo 6

ok, so here's my problem. I am completely mad about this guy. He is a great guy. He put my kids in private school, we have a house together, I make good money, I am beautiful, we have been together for 10 years, and he has not popped the question. We talk about getting married, more often then not, supposedly in 2008, but I am not sure if he is just yanking my chain. He hasn't officially asked me, he just says we will get married in 2008. I don't want to keep waisting my time. Let me know what you think.

2007-11-02 03:31:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just got married 4 weeks ago, and even though I had cold feet before walking down the isle, I must tell you that this is the best feeling in the world! I'm glad to come home to someone who loves me for me, glad to be able to cook for my hubby, and grateful to have someone love me unconditionally and take care of me...

do you believe some people when they say the "newlywed" gushy feeling will go away, and that after the first couple months, it's all downhill?

I know our entire life won't be all 'peaches and cream', but no matter how many times you fight, get on eachother's nerves, and sometimes all around hate eachother's guts, the fact that you are committed and have such a deep bond with someone means more than some hard times (which you know you can get through - why else would you get married!?!)

2007-11-02 03:19:11 · 13 answers · asked by ? 4

I've divorced and started dating again. Of course since I'm divorced and have 2 children, i really don't have a ton of money to spread around. it's pretty scarce like a single mom's cash flow. problem is i meet these single moms or divorced women and it seems they're looking for another dad for their kid or want some guy that has all this money to do stuff to help take care of their kid(s). it seems they're unrealistic in their dating and it's like they're holding out for Mr. wonderful with no baggage and tons of cash when they have their own baggage. what's the most important thing a single mom looks for or even an older woman that's been through a divorce. I think a lot of divorced people think the grass is greener and spend their life looking for something they'll never get and regret getting divorced (it wasn't my choice to get divorced). then these women wonder why they can't find a good man? it boggles my mind sometimes.

2007-11-02 03:01:35 · 15 answers · asked by survivor 1

She is to pay the first $250 per child per calendar year. She won't do this and I don't want the doctors coming after me when it's court ordered she is to do this.

2007-11-02 02:56:39 · 16 answers · asked by deehops 1

I have to kids not his, but he sais he was a virgin when he married me and he doesnt want to waste his life with me.

2007-11-02 02:51:49 · 31 answers · asked by Lady D 1

IM 28 AND HES 28 AND WE HAVE A 2 YEAR OLD CHILD TOGETHER ........ WE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 4 YEARS AND NEVER ONCE HAS HE GAVE ME A PROMISE RING OR TOLD ANYBODY WE ARE INGADGED ...... IM A GOOD WOMAN TO HIM AND NEVER CHEATED ON HIM AND A GOOD HOUSE WIFE ......... I HAD THIS LITTLE TALK TO HIM TOO BUT HE STILL HADNT ASK ME TO MARRY HIM ........ IF YOU WERE ME WHAT WOULD YOU DO ???

2007-11-02 02:20:26 · 12 answers · asked by LOULOU 3

I'm in a bad situation. I broke up with my fiance. We had many problems, money, child raising, etc. We were already having major money problems when I left. He was the biggest reason for these problems. Anyway, I got saddled with a lot of bills he caused.

Well, my sister took this time to turn her back on me and I have no other family in this state or even on this coast. I was hurting really badly and had no place to stay and no money because I'm paying everything I can to catch up on bills and I asked to stay at her place for 2 days and she said no and started berating me and saying how it was all my fault and she didn't care. Did I mention I have a 2 year old?

So, now I've been struggling for a few weeks on my own and I just can't catch up and without my sisters support I'm screwed. But, I won't beg. He wants to get back together and I know he is bad for me, but I just have no money and don't know what to do? I feel like I have to be with him right now.

2007-11-02 02:15:45 · 22 answers · asked by Highly Evolved 3

My husband dragged a mattress out to the front yard the other day with a blanket and pillow. We layed there and looked up at the stars and talked and cuddled for about an hour. I seen my first shooting star ever. It was sooo nice. Our neighbors probably thought we were crazy but I don't care. It's not like the mattress stayed there, we took it back inside when we were done. To me that was more romantic than if he had bought me something, because it came from his heart.

2007-11-02 02:11:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Rollercoaster "I love you Bye"(Yesterday)
Today..just bye

2007-11-02 02:07:57 · 14 answers · asked by football2002 3

I can’t talk to my husband about anything unless it’s convenient for him. No matter how nice I try to approach him, it’s never a good time. He’s either watching the football game, playing the Playstation, on the computer or getting ready to do something else. When I tell him we have to pay a bill by a certain date he’ll hold his head down, roll his eyes, sigh and say “We’re never gonna have any money”. Either that or he’ll lightly throw whatever is in reach (he’s recently started doing that). I guess that’s supposed to scare me or something. Then when I try to talk to him he won’t respond. He’ll sit there like I’m not saying a word. I end up leaving the room in tears because he won’t talk to me. All he thinks about is playing (literally playing with me like a kid), joking around and going out for a night on the town to have fun.

2007-11-02 02:07:21 · 19 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

I live in Florida but I am getting married in San Franciso, California. Do I need to get my marriage license in California?

2007-11-02 01:58:09 · 5 answers · asked by Jenn 2

she married at 18. He was 24.
she does his laundry. irons his clothes. sets his bath water for him and cleans it when he is finshed. She works two jobs to help suppor the two children. He works partime and visits his friends
When he wants her to entertain him she drops everything and does whatever he wants.
He says shes a real woman/
She gives him all of her paycheck to do as he pleases. Often she borrows to keep the bills paid and to keep up the car she bought him.
She drives the car whenever he thinks she should. She says she loves him
He never responds but demands entertsainment instantly
Finally, when he feels lonely he asks her to invite her female adult cousins to chat.
They both are americans and for generations their parents and foreparents have been Americans
I tell her she is not in a marriage. She says she loves him and to mind my business. I dont say anything anymore.. What do you think? oh, He convinced her that all relationships are like this married 12 years

2007-11-02 01:50:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

(ex- wives, ex-husbands, ex-girlfriends or ex-boyfriends)

2007-11-02 01:44:14 · 10 answers · asked by Fancy You 6

Hey All,

I Had a conversation with my wife about metting a Co-Worker after Work for a Drink at a local Restaurant/Bar. She works 4pm till Midnight so I assumed she would come home around 1:30-2am because that is when it closed down. I was fine with this because i met the guy and he seamed cool. Well the night of she in at 4am and told me she lost track of time and it was a mistake. 4 days later i found out through her because we got into an argument about something that she mutually went back to his house because he was still upset about breaking up with his girlfriend now she swears "nothing happened" and she has never given me a dilema like this before.....So my ? is How do you find out and believe the truth and move past it? and She still wants to go out to the bar with these guys after work but we made a small schedule such as she will have one drink and come home or will call if she is running behind stuff like that .....Does it work? Any Real Advice is appreciated

TY Hall

2007-11-02 01:40:40 · 27 answers · asked by Hall0418 2

If it's a bad thing .. how to avoid it ??

2007-11-02 01:37:31 · 9 answers · asked by Maria 6

i have been married 18 yrs. 3yrs ago i caught my husband talking about sex online esp about BDSM. I was disturbed by this. Finally I spoke to my husband last night that I wanted out of this marriage it is not making me happy. It not just the sex, it him watching sports all day or playing tennis all day. She said we have known each other for so long that passion dies, maybe it does die but don't you usually desire each other or give hugs to each other? Even after our little talk last night he still put on the tv today during the meals and is out playing tennis? What is wrong? Any one who is married do you still feel passion for each other, I want to be married to someone who is my best friend I don't think passion dies even if you have known someone for a long time. In need of some help.

2007-11-02 01:22:51 · 12 answers · asked by tp 1

my wife has been separated from me for 5 months now. we split up because she out of the blue after 7 months of marriage told me that i was "not in her heart anymore", she "couldn't be intimate with me anymore", that "she didn't know if she wanted to be married to me anymore". long story short i tried to work it out, she didn't want to. I even tried for 3 months after the separation, she did not want to. NOW the last month she wants to, is no longer mean and nasty to me or telling me she wants a divorce like she told me all summer. I broke all contact with her 6 weeks ago then a week after I was done, now she wants to get back with me. WHY and what gives?

2007-11-02 00:52:06 · 20 answers · asked by amayseng 3

2007-11-02 00:22:28 · 31 answers · asked by jk 1

my husband ,has been married before ,,i have never met ex ,, but the thing is we moved into a new house about 14 months ago ,but just recently he started to put the things they had together around the house (clocks,painting,pictures, egt egt ) ,,as im house mum,i cant pay anything towords the mortgage ,,so when said to him about this problem last night ,he said he aint ever going to get rid of there things ,,and also said all my stuff can stay in the shed ,,coz its his house . i feel like wants to be reminded of her ,and as she left him ,i feel he wants it to be like there house .. i feel like leaving him over this ,as i dont want to be with someone who puts his past before his future ,,,,,what should i do as he doesnt care how i feel ???

2007-11-02 00:05:31 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous