My newly wed husband, makes pretty good money, but when he gets paid half of his pay goes to child support. He did not tell me that when we got married. I am kinda pissed because he cant hold his side of the finances in our home. Dont get me wrong, child support is important, but so is our household.
2007-11-02 04:40:33 · 31 answers · asked by lagina j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I knew he paid child support, and I support that 100%, but he went from making 3500,every two weeks to only 1350 every two weeks and pays the same amount of child support with lower pay.
2007-11-03 14:28:26 · update #1
hmmm... it's against the law to take over 50 percent of one's income for child support... if he pays over 50, he needs to get his case, or cases if there are more than 1, get all of them modified! and this is the truth, it can be done... just give him a shove to get it done! you are his wife... =) he should try to take care of you too! =) even if you are behind, it's against the law to take more than 50 percent! now, don't forget to file injured spouse when you file taxes, they can't touch your taxes if he's behind, lol! good luck! =)
2007-11-02 04:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's the culprit. The fact that he lied to you by omission is quite bad.
As you say, he does have to support the children he fathered, and I do appreciate that you expect him to be a supportive husband to you too.
So, well, what you need to do is ask yourself all the questions you should have when you first knew he had children from a previous relationship.
It's a real shame that he didn't allow you to make an informed decision then, as now you will have to.
So, what else might he have lied to you about?
I do appreciate that if you have been working very hard and expected to have material possessions to show for it is totally understandable, but now, the thing is that you are the one who's going to have to make it happen, because obviously it won't happen in a fair way.
So, can you live with that?
You'll have to come second on many occasions, are you prepared to live with that?
You'll have to make more compromises, than you would usually do, if there were not children involved from a previous relationship, so how do you feel about it?
Well, it's totally acceptable to rethink the relationship at this stage, as you won't get what you settled for.
Good luck whatever your decision. xxx
2007-11-02 04:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure what state you live in, but in CA they take 25% of the disposable income. The order can always be modified if he can prove financial hardship. Yes, child support is important but if he's diligent in paying his support every month then there shouldn't be a problem having it adjusted accordingly.
Some TBM's (triflin baby's mamas) think they can latch on to what the new wife brings to the table. Unfortunately for them, that income can't be counted because that isn't YOUR child and you have no responsibility in paying towards their support. Sometimes guys get screwed when it comes to support because they're either uninformed about their rights or they just accept whatever is handed down.
You might have to be the one to look into things (because lawd knows some men just have no clue). The support is based on salary and time spent with the child. If he never gets the child or doesn't have regular visitation, the support will be higher. If you guys all live in the same relative area, and if he hasn't legally established paternity, have him do that first and then set up visitation and have the support order modified.
I'm big on father's rights because not all guys are deadbeats...
2007-11-02 04:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by sxctighteyedtam 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think he's lying if he telling you that half of his check goes toward child support that's not possible, it could be if he had some other children out there that he's not telling you about. My guy makes like almost a hundred thousand dollars a year and believe it or not he only pays 310.00 every pay period so thats 620.00 a month. And thats not even close to being half of his check. So maybe he got some other stuff going on like the irs getting his money or something but its not child support especialy if you are saying he makes good money. And girl why you didn't ask him about his money status before you jumped the broom. Bad credit, irs, and money missing with no explanation is a no no, and marriage would not have been an option until all of that was taking care of.
2007-11-02 04:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by blessed is me 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It's very possible for child support to take more than half your income. Federal law says if you have other children to support the most they can take is 55%, 65% without other children. While paying child support is important, it isn't right to expect someone to not be able to keep a roof over their head because over half their income goes to child support, that in some cases (such as if the child's guardian is getting cash assistance) is not going to the children or their guardian. No custodial guardian pays half of their income solely on the child, why should the other parent? Especially if paying half of your income causes you to be unable to afford a place to live, and therefore unable to spend quality time with your children. I know someone who works two jobs, and has to live in his car because child support takes over half of his income. He can pick up his children for a few hours here and there, but never gets them overnight because he has nowhere for them to be.
2016-10-14 14:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by Johanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, RUN to the nearest court and get that marriage annulled!
Before you even think about sharing a household with someone- You need to consider all things- even the things that " forget" to tell you. So shame on him , for not making this clear before. Money is very important- If he's not handling his end of the bargain now- then 5 years from now. It will be worst.
2007-11-02 05:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I recently married and knew about support being paid for 2 children we put off moving in together as I am disabled and unable to work and couldn't have managed financially. His children are over 19 and so we arranged to marry, after the marriage CSA letters continued to arrive and he said they were statements, I found one and it was claiming for another child I knew nothing about. Since then they have crippled us financially taking my incapacity benefit into account yet allowing nothing for me or my disability . We cant afford to pay the small loan we took for our wedding and setting up the home and I see no alternative to us separating.
2007-11-04 02:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty messed up. That really is one of a woman's greatest needs, having financial security. I bet you probably will want to get out of this and feel taken advantage of.
The only answer is for your husband to work more and get more money, or you will have to work harder, which will probably make you more pissed at him. Let him know either he finds a way to make more money (get a better skill, go to school etc) & you will forgive him at that point, or the marriage is in trouble if nothing changes.
2007-11-02 04:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Josh L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Splitting the household expenses in half should not be necessary in a good marriage. The bills are not half his and half yours, but belong to both of you.
By the same token, his child support bill may be too high for his income. If so, he can request a court date and ask the judge to bring his child support payments in line with his income.
Take care,
Troy
2007-11-02 04:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Before I begin I will state that I am divorced and have full custody of my son but recieve NO child support and am working class, not middle class, but working class. I think the excessive monetary amount of child support pressed upon most divorced fathers is obscene and being a dad, I know for a fact that it doesnt take thousands of dollars a mth to raise a child. I also know that women often use the money for completely none child related things and I dont mean the mortgage but rather personal clothing, drinking, smoking etc etc etc. I think we need REAL child support reform and fathers need to be able to go into a courtroom with a 50/50 chance of getting their kids instead a 1% chance.
For Cooter above me, if he gets a second job, he will have to give even more away
2007-11-02 04:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
there are a lot of things considered to arrive at the amount he has to pay. Now that he is newly married, try to get the amount he pays looked at again and perhaps they will adjust that for his new situation. That is why talking is so important to people before getting married. He may have been motivated into getting married as a means of having more money perhaps.
2007-11-02 04:49:16 · answer #11 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋