Marriage & Divorce - 2 November 2007

What is something that your spouse does not know about you? And would be surprised to find out?

2007-11-02 07:00:33 · 19 answers · asked by lhallums82 4

My ex & I don't have a custody order for our 2 kids, he just went & filed court papers to get it set in stone. He's requesting 50/50 everything because he refuses to help me financially w/ the kids. He lives at home w/ his parents (29 yrs.old) & they support him financially. His parents even gave him the 300 to file the court papers. He told me that if I want him to help me, that I need to give him a list of what all my bills are and where extactly all my money is going, I have an apt. for the kids so I carry all household bills & things they need. He also said that he doesn't want to hear that I'm going out w/ my friends, if I'm bearly making it, I should stay home but my friends no I'm tight & they invite me,He said I need to prove to him that I need help in order for him to want to help me, I think he's still trying to control me & doesn't want me out so that I don't possibly meet someone else. I think he's still jealous & I shouldn't have to prove all that to him right?

2007-11-02 06:56:02 · 7 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2

I have been married for 5 years & 2days & we arent as compatable as we use to be we fight all the time should we devorse i cant stand her every thing i do is wrong i need help what should i do

2007-11-02 06:42:50 · 10 answers · asked by alexonmaui2 3

the kids have left home, and you look at your spouse and think...who was I 25 years ago? what was I planning to do with my life, im too young to put on slippers and sit and watch TV but I owe this person too much to just walk out and start again. The marriage has been good, but we are both a little jaded and tired of each other. Any thoughts...

2007-11-02 06:34:35 · 25 answers · asked by Ernie77 2

I'm the sole breadwinner in the household, and my wife insists on spending every single penny I bring in. If it looks like we might have anything left over after necessities, we suddenly "need" to get something else, according to her. If I make a sound about the spending, I'm a villain. Why does she do this? It's not as if she spends her days in housework. I'm supposed to do that, as well, but I admit to not doing it. I put in 10-12 hour days at work and still we can't make ends meet. There is always something more that just "must" be bought. She will not get a job. We have a child and she refuses to put him into daycare.

Why does she do these things? How do I understand it so I can live with it?

2007-11-02 06:31:02 · 19 answers · asked by Yarpzargle 1

2007-11-02 06:30:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My on and off bf of a little over a year asked me to marry him 4 weeks ago.I said that we should talk this over more be (unoffically engaged) and see how its goes he agreed to this Last week we ent into NYC to visit some of his extended family for his grandfathers B-day party.Everything was fine they were all really nice to me .Then after we went out to a pub with his family my bf started acting very moody as usual with alcohol.We left to go to the trainstation directly but got lost .We got into a fight because i said we should ask someone for directions.He realized that he forgot his cell and wallet.So he told me to cut through central park or a park i'm not sure? and wait at the trainstation for him while he went back to get his stuff.I got even more lost because that was the wrong way i called his cell but it was off so i left a message.I had no cash on me except 10 dollars and no credit card.I got scared because 3 black guys looked like they were following me through the park..

2007-11-02 06:29:02 · 10 answers · asked by Lidya Y 1

I'm aware of a situation that I don't understand and would like some input. I've seen other similar articles recently, but not quite like this.

I know a young girl (24) who had a 2 year relationship with a married guy 34 years older than her. When he wouldn't leave his wife for her, she dumped him and picked up with a divorced guy 30 years older than her who she had known for about 6 months. Within 6 weeks of getting serious with this guy, she gets engaged and was married about 9 months later. Since she got engaged and even now, she has continued to call the ex and still expresses strong feelings for him. She may call a couple of times a week to a couple times a day. Should the ex be talking to her? ... no! However, nothing will ever happen again between them. She tells everyone she is madly in love with her new husband, but if so, why call the ex? The husband is rich and treats her well. Is there some other reason she'd be calling that's not obvious?

2007-11-02 06:28:46 · 11 answers · asked by Tiger 1

This girl told me that she gets 5,550.00 in child support and has like 90,000.00 in savings. She is 15 and has a 3 year old girl her ex is 26 and he owns a real estate business due to his dad dying he handed it to him. Could this be true??

2007-11-02 06:26:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-wife and I had an uncontested divorce, and we have mutually agreed that I would pay her child support "under the table" and not through the system. Right now, I make about 47K a year. My ex and her husband combined make about 85K a year, and she had primary custody of my kids. I drive 80 miles one way every weekend and pick my kids up and bring them back to where I live so that I can spend time with them. I am currently paying her $960 per week for 2 kids, and the only reason I can afford this is because I was injured on a job 3 years ago and am receiving a workman's comp. settlement check every week until Dec. of this year. After this year, the child support will be coming from my paycheck. Is there a certain percentage of a paycheck that child support is derived from? Is there a way to figure out exactly how much I should be paying, without hiring a lawyer?

2007-11-02 06:20:00 · 10 answers · asked by goldenbear733 3

i will tell you why because men think with their heads and not with their heart and females always think with their heart

2007-11-02 06:19:09 · 52 answers · asked by ADRIAN H 1

the girl that i was dating, we decided to be friends because she needs to take care of her self emotionally and mentally.
we decided also to keep in contact and continue our normal routine of calling and emailing each other. this is kinda hard n confusing to me as i do want to keep our routine going but its doesnt feel the same cuz i dont have the intentions anymore
we decided this on tuesday, she email me a nice ecard the following day wishin me a nice halloween, i responded and that was it, then the following day she email me asking me how was my halloween i respond that it was a blast she responded with a simple that s great. i dont want to look bitter at all which im not but i do not have motivation to contact her on the regular now but i dont want her to think i m mad at her or lose our friendship
what do u suggest i should do>? and how to approach this situation
thanks

2007-11-02 06:04:36 · 12 answers · asked by simple J 4

also i don't want to process any paper in case she have done it. their have to be a way to find out if i'm divorce or not can you help me please?

2007-11-02 05:58:07 · 12 answers · asked by Ed 1

2007-11-02 05:57:58 · 21 answers · asked by viazanetti4 1

I am three months into a divorce from my wife of 20 years. I have an 11 yr old girl and a 4 yr old boy.

How long should I wait before telling my children that I am reentering the dating scene? I initiated the divorce and my children know that...and I am no longer in the house, but see my kids a couple of times every week, and all weekend every other weekend, until I have more permanent living arrangements.

Obviously I am not planning on introducing every woman I date to my kids, but I do want them to know I am seeing other women...especially so that we don't accidentally run into each other and surprise them.

2007-11-02 05:55:49 · 18 answers · asked by Gotta Question 2

I am married and have 3 children. My husband has a very serious substance abuse problem and it is affecting our marriage and the lives of our children. Even though I have been with him for 14 years, it has always been a problem, which now is MUCH worse. I tried getting him help and he refused. He told me that "I can't control him or what he does and he is going to continue to get high regardless of what I say". I am not trying to control him at all, I am trying to help him for the sake of our marriage and our children. He is not the same person when he is getting high, he mistreats me and the children. When I gave him an ultimatum and told him its over if he continues, he said "oh well then, I guess it will be over", is this because he wants out of the marriage or is it the drug addiction talking?? Please help.......

2007-11-02 05:55:23 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have known several people who are only attracted to people who already have someone. I used to have a best friend who only dated married women, and showed no intrest in several hotties untill after they got attached. Then he couldn't resist them.
What drives a person like that?

2007-11-02 05:54:54 · 12 answers · asked by Duck in the woods 4

Whenever a question of spending money comes up, my wife asks for my input. Then, if I show reluctance to spend, she gets angry and recites a long litany of whatever wrongs I may have done or seemed to have done. She is always sure to bring up any spending I might have done on myself and always at least doubles the amount I actually spent when talking about it. If I provide proof that she is inaccurate, she gets even angrier at me. We are always short of money--ALWAYS short of money, and it's always my fault, according to her. Not because I spend but because I never make enough money--she can buy a chinchilla because she "needs" it. It wasn't my decision to have my overtime hours reduced, but it's my fault, and she resented me not being at home when working the overtime. She complains to me at how the house is a mess but refuses to do any housework, herself, because I'm supposed to be "equal" to her in housework as well as working overtime. Is she insane?

2007-11-02 05:49:25 · 26 answers · asked by Yarpzargle 1

regardless of their decisions and how accomplished they are

2007-11-02 05:45:03 · 12 answers · asked by pensive 1

2007-11-02 05:43:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-02 05:42:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

21, and he is 25 so I am constantly borrowing money for my personal bills like loans phone bills, and so on, because he refuses to touch his savings?

2007-11-02 05:33:25 · 50 answers · asked by danielle n 2

What do you do when you have one of those days where your just down? Today I am very depressed and I am trying to find a way to get through the day. I guess I am just really missing my husband and I am trying to be strong for him. But I am so emotionally drained. I normally vent to my family but I don't have a way to talk to them right now. So for those who have gone through this what is it that you do when you have those days?

2007-11-02 05:15:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't know why I am so frustrated, maybe PMS. I don't know. I'm at work and my boyfriend is sitting right next to me and is driving me crazy. I don't know why but he just seems very shady today. Getting calls, texts, emails...all of this and I don't know what's going on over there. Now he says that he doesn't want to go to lunch from me so he can catch up on work but will go to lunch when I come back. I know he isn't cheating on me but I just woud like to know what is going on. He just seems crazy today or maybe it is me imagining things. I just need to calm down. Can anyone help me calm down???

2007-11-02 05:11:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just wondering...........im in my 20's (f) and I have a boyfriend who is so cool and helps me clean all the time. He even aims right into the toilet bowl not peing all over the place like most grose males.........[yuck!] And he is the main..er.....only cook around here! Its just us..........we've been together for 4 years. I think I just got REALLY lucky.......! People whats your experience? [cleaning/bringing in the money/etc]

2007-11-02 05:05:20 · 21 answers · asked by ★ Vaginal Discount ★ 4

Although they have kids, do they really need to keep a constant line of communication open? IE: There is a visitation schedule set. When my husband has talked to his ex-wife in the past she has always belittled me in front of the kids. Which sends the signal to them that it is okay to not respect me. I asked my husband to stop talking with her & only talk to his kids, if he has questions to contact those who are handling the problems; Teachers, Coaches, Doctors, etc. and for the past three years this is how it has been. I found blogs his daughter posted about me, that hurt very much. Immaturely I reacted by posting a story that resembled my stepdaughters actions. It was from the Sisters Grimmer. It was a gruesome twist on the old fairy tale called "Snow White". Now the ex-wife is demanding that they talk regularly, or there will be not more visits. I have heard the kids to say their mother is being stupid, and they want to stay with us. Personally I don't want them talking at all.

2007-11-02 04:51:30 · 16 answers · asked by November Hale 2

2007-11-02 04:46:14 · 36 answers · asked by Sesoid 4

I got married some months ago while i was in love with somebody else I really don't know how it happened. As long as my husband deeply fell in luv for me -still-, he put me in pressure not to postpone our marriage because i was asking him to gimme more time to see wut i wanted to do.I knew that i couldn't marry my beloved one for he didn't want me and on the other hand my husband could gimme the luv i was looking for -in someone else-.
I got married and tried to work on my marriage I know that it takes time for me to feel luv for him but he always expects romantic words from me He doesn't gimme time. I can't pretend luv while i'm not in it - It doesn't mean that i don't cherish him at all- .
he is a good person but we have nothing in common He is not my type Differences from sex mood to..
We have nothing to talk about Im such a girl who thinks bout things and likes to discuss them but he isn't like this. I like men who study books, judge movies and..
Wut talent to be proud of??

2007-11-02 04:43:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My newly wed husband, makes pretty good money, but when he gets paid half of his pay goes to child support. He did not tell me that when we got married. I am kinda pissed because he cant hold his side of the finances in our home. Dont get me wrong, child support is important, but so is our household.

2007-11-02 04:40:33 · 31 answers · asked by lagina j 1

2007-11-02 04:39:58 · 14 answers · asked by Moore55 4